Kids

So, I am having a small wedding with only 100 people max. The hall is booked and i already started telling people no kids allowed. Some of them have a problem with that and said then they can't come. I don't know what to do because i WOULD LOVE to have kids there but i can't. I don't have enough space. I have decided to have two flower girls and those are the only kids that will be the reception. I am just confused, and i feel guilty now! I wish people were more understanding. And, one person is my best friends sister who is giving me a problem which is even worse(best friends daughter is my flower girl). I was thinking about telling her to bring her son and i will act like i didn't know. Is that bad?

So stressed.

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i am having only two children at my wedding: my two cousins, who are FGs. they happen to be sisters. i think it's fine to draw limits on children. people should be more understanding. however, if one of you best friend's children is a FG, i think you should allow her other child or children to come, as well. but that doesn't mean that you have to invite everyone else's children if they don't have a part in your wedding.

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There is something called a babysitter for peoples kids. People need to get over it. You shouldn't feel guilty

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It's your wedding. You choose who comes! If people don't like it, they don't have to come. You need to draw the line somewhere. I was having the same debate with myself at one point and decided, it's my wedding! I decide who I want there. I personally don't feel like a wedding is any place for children anyway, it's a formal event, not a birthday party.

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I feel you about the guilt. FH and I just went to a wedding of a family member who invited all the kids in the family and we aren't having any of them. I feel guilty because some of them are disappointed that they weren't invited to our wedding, but I really want the adults to have a good time and I know it will be easier for them to do it without their kids there.

When it comes down to it, hold your ground, if you don't want kids there, don't have kids there.

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Posted by Pinkisles

There is something called a babysitter for peoples kids. People need to get over it. You shouldn't feel guilty

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THIS!!! Don't ever let anyone make you feel guilty. Weddings are really not a place for kids. It's their problem if they don't want a night out without their kiddos.. Just worry about the people who made arrangements to be there for your big day

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Posted by karebear1

So, I am having a small wedding with only 100 people max. The hall is booked and i already started telling people no kids allowed. Some of them have a problem with that and said then they can't come. I don't know what to do because i WOULD LOVE to have kids there but i can't. I don't have enough space. I have decided to have two flower girls and those are the only kids that will be the reception. I am just confused, and i feel guilty now! I wish people were more understanding. And, one person is my best friends sister who is giving me a problem which is even worse(best friends daughter is my flower girl). I was thinking about telling her to bring her son and i will act like i didn't know. Is that bad?

So stressed.

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Is your date correct? That you're getting married next August? I just can't believe that knowing that no kids are invited now, that these parents can't make any arrangements. It's 10 months away!!! That's ridiculous.

Stick to your guns. We're not having kids at our wedding and if people don't like it - oh well.

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No one I know wants to bring their kids to a wedding, they are all excited for a night alone!! Stick to your rule she'll get over it

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We are having a very small wedding too, 70 people max. We had decided on no kids except cousins (who are all over 10 years old). Thankfully, not many of our guests have kids and everyone has been quite understanding. I think if people take offense to the 'no kids' request, then you shouldn't feel guilty about it.

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how many kids r we taking about? maybe have kids on a b list if u have 10 kids once 10 adults say know tell your friends and family their kids can now come. explain to them the hall hold x and I'm inviting just enough to fit in the hall! once adults rsvp no ur children can come but other wise three just isn't room.

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Posted by Pinkisles

There is something called a babysitter for peoples kids. People need to get over it. You shouldn't feel guilty

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This! It's so ridiculous that people would not come b/c of their kids. It's unheard of!

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our wedding isn't until may 2015 and my FH's sister already said she has a problem with no kids because she has nobody to watch them..they are traveling for the wedding but its only a 3 hour drive and there has to be someone she can have watch him

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Posted by Sarahg9

our wedding isn't until may 2015 and my FH's sister already said she has a problem with no kids because she has nobody to watch them..they are traveling for the wedding but its only a 3 hour drive and there has to be someone she can have watch him

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What about her husbands parents? Or members of his family. I just find it outrageous when people use that excuse. Sorry, don't come then. People probably think that's bitchy, but I don't want your kid at my wedding. That's why it's NO CHILDREN. Because we don't want them there!

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Posted by emmac

No one I know wants to bring their kids to a wedding, they are all excited for a night alone!! Stick to your rule she'll get over it

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THIS.. It is your day.. if you do not want kids do not have kids.. Do not let anyone make you feel guilty.. They are not footing the bill

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I wouldn't even give it a second thought. This day is about you and FH, not about anyone else. You have to do what you can afford/what you want to do. We had a similar issue but I didn't even entertain it. The only children we're inviting are our two flower girls, ring bearer and my 3 nephews (FSIL's little guy will be too young, but he's invited too!) It's one thing to not be able to come because you literally CAN'T think of anyone to babysit - FSIL is going through this bc everyone she would trust to watch him will be at the wedding. But if someone chooses not to come because they are offended that they're children aren't invited, I think that's selfish and rude and well...it's one less person we'll have to pay for!

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I wouldn't worry about it. I'm only having immediate family children, everyone else can deal. The only exception I would have is if people have to travel for your wedding. For instance, if a close friend or relative is coming from a different state where they have to spend the night, I don't think it's reasonable to expect them to find a sitter somewhere here. Other than that, no children!

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We are having no kids. I think some people may be upset about that, but ultimately its our decision. People have MORE than ample time to get someone to watch their children. My feeling is that the people with children who really want to be there will find a way to be there!

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Posted by Pinkisles

There is something called a babysitter for peoples kids. People need to get over it. You shouldn't feel guilty

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I totally agree. It should be an adult night out, especially if it is an evening reception.

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UGHHH why do people have such a problem with this rule?!?! Do they not enjoy a night out every once and a while!!!?? Makes me so mad.

My feeling for my wedding has been if its that big of an issue, you cant make it. I understand life happens, so I am not offended. However. There are some people I might see being a problem. FH has cousins with kids in California, so I can imagine this might be an issue...but seriously, kids can spend a weekend with their grandparents or something.

Go with your gut. You dont want to be stepping over a game of duck duck goose at your wedding.