Just venting.......

Ugh Im so annoyed and upset. I just had my shower last Saturday which was great. Saw so many old faces that I hadnt seen in a long time, and old family friends that have known me since birth basically! Well, two old family friends (sisters) respond this week with declines!!! Meanwhile, no excuse written - nothing! I went to both of their weddings to top it all off! (okay, granted they were years ago, but still...) And they didn't even say anything about it at the shower...

I call my mom the vent - and even she couldn't justify it. She just kept saying 'i'm so sorry', and then i felt bad for making her feel bad, when it's not her fault at all.

Can any of you tell me if you went thru something like this. It hurts like hell........

We still have so many people left to respond and it scares me because I know statistically the late responders are usually nos and we have so many left to respond and only like 80 yes responses.

Thanks for listening

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I would be upset too, but try not to worry about it too much. Maybe they plan on sending a gift or a card that will explain why they declined, or maybe they are planning on calling you to tell you...

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I know how you feel - I wish people who decline could write something!!! 'Best of luck - wish we could be there' would be nice!!!

I think it is odd that they were at your shower and did not tell you then why they would not be there.

I, too, am waiting for many RSVP's - my deadline is Nov. 15th. I still have 50 people who have yet to reply.

But don't let this drag you down - focus on the fun things this time brings!!! Like the 'Yes' responses!

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Sorry Marni
They really should've personally said something to you - especially if they were close enough to be at your shower.
Some people just don't get it.

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My reply date is Monday and I'm still missing a third of the replies. This is annoying me so much. I've started calling people who I don't know (FI invites) and just asking them to give me a yes or no response on the phone.

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We had a 'high rejection rate' and at first we were really upset and hurt by some of the peopel who declined (including a couple who we were both in their wedding party) but to be quite honest it is also a good time to find out who your really good friends are.
Weddings and deaths really bring out the best and worst in people.

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Thanks ladies...

I was talking to my FH last night and I finally came to the conclusion - I don't care if there are only 50 people there at this point - because those 50 people are the ones we love, the ones who love us, and the ones, 10 years from now who will still bring up memories like 'remember at your wedding when...'

I appreciate the advice and listening to my 'woes'...

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Marnles that is exactly the conclusion that I have come to. If people don't want to show up then I don't want them there because they don't care about us anyway. I have only about 1/2 of the responses back and our deadline is this Thursday!!!! You only want those who care about you there so don't sweat it!!!! hope all else is going well.

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That's right !!!
I agree ! You don't need anyone who's not happy to share your day there.

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Marnles: It hurts when people who have been around almost your whole lives disapoint you! An 'aunt & uncle' (no blood relation) but have known my MOM since birth responded yes, never showed & have not called or sent a card even & 4 months have passed. One of my husbands old friends responded yes & never showed. My oldest friend of 22 years responded no without an explanation, & the same, no call since... the sad thing with her is she has 3 kids & I would have understood no babysitter or something, BUT I did sit for her 3 for her sisters engagement party a few months before... so it happens & you know what, it is not worth stressing over, like you said, the important people will be there!

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My new saying is 'It is not my problem and I am not going to let it become my problem' I have repeated that several times this past weekend!!!

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maybe they have really good reasons and feel really bad about it

dont stress, sorry to hear you are upset, I totally understand.

hope more responses soon
kimberly

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I'm sorry some of the responses are disappointing. I understand it hurts a bit.

But can I tell you, having a reason or excuse only makes it worse. Or least the excuses I got.

You have a good attitude that people that will be there are the ones that love you and will always be a part of your life.