Kinda a Strange Question - UPDATE AT BOTTOM

but what type of menu would go with this look (hope it posts)? I'm thinking upscale bbq? If you agree, list foods that could be served at an upscae bbq (stations and hors d'oerves, desserts, and drinks). If you disagree, please tell me what types of things you would serve instead.

I don't know if I'd call it a BBQ but I think stations such as salad, carving station, pasta station, and maybe 2 trays of fish. Maybe a raw bar and passing hors d'voeuvres.

You could also do a clambake which is awesome!

FH and I have done catering for years and backyard weddings are awesome!

Food - bbq pork/beef/chicken, cornbread (not sweet cornbread) & rolls, beans, cole slaw, potato salad, devilled eggs (a must!), corn on the cob and sweet iced tea and or a
clam-bake style reception with , potatoes, clams/mussles, shrimp, scallops and
Chicken dishes.
check out this reciepe


Favors
BBQ sauce with personalized labels
cornbread kit
or personalized aprons & a BBQ set (tongs/fork/spatula) for the attendants' gifts.


Cake



or cupcakes is a GREAT idea

Here is a menu I found online.


PASSED HORS D'OEUVRES

Beef Skewers Rolled in Toasted Sesame Seeds
offered with a thai peanut sauce

Fuji Apple Crescents TIpped with Cambozola Cheese
garnished with sugared walnuts

Freshly Baked Filo Triangles
filled with spinach and feta cheese

Stuffed Mushroom Caps
filled with pesto and pine nuts

FRESH OFF THE BARBECUE

Juicy Chicken Kebobs
layered with sweet tri-colored peppers and bermuda onions brushed with a citrus marinade

Barbecued Whole Boneless Salmon
wrapped in foil and stuffed with fresh herbs, scallions, and lemon offered with a cucumber dill sauce

A Wide Variety of Marinated and Grilled Vegetables
portobello mushrooms, sweet red peppers, carrots, eggplant, italian zucchini, whole scallions, asparagus, and yellow peppers.

ON THE BUFFET

Oven Baked Cheesy Potatoes
with a crispy bread crumb topping

Couscous and Rose Lentil Salad
tossed with sweet peppers, scallions, currants, lemon, olive oil, and fresh mint

Fresh Sliced Seasonal Fruit
watermelon, cantaloups, honeydew, pineapple, strawberries, grapes, kiwi's and oranges

Classic Caesar Salad
tossed with cheesy croutons, sliced olives, freshly grated parmesan cheese, and home made dressing

Assorted Imported and Domestic Cheeses
accompanied by water crackers and fresh seeded baguettes

A Variety of Our Home Made Breads
focaccia, sun dried tomato and olive, seeded baguettes, pesto bread, and armenian flatbreat with za'tar

'upscale' BBQ would include skewers or 'shishkebab' with shrimp, prime grade beef cubes, scallops, chicken, skewered with pepper onions, etc.

Also, smoked ribs, buttered and seasoned corn (done on the grill), along with a wide variety of sides:

beans (baked or grilled)
pasta salad(s)
potato salad(s)
green salad(s)
cole slaw
fresh baked cornbread

and then the staple items can be in there as well, kosher dogs, burgers, and beef, chicken and salmon fillets, with fish, chicken and beef well-marinated.

I'm getting HUNGRY!!!!

i'm getting hungry reading all this....

I knowww, a clab bake goes absolutely perfectly...unfortunately, his family is kisher, so that deff wont work.

I'm starting to think it looks like a little new england picnic more so than bbq. idk, i keep changing my mind.

That to me says clam bake. Not bbq.

eta. sorry, just saw your above post. what about a garden tea party kind of thing with tea sandwiches, and other hors d'oevres?

You could do gourmet sandwiches, tea sandwiches, specialty potato chips, salads, etc.

Do a search on Martha Stewart's website. There is probably a list of things and recipes for picnics and the like.

We cant have seafood bc we're (we meaning his family is) kosher. It seems so perfect to have a clambake though with that design