Kinda upset; My Son, who's a GM, was not invited to this week's bachelor party. UPDATE
Original post by debismom
Debi said that Fred's one BM planned it two month's ago, and didn't know my Son was a GM. Some background: Initially, when Fred chose his GM, he didn't think to ask my Son, but after I asked Debi about it, Fred asked my Son; which is a good thing, since, who did Fred think was going to walk me down the aisle? My Son will escort me, while Debi's Dad escorts her. My Son feels like a fifth wheel, because he wasn't chosen with the rest of the guys, initially. His feelings were hurt. Now, he's not included in the Bachelor party. Now my feelings are hurt for him, and I'm praying he never finds out he wasn't invited. I don't think that would make for future great BIL connections. Sorry if I'm being a pooper about this, but as I told Debi, since her Brother has been recovering from the bad accident three yrs. ago that nearly killed him, it's been a very tough journey out of depression, and asking, ' Why me?' I just wish people would be more thoughtful and inclusive. Thanks for listening!! Mary MOB
UPDATE Oh my!!!!!! Fred called to speak to Ben. He's working. Don't know what Debi told him. She said she just wants everyone to be happy. Unfortunately, I called my Son, to tell him to call Fred, about the Bachlelor Party this weekend, and Ben was shocked that it's this weekend, extremely upset and hurt. I told him it was a mistake, the BM didn't know he was in the BP. He understood but he's still upset. He said he really wanted to go to it because he never went to one; However, he's scheduled to work this weekend. Stating how he wasn't invited initially, to be a GM, now this, he said, ' What else are they gonna do that will upset me?' He was ready to quit the BP, but I told him I want HIM to walk me down the aisle, not Fred's friends. Poor guy!!!! Mary MOB
angl2001
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wow mary im sorry!
didnt they think to ask fred if they were missing anyone from the invite list??? UGH poor guy!!!
give him these for me..........
debismom
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Posted by angl2001
wow mary im sorry!
didnt they think to ask fred if they were missing anyone from the invite list??? UGH poor guy!!!
give him these for me..........
No, guess they didn't. Appreciate your kindness, Heather!! I'll give Ben those hugs, and tell him a lot of pretty Brides feel badly for him!! Mary MOB
babygirlb
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Mary,
I do not think it was inconsiderate of the GM not to invite your son. It could have been out of respect for your family and your son that they did not invite him. The party could get out of hand and the groom would probably be more comfortable with his closet friends. Jmo
debismom
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babygirlb,
You could be right about that. I was wondering if the reason he was not invited was because it was thought he would come back and tell tales, but my Son would not do that. Mary MOB
SoonToBeMrsScott
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OH Mary I am so sorry people are just very inconsiderate
anamaree77
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Aww Mary i'm sorry to hear about all this drama. I'm sure nobody meant to hurt his feelings. Any update on how they are correcting the situation?
NapaValleyGirl
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So sorry Mary. If it makes your son feel any better, my brother's (who are GM) are not invited to go to FH's bachelor party.... Hugs.
MrsHtobe
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I don't think that is fair at all
FH isn't close with my BIL (who is a GM) but is inviting him to the BP. Also, my brothers are GM, but too young, so they are going to do a separate night out to include them (and my Dad).
Hopefully Debi talked to Fred and they are going to figure it out!!!
Soon2beAlberti
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oh boy...thats a toughie...but u seem to have the right words to smooth things over...good job ma!!
Mrs. V 2008
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Mary..im sorry..thats very wrong for him not to be included...My family had a similiar issue going on...my sister got engaged in dec and initially her fh was not going to put my brother in the bp! he was so hurt..and then they felt bad and then included him..but he's still hurt they weren't going to ask him in the first place...so i kind of know how you feel
debismom
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Appreciate everyone's kind remarks!! Can't hold my eyes open!! Sweet dreams, girls!! Mary MOB
ValnChris
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wow,
I agree with all of these posts, that is inconsiderate and I can definitely understand the upset. At the same time though...my FH was nice enough to include my brothers in the groomsparty but they aren't close nor are they with his friends. I would understand if he chose to have his bachelor party with just his best friends....it's HIS choice, his last big hurrah...
I thihnk it would be nice to have two parties though if you're gonig to exclude members of the groomsparty.
In either case, I just hate bachelor parties..period!!!
