just spoke w/moh -vent

none of the bp girls have any $ to do anything for my bach. party

really?

i mean really girls? you couldnt put some money aside or something for the past 1.5 years?

i got engaged in march 2009...you guys knew you were in my bp by like june 2009....


idk whether to be upset, mad or agree w/them

i'm confused?!?!!

i mean yes i get it, we (women) are a little more cautious w/$$$, we save, we watch our expenses

but really?

what abt the dress
and your hair / makeup

oh and i do hope you guys know you should still bring a gift.....

does that mean they wont have money for these things either?

thats so fkd up


lets go out. fk your bms!

we'll go out

i really want to cry

i'm just confused...idk..

and what abt my bridal shower???

i told her, well i mean you are the one that put the vegas idea in my head ...last summer, so what abt cancun? its like $400 per person...at this point what abt just AC??? ( i love AC, but i'm from jersey i've been to AC like 4539292902 times..i'm kinda sick of it)

so then she said... well we realy dont have any $$$$$, all of us are trying to save and have diff priorities than the guys

Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that your bp is being so cheap

They should have thought about this before agreeing to be in it. You have every right to be upset. I mean I know people have tough financial situations and all, but that's something they should have thought of before. And is it the WHOLE bp that can't afford it? that seems a little suspcious.... maybe they're making it a surprise!

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Posted by whispersamethyst

Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that your bp is being so cheap

They should have thought about this before agreeing to be in it. You have every right to be upset. I mean I know people have tough financial situations and all, but that's something they should have thought of before. And is it the WHOLE bp that can't afford it? that seems a little suspcious.... maybe they're making it a surprise!

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i wish...but seriously doubt it...i know my moh too well...and she was being serious

I am so sorry hun
I hope they come around for you!

I think it's messed up that they can't do ANYTHING!!!

Maybe they can't go away away but I'm sure that they could afford to go out to dinner and a club or something on a smaller scale.

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I think it's messed up that they can't do ANYTHING!!!

Maybe they can't go away away but I'm sure that they could afford to go out to dinner and a club or something on a smaller scale.

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honeslty at this point that's not what even bothers me...what bothers me is the we dont have $$$$ speech i just got...

i'm thinking abt everything else that's involved

dress
hair/makeup
bridal shower
wedding gift?

you know? i havent picked bm dresses yet, but does this mean that i should really have a set budget in mind?

maybe they will be able to afford a night out on the town (not hotel somewhere)?

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I think it's messed up that they can't do ANYTHING!!!

Maybe they can't go away away but I'm sure that they could afford to go out to dinner and a club or something on a smaller scale.

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Agreed. It might be hard financially for them to go away on top of the typical BP expenses and shower expenses, but I'm sure they do go out on occasion for non-bach party reasons, know what I mean?

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I think it's messed up that they can't do ANYTHING!!!

Maybe they can't go away away but I'm sure that they could afford to go out to dinner and a club or something on a smaller scale.

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Agreed. Maybe forget about going away, which can get really expensive when you factor in all the expenses, what about a night out in the city and get a hotel room? Or if you don't want to do AC, you can do Foxwoods or Mohegan?

i'm sorry. i'm going through that to some extent too. some people hate spending money on things other than themselves.

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Posted by latinaj

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I think it's messed up that they can't do ANYTHING!!!

Maybe they can't go away away but I'm sure that they could afford to go out to dinner and a club or something on a smaller scale.

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honeslty at this point that's not what even bothers me...what bothers me is the we dont have $$$$ speech i just got...

i'm thinking abt everything else that's involved

dress
hair/makeup
bridal shower
wedding gift?

you know? i havent picked bm dresses yet, but does this mean that i should really have a set budget in mind?

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you should ask the BMs if they can afford to pay for dress & alterations, hair & makeup, etc ... and if they can't, tell them that you would understand. I know it's your wedding and you want to have your girlfriends be a part of the bridal party, but if they can't afford it, then it'll cause more stress than it's worth.

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Posted by vv117



i'm sorry. i'm going through that to some extent too. some people hate spending money on things other than themselves.

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seriously!!!!!!!

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

you should ask the BMs if they can afford to pay for dress & alterations, hair & makeup, etc ... and if they can't, tell them that you would understand. I know it's your wedding and you want to have your girlfriends be a part of the bridal party, but if they can't afford it, then it'll cause more stress than it's worth.

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OMG if they say no i'm going to lose it...
what if they drop??? and we end up w/ 7 gms and like 2 bms

omg omg omg

Eff that. This pisses me off to no end. I understand the economy is bad, but c'mon. I got engaged in December 2008!!! My MOH still hasn't gotten a dress or anything, told my BMs she couldn't contribute to any of the surprises they planned for me in Vegas after buying herself a sh!tload of brand new clothes for Vegas and now totaled her father's car $6k in damage!!

She was even going to buy a dress in Vegas to wear as her MOH dress that costs almost DOUBLE the price of the dress I originally wanted her to get. I found a dress in Macy's and I'm just going to make her s*ck it up and buy it. It's $109 and I don't want to hear another word about it.

I'm sorry you're going through this, too.

you guys should have a sex toy party?

all they have to do is contact the girl, get some snacks and booze and that's a party in itself.

that *****.. I am on the opposite sid eof that.
Being that i am a BM at a cousins wedding we ended up getting expensive dresses (her choice) no shoes yet. Paying for our own makeup and hair. She is a close cousin so i have to get a good bridal shower and wedding gift. Thank god her mom is paying for the bridal shower, becuase I honestly cannot afford it (HER MOH either) being that im planning my own wedding now. and if she would of mentioned a trip somewhere i would have had to say NO...