ive been crying for like the past half hour

i have to delete this cause fh's family might check this site .. dont wanna start even more problems

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thank you for unloading, it makes me feel better to know that i am not the only one out there with an awful fmil.

cheer up and be thank ful she is not your mother..

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Maybe it is time to find another place on your own. Sometimes it's better in a smaller/not quite as nice place than leaving in such misery.

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I am so sorry she is doing this to you and I pray that you and FH get out of the house very soon!!!

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Posted by angnick

thank you for unloading, it makes me feel better to know that i am not the only one out there with an awful fmil.

cheer up and be thank ful she is not your mother..

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I WAS THINKING THE SAME EXACT THING!!!!!!

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I agree, its time to move out of there, no matter what the place you move into is like.

What are people complaining about on the registry exactly? And also, your wedding is a year away why are they looking at your registry now?

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the thing is fh doesnt think theres anything wrong with her. he thinks she just says things the wrong way and that shes not nasty. but he sees that me and her bicker all of the time. im rude to her cause shes rude to me. im such a nice person so its not that im being rude first.

she babies her kids so they keep coming back to her. its pathetic. his younger brother is a dumb alcholic and he'll pass out on the train from work and will miss his stop and will get her to pick him up. even if its far. my mom would've said get a taxi or find another way home. thats the way parents should be. especially if hes a mess up like that! god i just cant.

and we're definetely gonna be looking for something. we were going to move to florida within the next few months but we're not sure anymore, we both just want out

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they're looking at it cause our engagement party is this weekend and i guess they're buying stuff. they're complaining that i have board games on my registries. WHO CARES? FH and i play board games alot. its a better wishing well gift to me or a small gift. ughh

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Try not to let your FMIL upset you. I have spent the last 3 years letting my FMIL act like I am not good enough to be in her family or marry her son. I am finally realizing that her opinion menas nothing because the way she acts and things she has said in the past are inappropriate. It's not worth my time or feelings.

You just officially got engaged. This should be the happiest time of your life. It's hard to let things slide off your chest like it doesn't bother you. But you might have to. Your FH has to tell his mom to respect you.

Tattoos are beautiful and they help create who you are show'm off proudly... I do!

Feel better!!

Oh yeah... I had board games on my registery too!

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I may be blunt but it's time for FH to grow up and cut the ombilical cord.

You will have road blocks all along if he cannot move out of his mom's house.

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Posted by XFINALLYX

they're looking at it cause our engagement party is this weekend and i guess they're buying stuff. they're complaining that i have board games on my registries. WHO CARES? FH and i play board games alot. its a better wishing well gift to me or a small gift. ughh

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1. What a BEOTCH!!
2. I looveeee the board games idea!! ALOT!! What a cute thing to put on a registry.
3. She needs a good slappin'

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is your FH a mama'a boy?

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Posted by XFINALLYX

they're looking at it cause our engagement party is this weekend and i guess they're buying stuff. they're complaining that i have board games on my registries. WHO CARES? FH and i play board games alot. its a better wishing well gift to me or a small gift. ughh

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Ohhh I see! Anyway, tell them to get a life. If they don't like the board games, then they don't have to buy them! Its as simple as that. People are so stupid sometimes.
Personally, I think the board games are a good idea. Maybe if I put something like that on our registry we wouldn't have so many tongs and measuring spoons!

Sit down with FH and tell him the FMIL is really hurting your feelings, and although maybe she doesn't mean to be nasty, its the way she is coming across. If he is as close to her as you say, you are going to have to go the 'nice girl' route because if you lash out at her with him and call her a raging b#tch (even though she might be) he is going to jump to her defence. To go at it a different way might get you the results you want. I am also sure once you move out of her house, things will get better.

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So sorry you have to go through this... my mil has something negative to say about everything. The best thing you can do is to ignore her.... it's hard sometimes... don't let her get to you, she's probably bitter that you're taking her baby boy away.

Just concentrate on your future with your fh.. when you guys move out...

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see the thing is, she has a hold on all of the boys, BUT.. to me she doesnt treat FH like she treats the others. its like she loves them and is more proud of them than she is with FH. one of his brothers works for morgan stanley and is doing well (although he still lives home) and the other is married has a baby (i love this family though) and works on wall street. fh owns a recording studio, has some tattoos, has a degree to be a teacher but isnt gonna be a teacher. works at guitar center as a manager. and is thinking about being a cop. i guess thats not successful enough for her. it makes me sick how her and her husband baby the other 2 and dont really do that to FH. FH says he'll defend me but never does. it really bothers me. he's like scared to speak up to her. he knows how much it hurts me and stuff, but i dunno. he's just scared. its really sad to be honest (haha) i just cant do this anymore. i really dont want anything to do with her.

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Registry items are often items that help you to entertain guests at home. Games fit right in to that. I love the idea. I registered for Winnie The Pooh Cereal bowls and mugs because I love Pooh. I was not trying to pick all the right brands and impress everyone! Your FMIL is too insecure to tell her friends and family, 'yah, that is what she picked. She likes it.'

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Posted by angnick

thank you for unloading, it makes me feel better to know that i am not the only one out there with an awful fmil.

cheer up and be thank ful she is not your mother..

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You girls are not alone! I have my own fmil problems too! I agree with angnick - we can only be grateful that they weren't our mothers!

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Posted by melissa&carmine

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Posted by angnick

thank you for unloading, it makes me feel better to know that i am not the only one out there with an awful fmil.

cheer up and be thank ful she is not your mother..

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You girls are not alone! I have my own fmil problems too! I agree with angnick - we can only be grateful that they weren't our mothers!

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You guys need to stick together on this. Your FH says he will stick up for you but truth is, he is scared. He needs your emotional support and you need to basically teach him how to stand up to his mother in a logical, non argumentative way. I'm sure he has acted like this since he was a child so it is definetely an adjustment for him. If you constantly battle against his mom, he will begin to resent and eventually become afraid of to talk to you about his mother. I'm sure he wants to stick up for you but has been trained not to. Be there for him and talk to him calmly on how you can help him be there & discuss stratagies. He is torn inside and arguing is not the way to solve it...

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your not supposed to put towels on your registry until 3 months before! add some sex toys on it, that'll really make her flip!