just found out when my shower is. UPDATED w her RESPONSE...

i was SO excited about it being a surprise. i just got an email from a friend asking me if i wanted to go out for my bday the night of my shower since my shower is the saturday after my bday. and then in parenthesis she gave me kind of a whoops...i hope your shower isn't a surprise 'lol' and if it is oh well pretend i didn't tell you.

i never had a surprise party before and i was really excited that this was going to be one. and i'm hurt that she's so whatever about the whole thing. i don't know why she would do that to me. i just hope none of the girls in my BP finds out i know since they've been working so hard to keep it a secret...maybe she told me b/c she's mad she's not in the BP. whatever the reason, i'm so angry right now.

ETA:

this is what she wrote...sorry but i'm getting more mad b/c she obviously knew she shouldn't tell me...so why the F did she?!?!

'your bday is that week and then your bridal shower (i really hope you know about it, i hope its not a surprise lol and if it is, pretend like i never said anything) anyways, then i know your bridal shower is the weekend after your bday....so i dont know when you wanna go out, lemme know =)'

*****UPDATE...so last night i left her a VM and this morning she wrote me a text telling me she feels stupid now and will NOT BE COMING TO MY SHOWER!!!! but it wasn't an apology, it was more like she was mad that i was upset! threatening not to come now?? i would NEVER do that to her!!

oh well, i'm just gonna forget it now and hope she comes. and if she doesn't there is nothing i can do about it i guess.

at least i can be excited...my shower is in less than 2 weeks!!! yay!!

Yeah maybe she is trying to throw you off!

Because why would your friend continue typing the e-mail out if it occurred to her it might be a surprise??

What a freakin idiot! Why are people so dumb? WHY WHY WHY?

Did you write her back?

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Posted by DD628

maybe she is throwing you off....hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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That's what I was thinking. I hope that's the case!
If not I know it stinks to have the surprised ruined BUT you will have an amazing time no matter what.

i wish that was the case. but FH saw how upset i was and he wouldn't stop asking what was wrong so i told him and he FLIPPED out and was really angry b/c everyone is trying to make it such a surprise. he's definitely not just trying to throw me off.

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Posted by JeanetteandSteve

i wish that was the case. but FH saw how upset i was and he wouldn't stop asking what was wrong so i told him and he FLIPPED out and was really angry b/c everyone is trying to make it such a surprise. he's definitely not just trying to throw me off.

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I'd be furious too! I would call her butt right now and let her know how much of a tool she is!!! She blatantly disregarded your feelings! A lot of people even yourself put in a lot of hard work to make it a surprise and she just flushed it all down the toilet.

LOL maybe you can blow up her spot at the shower by making a very special toast to her and recant on how you found out!

That just s*cks that someone would do that to you! I'd respond and say 'thanks a lot for ruining the surprise' And it's not like it was even an accident, you know that because she even mentioned 'I hope it's not a surprise'... that's horrible

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Posted by Ayne11

LOL maybe you can blow up her spot at the shower by making a very special toast to her!

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thanks for cheering me up.

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Posted by JeanetteandSteve

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Posted by Ayne11

LOL maybe you can blow up her spot at the shower by making a very special toast to her!

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thanks for cheering me up.

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LOL no problem!

i'm getting madder by the second. i added what she actually wrote to my original post. she obviously knew she shouldn't tell me. ughhhhhhhhhhhh!

i know i'm not the first girl on here this has happened to and it's not the end of the world, but i feel like she did this on purpose so i'm really MAAAAAAD!

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Posted by JeanetteandSteve

i wish that was the case. but FH saw how upset i was and he wouldn't stop asking what was wrong so i told him and he FLIPPED out and was really angry b/c everyone is trying to make it such a surprise. he's definitely not just trying to throw me off.

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what a B*TCH, i know somebody else who did this. She told the girl, oh i cant make it to your shower on so and so date and the girl turned around in shock and so upset and said 'ITS A SURPRISE WHY DID YOU TELL ME, I DIDNT WANT TO KNOW' and the girl didnt even care she turned around and said 'oh well'

that is really messed up and especially since it was done through email and could've just deleted the part about your shower, not like she slipped in person.

