Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! -She FINALLY called. Scroll all the way to the bottom

Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! -She FINALLY called. Scroll all the way to the bottom

What an night I had. I met up with a bunch of friends last night to play Texas Holdem' (its been a weekly thing with us lately.. its a ton of fun) and got into a huge blowout with my MOH over absolutely NOTHING!!! She insisted that I was getting nasty with her the whole night because I kept snapping at her & rolling my eyes at her. Truth is.. she was mad over something else and she was taking her frustrations out on me. (At least this is what I think) This is the only thing I can think of because I know for a fact I did NOTHING to her!!! (My MOH is extremely moody, so Im assuming she was going through one of her mood swings)
Anyway.. it so happens that she gave me & my FI a lift to my friends house so at the end of the night when the game was over, she had to take us home. My Fi & I got in the car & I asked her nicely what I did .. if I said something.. i didn't know!!! I was completely clueless. She then started screaming at me saying that Im playing 'dumb', and that Im infamous for making it as if I dont know whats going on. Anyway.. she ended up sayong a few things to me that pissed me off so in the middle of the street, I jumped out of her car, slammed the door and grabbed my FI (Who was in the back seat). She then sped off..

I still havent got a clue what I did or said to her

Anyway, we went back to my friend Aldo's house who was nice enough to drive us home. Everyone who was with us last night didnt have a clue what went on, and why she was so upset! (so I know for sure I didn't do anything)!!! I had a really hard time trying to sleep last night.. and woke up this morning to a nasty voice mail thanking me for slamming her car door and just putting me down and saying these horrible things!!! (All because she thought I was being nasty with her the whole night!!!)

This is really bothering me. I have no clue what to do.. I didn't do a thing to her. I dont even want to call her or even look at her at this point. Im so mad


Sorry I had to vent!!!!

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I'm sorry for you! Have you heard any updates this morning?

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Oh Janie, I'm so sorry!!!! Sounds like there's def something underlying going on with her!! I'd suggest giving her some time and space to just let things cool off. Maybe you could have a mutual friend talk to her and see if they can get any answers out of her as to why she's so upset. Hope things get better!!

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Janie,

Is she single? Ever thought that maybe she is a little resentlful since your life is falling into place (your getting married etc) and she is still out there??? I had the same thing happen to me with one of my close friends. She kept on getting upset at me as if I did something to her, and it turns out that she started saying resentful things to other friends and only made herself look like a jealous biatch...I stopped talking to her and she ended up coming around, apologizing, etc.

Don't worry girl! Keep your head up! She should have confronted you like an adult and let you know what you have done wrong, but instead she freaked out like a child. Let her calm down and talk to YOU first.

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Let her blow off her steam. Once she contacts you, make sure to emphasize to her that she IS your maid of honor and should be happy for you and not act the way she is acting. I would tell her that if she is not happy for you or has any negative feelings towards you or the fact that you are getting married, that maybe the both of you need to rethink the fact of her being your maid of honor. You need support and happiness around you right now, not negativity! Feel better and dont stress it girl!

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Thank you.. You are so sweet!

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I know exactly how you feel...been there...isn't amazing though that for example I could never ever picture myself acting this way towards my FRIEND, especially if she has made me her maid of honor...people are so strange...

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I'm so sorry you had to go through this... Even if she thought you were playing dumb she should have been an adult and told you what u did wrong...Let her cool down... She'll call you.. I hope things go back to normal.. Good luck!

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OMG, I'm sorry you're going through this right now. I definitely agree she may be feeling ill-will in general because she may be a tad jealous, it's just sad how weddings can bring these things out in people. I agree, let her call you, let her cool off and take it from there.

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That is horrible. i am so sorry that you had to go through this. I agree that maybe she is a little resentful because you are getting married. Being moody is no excuse for treating people horribly. It sounds like she just wanted to start a fight to make herself feel better about whatever is bothering her.

have you heard from her Janie since she left you the nasty voicemail?

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that is so horrible I can't believe that she is actingthis way I mean I have been in many wedding parties and for many of them I was single b ut never in a million years did I give the bride a hard time even though yes at times I was jealous and thoguht my day would never come but never gave the bride a hard time that is just so rude

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Still... 2 days later.. NO CALL.

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Posted by SIBride06

Still... 2 days later.. NO CALL.

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the nerve! Seriously! I wouldn't call her...

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Wow, I can't believe she did'nt call , that's crazy!!!

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I would seriously reconsider her as your MOH

you need someone trustworthy and caring ...not flying off the handle like she did.

What if you 'say something' the night before the wedding??

Jealousy or not...shes not worthy to stand up for you if you cant rely on her


hope you work this all out

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I still dont know what I did to her!!!

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Re: Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! Updated at bottom

Sorry to hear about all this Janie. It seems like she's just taking her own frustrations out on you. I really hope you guys work it out. I'm sure you chose her as your MOH for a good reason.

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