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Original post by cbcf
So as most of you know I started a post a couple days ago about FH and him wanting to deploy to Iraq with his unit in March 2008. Well he would have to extend till Nov 25th 2008 if he wanted to go. But his unit will be home in the end of Oct 2008 and he needs 2 weeks atleast to sign out of the whole Marine Corps. So he would definitely be home before Nov 25th but that i just to make sure its safe and not saying he will be home Oct 30th and he doestn come home until Nov 5th or something.
Well last night FH told me he made his decision. Now I did have a very long talk with him. I took all your great advice and told him to speak to his family and see what they say- his brother b*tched him out telling him not to go but lol said it seems like he made up his mind so just go if you want. And I talked to him telling him I support whatever decision he makes but I don't want to have to make the decision for him because I don't want him to regret anything we decide or I decide or he decides. So I told him of course I don't wnat him going but its for safety reasons not because of the wedding. And FH understands that but he told me last night that it is just something he feels he needs to do. And although he made a commitment to me he didn't want to regret it later down the road that he didn't get to deploy to Iraq. And he also told me it also has to do with his meaning of being a Marine- he feels its his duty etc and I can't really understand since I am not a Marine (which is very understandable I dont get why people want to experience war).
But with that said we are most likely switching our wedding date to December 20th 2008. And I wanted to say thank you all soooo much for helping me and giving me such great advice. And please dont think my FH is selfish I told him to make the ultimate decision which well in the end his decision makes me sad but it makes me feel better that I am not making him regret anything and I could care less if we need to push the wedding back as long as I know I will have him home for good in well 13 months then I am happy!!!![]()
THANK YOU AGAIN!!!!!!1
Well last night FH told me he made his decision. Now I did have a very long talk with him. I took all your great advice and told him to speak to his family and see what they say- his brother b*tched him out telling him not to go but lol said it seems like he made up his mind so just go if you want. And I talked to him telling him I support whatever decision he makes but I don't want to have to make the decision for him because I don't want him to regret anything we decide or I decide or he decides. So I told him of course I don't wnat him going but its for safety reasons not because of the wedding. And FH understands that but he told me last night that it is just something he feels he needs to do. And although he made a commitment to me he didn't want to regret it later down the road that he didn't get to deploy to Iraq. And he also told me it also has to do with his meaning of being a Marine- he feels its his duty etc and I can't really understand since I am not a Marine (which is very understandable I dont get why people want to experience war).
But with that said we are most likely switching our wedding date to December 20th 2008. And I wanted to say thank you all soooo much for helping me and giving me such great advice. And please dont think my FH is selfish I told him to make the ultimate decision which well in the end his decision makes me sad but it makes me feel better that I am not making him regret anything and I could care less if we need to push the wedding back as long as I know I will have him home for good in well 13 months then I am happy!!!
THANK YOU AGAIN!!!!!!1
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Wow! That was a tough conversation I bet... I am happy that you came to an agreement FH and I hope that the nefw date works out.
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Everything will work out December is a nice time to get married. Congrats! At least you were honest and handled this situation well. You are a very strong person.
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I know it is somewhat of a sad thing, but I am glad to hear you guys reached a decision. I don't know about others, but I would never consider your FH as being selfish for this decision. I have the utmost respect and admiration for anyone who as made the choice to serve our country. I thank him for that. He is a brave man and you a brave woman for standing by his side in all of this.
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We love you Catie!!! and we will be here for you for the next 14 months!!!
I'm glad you did this the right way and spoke to him and didn't force your opinions on him. You are a great fiance and God will bring your FH home safe and sound.
I'm glad you did this the right way and spoke to him and didn't force your opinions on him. You are a great fiance and God will bring your FH home safe and sound.
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We'll be here for support while he's gone ![]()
December will come before you know it and he'll be back and you'll have the most beautiful, emotional, meaningful day...
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Posted by AmandaLynn04
I'm here for the betterment of the vag.
Amanda, there was an old post bumped last night about, um, the back door entrance... did you happen to see it?
it was old school raunch!
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Noooooo. I must have missed it!
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you are an amazing person for supporting him in his decision and he is so brave to be making this decision! we are all going to be here praying for him and keeping you busy so the time passes quickly
and december 20 is the day before my birthday![]()
and december 20 is the day before my birthday
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Posted by yelley77
We love you Catie!!! and we will be here for you for the next 14 months!!!
I'm glad you did this the right way and spoke to him and didn't force your opinions on him. You are a great fiance and God will bring your FH home safe and sound.
thank you soo much Danielle...I need more people in my life like you and Amanda. Amanda to keep me laughing and you to keep me sane haha and down to earth about this whole thing!!!
thanks again! it was hard and i prob did make him feel bad at times with what i was telling him but it had to be said and it was and he made a decision based off of that and well i respect him i dont really understand it all and i prob wont since i am not in his shoes but i respect his decision and i know he still loves me and i dont see it as he chose the Marines over me
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Posted by ant n tilde
you are an amazing person for supporting him in his decision and he is so brave to be making this decision! we are all going to be here praying for him and keeping you busy so the time passes quickly
and december 20 is the day before my birthday![]()
ooo really....so at my wedding if we definitely have it on dec 20th i will be thinking of you and how you are a married lady for your bday haha
oo wait oyu will be married almost a year on your bday
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Catie, I do not know how I missed this thread. I have been thinking of you since you posted the first time earlier in the week about Iraq.
I am proud of you for sticking with what you had said from the beginning - that you do feel it's a decision he has to make and that you don't want to stop him from doing this if that is what he truly wants. And I envy you for being able to be so strong about it and not letting the wedding interfere .... I do not know if I would be so accomodating and I truly think you're so great for not letting the date get in the way of what he feels he needs to do.
You go, girl!
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I am proud of you for sticking with what you had said from the beginning - that you do feel it's a decision he has to make and that you don't want to stop him from doing this if that is what he truly wants. And I envy you for being able to be so strong about it and not letting the wedding interfere .... I do not know if I would be so accomodating and I truly think you're so great for not letting the date get in the way of what he feels he needs to do.
You go, girl!
