kinda bummed - cheer me up

So I know this is dumb but I am kind of upset. I know about my shower cuz its in Jersey (where im from, now i live in NYC) and its impossible to surprise me. Well I just found out that my parents haven't met the min they put on facility and they are going to call some people who haven't RSVP'd to see if maybe some more are coming.

I'm upset cuz none of FH's mom's cousins are coming. We are pretty close to that side of the family and they have come to other family parties (I have been with FH for 7 yrs so they know me very well). I purposely picked a place in NJ that is right near the turnpike exits for staten island, so its easy for them to get too.

I know its silly but I guess I am kind of bummed that out of these 5, none of them are going. Just upsetting since like I said, I have been to other family functions and they always go to them.

tell me that I am being dumb and cheer me up

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Posted by Papillon25

So I know this is dumb but I am kind of upset. I know about my shower cuz its in Jersey (where im from, now i live in NYC) and its impossible to surprise me. Well I just found out that my parents haven't met the min they put on facility and they are going to call some people who haven't RSVP'd to see if maybe some more are coming.

I'm upset cuz none of FH's mom's cousins are coming. We are pretty close to that side of the family and they have come to other family parties (I have been with FH for 7 yrs so they know me very well). I purposely picked a place in NJ that is right near the turnpike exits for staten island, so its easy for them to get too.

I know its silly but I guess I am kind of bummed that out of these 5, none of them are going. Just upsetting since like I said, I have been to other family functions and they always go to them.

tell me that I am being dumb and cheer me up

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aww try not to think about it, i would prob be a little bummed too, but there are going to be many other people there who will be there to celebrate your day with you...cheer up!!!

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Posted by Papillon25

So I know this is dumb but I am kind of upset. I know about my shower cuz its in Jersey (where im from, now i live in NYC) and its impossible to surprise me. Well I just found out that my parents haven't met the min they put on facility and they are going to call some people who haven't RSVP'd to see if maybe some more are coming.

I'm upset cuz none of FH's mom's cousins are coming. We are pretty close to that side of the family and they have come to other family parties (I have been with FH for 7 yrs so they know me very well). I purposely picked a place in NJ that is right near the turnpike exits for staten island, so its easy for them to get too.

I know its silly but I guess I am kind of bummed that out of these 5, none of them are going. Just upsetting since like I said, I have been to other family functions and they always go to them.

tell me that I am being dumb and cheer me up

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no your not being dumb. one thing i have learned in this wedding planning process is that you can not please or accoodate everybody. i have been in a similiar situation. we always go to almost every function we are invited to. One couple in particular always says No. we just recently went to their son's first birthday party. they haven't been to one of ours. all i can say is try & make the best of it. at least your family & FH immediate family will be there.

you can't make everybody happy... so don't sweat it. just sit back & have fun at your shower

You're not being dumb.... i don't think some people really realize how much it means to the bride to be to have her family and friends there at events....
My own mom didn't make it to my shower(she lives far, but still I'm an only child she could have taken day to come), and one aunt came..... ALL of my coworkers came
Realize the ones that who are there are the ones that really care, but also realize there may be good reasons some can't come... I hope your fam meets their minimum though....
the ones who just arent coming because theyre douchesss, you dont want them there anyway!!!
Take the 'I just don't give a ****' attitude, it's done wonders for me over the last few days!!!

You're not being dumb at all. You're trying to make things convenient for that side of the family and they're not coming through. Normal to feel that way. Just remember, you are loved by your family and that regardless of who shows up, the most important people in your life will be at your shower!!!

I am from PA and FH is from LI....FH and i live in LI....I am having 1 shower in PA. We purposly did it right on the boarder of PA and NJ. I know by doing this that some people from here will not be coming. I might feel differently when the time comes, but I feel that if people want to be there they will...i also know that it's hard for people to travel for these things. I accepted that when i made my choice to have it out of town.

Cheer up just think you'll have tons of other people that will be there to celebrate with you!

it's not silly at all
believe me
i got some no's to my wedding that really upset me

it is upsetting and you have every right to feel 'let down'

do you think maybe they just haven't RSVP'd but plan on going. Trust me alot of people do this, some think you should know they're coming and others just forget to RSVP by a certain date. So first have your parents call and see what they say, don't get upset yet

Hey, I'll always admit if I think someone is being a bit petty or dramatic but in all honestly... I would feel the same way!!! Its family!! Not coworkers or casual friends... 7 years is already a marriage!

I sorry.. You have every right to be bumbed...HUGSSS


But remember, the day of will go SMASHINGLY!! and you shower will KICK ***

Your not being Silly at all. I would probably feel the same way. I have a feeling this will happen at mine too with some of FH's family but there is only so much you can do to make it easy on people.

Try to not think about it -- you know you will enjoy the day regardless!