So sorry, you should let FH flip out on her

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Posted by Espo22

what a B*TCH, i know somebody else who did this. She told the girl, oh i cant make it to your shower on so and so date and the girl turned around in shock and so upset and said 'ITS A SURPRISE WHY DID YOU TELL ME, I DIDNT WANT TO KNOW' and the girl didnt even care she turned around and said 'oh well'

that is really messed up and especially since it was done through email and could've just deleted the part about your shower, not like she slipped in person.

So sorry, you should let FH flip out on her

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thanks...well i left her a VM and i was gonna yell at her but i just started crying on her VM...i was gonna delete it bc i felt stupid but i figured at least she'll know she really hurt my feelings so i just sent it. i feel like i'm overreacting a little b/c these things happen, but i can't help feel like she did it on purpose.

thats really annoying !!!! people are so dumb ... she should have been a lil more apologetic.

my uncle did something similar to me he called and left a message that said oh your mom asked me to make direction cards for ' ' I WAS TOTALLY PISSED , especially cause I called him after and he was laughing about it ...

I have never had a surprise anyhting ... my FH says Im way to hard to surprise ... oh well.

aw i'm sorry seriously though, some people have no clue. they either don't know it's supposed to be a surprise, or just don't see the point in it being a surprise.

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Posted by MN06

thats really annoying !!!! people are so dumb ... she should have been a lil more apologetic.

my uncle did something similar to me he called and left a message that said oh your mom asked me to make direction cards for ' ' I WAS TOTALLY PISSED , especially cause I called him after and he was laughing about it ...

I have never had a surprise anyhting ... my FH says Im way to hard to surprise ... oh well.

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isn't the laughing part the worst of it? like how my friend added the 'lol'...it's like they don't get that it's not funny, and this is a big deal for us. i've never had a surprise anything either, so i know how you feel. it stinks!

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Posted by JeanetteandSteve

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Posted by Espo22

what a B*TCH, i know somebody else who did this. She told the girl, oh i cant make it to your shower on so and so date and the girl turned around in shock and so upset and said 'ITS A SURPRISE WHY DID YOU TELL ME, I DIDNT WANT TO KNOW' and the girl didnt even care she turned around and said 'oh well'

that is really messed up and especially since it was done through email and could've just deleted the part about your shower, not like she slipped in person.

So sorry, you should let FH flip out on her

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thanks...well i left her a VM and i was gonna yell at her but i just started crying on her VM...i was gonna delete it bc i felt stupid but i figured at least she'll know she really hurt my feelings so i just sent it. i feel like i'm overreacting a little b/c these things happen, but i can't help feel like she did it on purpose.

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1. you did the right thing in leaving the Vm like you did.

2. She totally did this on purpose, and you're NOT overreacting. Yeah these things happen but a shower is a surprise, it's kind of a known aspect.

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Posted by JeanetteandSteve

i was SO excited about it being a surprise. i just got an email from a friend asking me if i wanted to go out for my bday the night of my shower since my shower is the saturday after my bday. and then in parenthesis she gave me kind of a whoops...i hope your shower isn't a surprise 'lol' and if it is oh well pretend i didn't tell you.

i never had a surprise party before and i was really excited that this was going to be one. and i'm hurt that she's so whatever about the whole thing. i don't know why she would do that to me. i just hope none of the girls in my BP finds out i know since they've been working so hard to keep it a secret...maybe she told me b/c she's mad she's not in the BP. whatever the reason, i'm so angry right now.

ETA:

this is what she wrote...sorry but i'm getting more mad b/c she obviously knew she shouldn't tell me...so why the F did she?!?!

'your bday is that week and then your bridal shower (i really hope you know about it, i hope its not a surprise lol and if it is, pretend like i never said anything) anyways, then i know your bridal shower is the weekend after your bday....so i dont know when you wanna go out, lemme know =)'

honestly...this is supposed to be one of my best friends.

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(i really hope you know about it, i hope its not a surprise lol and if it is, pretend like i never said anything)

WHY WOULD SHE LEAVE THAT IN THERE? it's not like she said this over the phone. The 'backspace' button was invented for a reason!!!