I have never wanted to change my last name for as long as I can remember and thankfully, FH is cool with it. Just as long as our kids have his name and I at least answer to it, he doesn't care.
I don’t think that’s ridiculous at all! I, on the other hand, am a complete nut—I’m trying to get FH to change his last name to his mother’s maiden name (his grandfather asked and it’s a big deal to him) because I like that name more than FH’s current last name and my last name!
No not ridiculous at all!! I have two last names for similar reasons---DH was fine with it but I know some guys feel really strongly about it one way or the other....
oy - i didnt want to give up my last name either, but i did - same boat - with the attorney thing - but then i did it before i graduated undergrad - so its all the same now - this is my last year of law school - going to be taking the bar next summer - which is why we are waiting to do our vow renewal until after that is over with - i couldnt handle bar and wedding all at once!
oh yeah - the only reason i didnt hyphenate was because it would have been super long
I personally HATE my last name so I am looking forward to getting a new, easily pronounced, short one! :)
Posted by Jess125483
Posted by MiciB115
You are not being ridiculous. I don't want to get rid of my last name and FH is having a hissy fit about it. I mean it's really disrespectful of him if you ask me. I legally want to keep in Mrs. B-C and he just wants it Mrs. C for no good reason. Meanwhile, my sister and I die with our last names so why should I have to give it up any sooner? It's not like our kids would be B-C. UGHHHHHHH![]()
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Yeah I mean FH isn't being a jerk about it - he's being mopey. It's almost worse that way to be honest!!! I feel like I'm hurting him/letting him down. I know some kids with hyphenated names and they have a hard time, so I wouldn't do that. But, I said I wanted all our kids to have my last name as their middle names. My Aunt and good friend did this. FH was like 'WHAT?! I want our kids to all have their own middle name!' I just don't understand why HE doesn't understand the concept of being attached to your own last name?!
ETA: Wow, I feel better now that I got that out!
ps: if you've agreed to hyphenate it - i dont see how he can be upset?????
Posted by mcclj74
oy - i didnt want to give up my last name either, but i did - same boat - with the attorney thing - but then i did it before i graduated undergrad - so its all the same now - this is my last year of law school - going to be taking the bar next summer - which is why we are waiting to do our vow renewal until after that is over with - i couldnt handle bar and wedding all at once!
I don't think you are being ridiculous. I didn't want to change my last name too and FH was upset about it...so we compromised... using the -
Posted by Jess125483
Posted by mcclj74
oy - i didnt want to give up my last name either, but i did - same boat - with the attorney thing - but then i did it before i graduated undergrad - so its all the same now - this is my last year of law school - going to be taking the bar next summer - which is why we are waiting to do our vow renewal until after that is over with - i couldnt handle bar and wedding all at once!
Sounds like we're in the same year in school - where do you go?
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Posted by Jess125483
Posted by mcclj74
oy - i didnt want to give up my last name either, but i did - same boat - with the attorney thing - but then i did it before i graduated undergrad - so its all the same now - this is my last year of law school - going to be taking the bar next summer - which is why we are waiting to do our vow renewal until after that is over with - i couldnt handle bar and wedding all at once!
Sounds like we're in the same year in school - where do you go?
I go to Touro
Posted by jboothin2008
I personally HATE my last name so I am looking forward to getting a new, easily pronounced, short one! :)
FH and I had this same issue. I wanted to keep my name because I'm and only child and so is my dad so my last name kind of ends with me. FH freaked about it, felt very strongly that I take it. So, when I go to legally change everything, I'm legally changing my middle name to my last name and my last name to his name. So my full name will be both of our last names and it doesn't insult/bother him and it's a nice compromise because my last name is still an important piece of my name.
Posted by danniegirl
I don't want to change my last name either but FH gets really upset and offended by it - he says changing the name completes us becoming one..when he put it that way I felt bad..
I still think I am going to keep mine for business purposes. That is important to me.![]()
