Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! -She FINALLY called. Scroll all the way to the bottom

Original post by SIBride06

Jul 18, 2005 08:03 AM

What an night I had. I met up with a bunch of friends last night to play Texas Holdem' (its been a weekly thing with us lately.. its a ton of fun) and got into a huge blowout with my MOH over absolutely NOTHING!!! She insisted that I was getting nasty with her the whole night because I kept snapping at her & rolling my eyes at her. Truth is.. she was mad over something else and she was taking her frustrations out on me. (At least this is what I think) This is the only thing I can think of because I know for a fact I did NOTHING to her!!! (My MOH is extremely moody, so Im assuming she was going through one of her mood swings)
Anyway.. it so happens that she gave me & my FI a lift to my friends house so at the end of the night when the game was over, she had to take us home. My Fi & I got in the car & I asked her nicely what I did .. if I said something.. i didn't know!!! I was completely clueless. She then started screaming at me saying that Im playing 'dumb', and that Im infamous for making it as if I dont know whats going on. Anyway.. she ended up sayong a few things to me that pissed me off so in the middle of the street, I jumped out of her car, slammed the door and grabbed my FI (Who was in the back seat). She then sped off..

I still havent got a clue what I did or said to her

Anyway, we went back to my friend Aldo's house who was nice enough to drive us home. Everyone who was with us last night didnt have a clue what went on, and why she was so upset! (so I know for sure I didn't do anything)!!! I had a really hard time trying to sleep last night.. and woke up this morning to a nasty voice mail thanking me for slamming her car door and just putting me down and saying these horrible things!!! (All because she thought I was being nasty with her the whole night!!!)

This is really bothering me. I have no clue what to do.. I didn't do a thing to her. I dont even want to call her or even look at her at this point. Im so mad

Sorry I had to vent!!!!

Noiva06 Posted: Jul 20, 2005 05:19 PM

Re: Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! Updated at bottom

As some of the girls here have said, I would definetely reconsider her loyalty to you... If she's jealous now, then how will she act a few days before the wedding or even worse the day of when all attention will be on you? You need someone who will calm you down and put you at ease through your wedding process not add to your stress. Keep us posted on what happens!

SIBride06 Posted: Jul 21, 2005 12:55 PM

Re: Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! Updated at bottom

Girls.. thank you for your support on this. Its Thursday and I still haven't gotten a phone call or an e-mail from her. (Im assuming that shes waiting for me to call) The only thing I am guilty of is slamming her car door shut.. THATS IT! Can you believe this drama that I have to deal with???
Whatever. I lost enough sleep on Sunday night because of this. its not worth getting aggitated over.

She gets mad over a poker game? That is just pathetic.

Jennie0898 Posted: Jul 21, 2005 12:59 PM

Re: Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! Updated at bottom

Posted by SIBride06

Girls.. thank you for your support on this. Its Thursday and I still haven't gotten a phone call or an e-mail from her. (Im assuming that shes waiting for me to call) The only thing I am guilty of is slamming her car door shut.. THATS IT! Can you believe this drama that I have to deal with???
Whatever. I lost enough sleep on Sunday night because of this. its not worth getting aggitated over.

She gets mad over a poker game? That is just pathetic.

Have you considered giving her one last phone call or email asking her to step down?

SIBride06 Posted: Jul 21, 2005 01:04 PM

Re: Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! Updated at bottom

I dont think I have it in me to ask her to step down. There really isnt anyone I would want for a MOH besides her.. She is my best friend. I just want her to blow off whatever steam she has fuming from her and apoligize. I'd like to see how long this takes her. One day she will realize what an a$$ she made out of herself.

mtdr1106 Posted: Jul 21, 2005 05:17 PM

Re: Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! Updated at bottom

Posted by SIBride06

I dont think I have it in me to ask her to step down. There really isnt anyone I would want for a MOH besides her.. She is my best friend. I just want her to blow off whatever steam she has fuming from her and apoligize. I'd like to see how long this takes her. One day she will realize what an a$$ she made out of herself.

it is very hard to reconsider someone - i don't think i could ever ask someone to leave my bridal party either. i do think that oneday she will realize that whatever she is mad about will not get resolved by not speaking to you and call you. i do not think you are wrong for sticking to your decision not to call her - i just hope for your sanity she realizes this soon. i am not even you and i am frustrated that the girl has not called you!!
good luck!!

SIBride06 Posted: Jul 21, 2005 06:54 PM

Re: Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! -She FINALLY called. Scroll all the way to the bottom

Okay so Im on my way back home from work and I my cell phone rings. I thought it was my FI so I almost answered it unil I seen 'Michelle' pop up on my screen.

Here is the exact message she left:

'Hi its me. Its 4 days later and I feel that enough time has gone by so we can both cool down. Im willing to talk about it if you are and Im willing to compromise. I know our arguments can last for months as it has done in the past and we both dont need this with the wedding coming up, so like I said if your willing to talk about it, let me know'

Okay.. so I see shes ready to compromise but Im so mad right now because I did nothing to her to make me want to 'cool down' Shes the one who blew up on me for no apparent reason & threw me out of her car and left me a nasty voicemail!!! Wheewww!!! Shes making it seem as If I did something wrong and I just cant accept the fact that she truly believes this!

What would you do in this situation?? I haven't called her back yet. I feel like writing her an e-mail and just telling her that I have nothing to say to her just to make her really think about what she has done. I dont think she knows what an idiot she looked like that night. Whatever..

Thanks ladies.

mtdr1106 Posted: Jul 21, 2005 08:21 PM

Re: Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! -She FINALLY called. Scroll all the way to the bottom

you have to call her - as annoyed as you are. you were waiting for her to call - and she did. tell her the truth - that you have no idea what she was mad about and that she was the one who needed to cool off. you can also tell her that you have enough stresses with the wedding planning - you don't need to be blindsighted by things with her.

july06bride Posted: Jul 21, 2005 08:36 PM

Re: Just got into a HUGE argument with my MOH!! -She FINALLY called. Scroll all the way to the bottom

Posted by mtdr1106

you have to call her - as annoyed as you are. you were waiting for her to call - and she did. tell her the truth - that you have no idea what she was mad about and that she was the one who needed to cool off. you can also tell her that you have enough stresses with the wedding planning - you don't need to be blindsighted by things with her.

i agree you should call her and let her know you are willing to talk but that you have no clue what you did wrong... good luck