my mother wants my reception at 1:30-6:00 and my fmil wants it 8:00-12:30 at night. i dont know what to do, they both have good points to why they want those times, but i am torn and i dont want to hurt anyones feelings. what do i do????
missmmpr
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What day is your weddng on? In my opinion I would rather a night time wedding
JMO but the early reception leaves the question 'so what do we do now?' you and your bridal party will want to do something else and so will your families. My cousin did this and we all were searching afterwards to find something to do.
september2004
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what do YOU and FH want?
i decided on the following timeline:
saturday 2:00 church 4:00- 9:00 reception
i did this because: 1. we have a lot of OOT guests 2. not too early to get up and get to long island for the locals in the tri-state area 3. not too late for the locals in the tri-state area to get home and into bed by 12:00 am
ETA: those who want to continue the party will do so with us at the hotel...
MrsBrad
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Here is how we decided ....
We wanted to enjoy our wedding night, have time together afterward to re-connect from all the craziness and enjoy each other. If our wedding was at night, we would have been running around all day and wouldnt get back til 1am then we would have been exhuasted. Plus, if we go to our HM the next day - we would prolly need to get up early.
Day is cheaper and you have the night to hang with your hubby and maybe see your friends in a more private setting or just have a fun, quiet evening togther. But you have to wake up really early!
Either way you will be exhausted, either way it will fly by .... Good luck!
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As a guest I prefer nights, the last two day weddings we went too killed us, We didnt even want to go, had no time to do anything before hand etc...and ended up partying afterwards, As a bride, I agree with the reasons you gave for a day wedding so I guess thats my opinion, and what ever makes YOU the most happy is whats important!
MrsTC
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I had a daytime wedding and looking back, i wish i had an evening wedding.
KathleenG
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I also say to do whatever YOU are most comfortable and happy with!! If I had to pick, however, I would choose evening!!! In the end, it is all up to your preference and what works for you!!
Lorena
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what are their reasons?
cluelessbride
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As others have said, you shold really think about what YOU want (and your FH of course
I am having a day wedding because I want people to see the LI Sound at Danford's, and we are having a more informal wedding than most (a 'cocktail reception')
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my moms reasons for wanting daytime is it ends at 12:30, and i'm going to have little kids at the wedding and there going to be overtired and i'm also going to have to worry about the oot guests driving home at 12:30 at night.
fmil reasons for wanting evening is, i'm going to be rushing in the morning to get ready, people from oot are going to have to leave very early in the morning to make the 11:00 ceremony.
i honestly dont know what to do, because i can see both their points, i wish the watermill had something in between, like 5-10 or something.
sweetadeline
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You should go with whichever time you prefer. I understand your dilemma!
FrescaBride
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I think you should go with what feels right for you and your FH. It is good to take other's opinions but ultimately the one that has to be happy, it is you and him. It is Your Wedding !! I prefer a nighttime wedding because it is too early for me to have a daytime wedding and be running around. Daytime weddings are cheaper but it really all comes down to you and him. I think sometimes we can get so carried away about what others think and what the guests want but in the big picture we get forget 'what we want and prefer'. So take that into consideration and then decide! Your guests that are attending will be there to celebrate with you regardless of the time you choose. Good Luck in deciding what to do !!
futuremrspfm
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It is your wedding! Do it when YOU want.
steph4777
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Posted by futuremrspfm
It is your wedding! Do it when YOU want.
I agree!
JimmysBride
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What?! I don't really get your Mom's reasons for wanting it earlier. The kids will overtired ??? How is that your problem? Well, unless they are your kids... Guests driving home late? Are they adults and haven't they possibily driven home late before??? At least your FMILs concerns are about YOU.
Anyway, I agree with everyone else -- do what YOU want -- it's YOUR day. One question though -- who's paying?? Because generally speaking an afternoon reception is less expensive than an evening one....if you are paying do whatever makes YOU happiest. If you aren't paying... well, then you kind of have to consider someone else's wallet.
Summer Bride
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I prefer evening weddings, but the daytime ones are much less expensive. I think the choice should be up to you and your fiance. Do what makes you happy.
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we're having a daytime wedding - for a couple of reasons - we have alot of kids comming to thw wedding - ( cant see keeping kids up till 2 am ) secondly we have to leave early sunday for our honeymoon and dont want to be exhausted - and third our hall told us if we had the day slot we could get in extra early to set stuff up ( being we are doing this huge theme thing it just made more sense to have the extra time to set things up) if we took the night slot we could only get in 1/2 hour earlier to set up ... just made more sense for us.
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go with what you like...... this is your wedding and i think your guest can accomodate you for one day.....
my preferance is night weddings(on saturdays) because for any OOT guests i feel it would be better for them to drive over the morning of, then go to the reception sleep over and drive home on sunday...
jen110704
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You need to do what makes you happy. It's your wedding and people should be able to accomodate you for one day. I had the same worries, having a Sunday night wedding. This is what FH & I wanted.
