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Well, my FH older bro and his wife are weird people :/
It sucks tht I'm unable to b close or have a relationship with them bc of their attitudes. For ex: they sometimes say hi and sometimes they don't...and sometimes I feel like they do certain things on purpose to get me upset or make me think tht my FH will choose them over me. I mean I have discussed this with my FH and all he tells me is tht to leave them alone bc yeah they are weird but they are good people...(which idk about tht but oh well :/)
Family means a lot to me and getting along with his fam means a lot to me too. So far my fam is great with my FH and they love him...
His parents are in TX and his other siblings as well...his sis is around my age and Shes cool...but idk..his older bro and wife are weird...u know those people tht u don't know or not sure what kinda response u gonna get.
That last thing I want is coming into a fam where there's tension..( I hve talked to his wife about it recently) but she's still weird! (She once called my FMIL telling her tht she's not my friend nor eneies but I just dont say hi to them. (-_-) I honestly felt like she was trying to make me look bad (of course I confronted her). My FH bro just go with the flow with what she does (if she don't talk to me then he won't either and I've noticed tht he's actually really cool when his wife not around) idk..they are weird! Sighhh....SRY ladies for making u read this novel..just needed to get it off my chest! I'm good now:)

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ughhh this stinks!!! I'm marrying into a family that I absolutely hate!!! and that says a lot because i make friends with EVERYONE.... but these people, the words i have for them are just too much... bottom line, i can't stand the family i'm marrying into!!! FH's brother just got married and his new wife cannot stand them either (at least I have an awesome future sister in law lol) but I make the best of it, say hi, talk to them, and am respectful! It definitely sucks but you have to make the best of it!

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Ugh sorry you're going through this! It can be so frustrating. I sorta know how you feel, sometimes when I'm with FH's family I feel like I'm talking to aliens. My family is very loud and welcoming and his family is more quiet and almost 3 years later I still feel like an outsider sometimes. And they do the WEIRDEST things when they do actually talk.

For example: sometimes when we're all together they'll tell me a family story that I don't know that's crazy like someone being arrested or something and when I react like 'OMG that's terrible' they'll all laugh and be like wow Alyssa you're so gullible. UGH! Why make up stories in the first place?! It's bizarre!

Just take the high road, I know it's easier said than done but once I stopped trying to impress everybody it became a lot easier. I wish I had a close relationship with my FSIL (she's only 2 years older) but it just hasn't happened yet. So now I have the mentality of 'we'll I'm awesome so whatev it's her loss '

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Posted by Alyssa M

Just take the high road, I know it's easier said than done but once I stopped trying to impress everybody it became a lot easier. I wish I had a close relationship with my FSIL (she's only 2 years older) but it just hasn't happened yet. So now I have the mentality of 'we'll I'm awesome so whatev it's her loss '

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This! It sucks to have to deal with that. But, definitely just go out of your way to be nice. I know that can be annoying since there's no reciprocation, but at least you won't look like the bad guy

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Kill them with Kindness. It will drive them crazy & then no one can say anything bad about you!~

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That must be so frustrating. I have learned long ago that you can't please everyone and no matter how nice you are or how bad you want a relationship some people just aren't receptive. All you can do it be who you are and hope that they will be respectful to you.

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That's no good ! But I know where you're coming from
Almost 3 years in and I'm still not totally comfortable with all members of FHs family but I've realized it's just because every family is different- different morals or sense or humor and families together are usually on the same page.
I also realized part of it was my fault for not being open enough and not totally being myself (not saying you should do this. Just that sometimes there's an AHA moment when you figure out a way to solve the problem)
I would say now, as time goes on, I'm getting closer to them

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Sorry to hear this.

I dont there is much i can say that the other ladies havent.
just hope things will get better but be prepared that they might not.

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That's frustrating! I would not stress too much. We cant make everyone happy in this world, especially people like them. Misery loves company.

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you're going to be spending THE REST OF YOUR LIFE with these people having attachments to you. Just do your own thing, ignore them back if that's how they are and forget about it! you don't need to win them over, just keep them out of your inner circle and let it be what it is :-/