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I'm not really sure how to politely say that I do not want kids at the wedding. I want to keep it like.. ages 16 +. Is anyone else doing this? It's tough because I have a big family with LOTS of little ones!
no kids at my wedding either. there are lots of little ones in both our families and if we allowed kids to come they'd take up 1/3 of the total guest list! also, my reception is over at 1:15 am and IMO kids should not be up at that time anyway! I have not sent out invites yet but if anyone complains about it, i will state that it is a space issue and will NOT make exceptions (thats usually when you get yourself into trouble)
Posted by BunnyBears
you have a lot of time still ..i would talk to each parent as it comes up in conversation about the kids coming to the wedding so its not total surprise or confusion when the invites go out. most parents with young kids want a night out for themselves. i was not invited as a young kid and was always so upset. so i am allowing kids/letting it be up to the parents. mostly we have kids 12 +. we only have 8 under 12 (3 in the bridal party) and 3 babies.
years and years ago kids were always invited - it was and is a family occasion. people say kids are no longer invited because its an adult affair but i think it stopped a few years ago with the price of weddings (but kids are usually free or half price) so i don't know, depends how u see it. most people are used to weddings being kid free these days so it shouldn't be too hard. it gets messy though- i could go on and on about this because i just did my invites though. u just need to know your guest list - u can't say 16+ when the 16 year old has a 15 year old brother and it may be hard if the 16 year old has a first cousin who is 12 and really loves weddings.
i am not inviting kids i dont know unless their parent wants to bring them which then, i am going with the flow.
good luck!
I have a huge family also. My mom is one of nine and my kids have a 4th cousin that is a teenager. As a parent, I don't expect my children to be invited to a wedding. For my wedding, only my kids and nieces and nephews are invited. Otherwise-no kids. On the envelope, don't add 'and family' and they will know kids are not invited.
we are not doing kids at the wedding. We've actually already told everyone that there are only 5 kids that are allowed at the wedding, they are all immediate family members, and we will definitely be standing our ground on this when it comes up closer to the wedding
Posted by hb123
We are having an 18+ wedding. Honestly, we made it very clear from the outset that kids were not invited. We also had 'adult reception immediately following' printed on our invitations, in case there was any confusion. FH has lots of nieces and nephews, for us, it would have created a zoo to have them there.
