it's gotten worse...

Subject: my latest blog...
Body: THIS MESSAGE IS FOR ALAN AND MELISSA:

HONESTLY AND PERSONALLY I CAN WRITE ANYTHING I WANT IN MY BLOGS. I'M WRITING TO EXPRESS HOW I FEEL AND NOBODY CAN CHANGE THAT. IF YOU DON'T LIKE THAT THEN THAT'S NOT MY PROBLEM. HOW DO YOU THINK I FEEL? MAYBE YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT THAT AS WELL. LASTLY;- LEAVE ME ALONE. THAT IS ALL I ASK FOR RIGHT NOW.


i am completely beside myself right now. my FH sent her an email last night and now she has posted this bulletin on myspace to ENSURE that everyone will now see it. please help me...i am going crazy!!! what do i do?

Wow...

I'm actually speechless on this one!

i am really tired of crying about this. my mom is a psych nurse and she says that i should just ignore her b/c when it comes down to it all that matters is what alan and i think ..not anyone else. she also said that it sounds like she is trying to 'hook' me...to get me so upset about this that it will ruin everything...she said she know some patients that do the same thing.

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Posted by KristiAnn923

I don't know enough on what is going on here. But it sounds like a yucky situation. Sorry

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i posted a thread yesterday titled 'OMG I am so embarassed' (or something like that) it explains the whole thing.

i read your other post but i dont think i responded...

she sounds VERY VERY VERY IMMATURE

she must be very jealous, and i can see how it might be upsetting that her younger brother is getting married first - but she needs to get over it and stop being so bitter about it.....its terrible that your FH has such a selfish and immature sister.....hopefully as time goes on things will get better.....

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Posted by Eckymecky

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Posted by KristiAnn923

I don't know enough on what is going on here. But it sounds like a yucky situation. Sorry

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i posted a thread yesterday titled 'OMG I am so embarassed' (or something like that) it explains the whole thing.

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Ok, I'll try and find it.

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

I cant comment b/c i said to ignore her in the first place b/c all she wants is attention... and you gave it to her and fueled her on even more now... So now, i can only say... take my original advice and do excatly what she says in that blog and leave her alone... let her stew in her own negativity and brattiness

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i think that's exactly what i'm going to do...and yesterday i really held back and didn't make contact with her at all...my FH wrote her an email about it though...which i thought was the right thing to do for him (i would have done the same if it was my sister)

Ok I just read the other thread from yesterday. Im so sorry. It's clear that she is hurting but she is acting very immature about this.

Did she every mention anything to you about this, or was the blog the first time you are hearing about this?

Unfortunately, this is how she is, but don't let it ruin your planning or your big day. She will get over it [hopefully sooner rather than later].

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Posted by KristiAnn923

Ok I just read the other thread from yesterday. Im so sorry. It's clear that she is hurting but she is acting very immature about this.

Did she every mention anything to you about this, or was the blog the first time you are hearing about this?

Unfortunately, this is how she is, but don't let it ruin your planning or your big day. She will get over it [hopefully sooner rather than later].

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she has said some really off things in the past that made us think she wasn't supportive and that was why we made the decision together to not include her in the wedding party...you'd have to know his sister to understand...but this makes it pretty clear that any inkling i had that she was jealous or upset about us getting engaged is true.

Crying about it and getting upset is probably exactly what she wants. She's probably enjoying the fact that you're upset about this.

Take your mom's advice....ignore her and let it roll off the best you can.

Remember that living well is the best revenge!!!! Enjoy planning YOUR wedding and focus on YOUR happiness...that will get her even more pissed off than the fact that her brother is getting married before her. LOL

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Posted by Eckymecky

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Posted by KristiAnn923

Ok I just read the other thread from yesterday. Im so sorry. It's clear that she is hurting but she is acting very immature about this.

Did she every mention anything to you about this, or was the blog the first time you are hearing about this?

Unfortunately, this is how she is, but don't let it ruin your planning or your big day. She will get over it [hopefully sooner rather than later].

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she has said some really off things in the past that made us think she wasn't supportive and that was why we made the decision together to not include her in the wedding party...you'd have to know his sister to understand...but this makes it pretty clear that any inkling i had that she was jealous or upset about us getting engaged is true.

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Honestly. she is not the only one out there like this. I have friends that reacted the SAME WAY. Granted they are not family but it still stinks. The best thing to do is just leave her alone, and move right along with all of your plans. You made your choice, and I am sure it was the right choice so just keep your head up. Sorry she is putting you through this.

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Posted by CMS

Crying about it and getting upset is probably exactly what she wants. She's probably enjoying the fact that you're upset about this.

Take your mom's advice....ignore her and let it roll off the best you can.

Remember that living well is the best revenge!!!! Enjoy planning YOUR wedding and focus on YOUR happiness...that will get her even more pissed off than the fact that her brother is getting married before her. LOL

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it just really makes me upset b/c it's not like we've had a vicious relationship...we've had long conversations (mostly about her problems) and i know a lot about what goes on in her head...she isn't well in my opinion. but the fact that i've been there for her and then she turns on us...one day i was and i quote 'the sister she never had' and the next day after our engagement it's ' well i've only met melissa three times so i don't know her that well'....

so you can see the lack of rational thoughts here.

i think that although this hurts now.. i fear the day that someone asks me about it...it's almost like i don't want people to know she feels this way b/c i'm embarassed that someone could infer that me and FH don't belong together.

has anyone ever felt that way?

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Posted by Eckymecky

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Posted by CMS

Crying about it and getting upset is probably exactly what she wants. She's probably enjoying the fact that you're upset about this.

Take your mom's advice....ignore her and let it roll off the best you can.

Remember that living well is the best revenge!!!! Enjoy planning YOUR wedding and focus on YOUR happiness...that will get her even more pissed off than the fact that her brother is getting married before her. LOL

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it just really makes me upset b/c it's not like we've had a vicious relationship...we've had long conversations (mostly about her problems) and i know a lot about what goes on in her head...she isn't well in my opinion. but the fact that i've been there for her and then she turns on us...one day i was and i quote 'the sister she never had' and the next day after our engagement it's ' well i've only met melissa three times so i don't know her that well'....

so you can see the lack of rational thoughts here.

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If it's not too personal, and I'm asking totally seriously, but is she on any type of medication?