Are you changingyour name, or keeping your maiden name? Or hyphenating?
I am having a really hard time with this. The 2 last names are much too long to hyphenate, so that is out. (10 letters and 12 letters.....rediculously long and sound horrible together)
I want to keep my maiden name, but at the same time I think that sends a funny message....marraige is a partnership.
I don't know what to do and I have only a few weeks to make the decision. After 33 years of the same name, I feel that it is very much part of my identity.
What are your thoughts on this?
EastEndBride
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At this point I have no plans to change my name. I don't like the history of the custom , where it was part of becoming your husband's property- yuck. Also, after 30 years of the same name it really is part of my identity. I don't feel that I have to change 'who I am' to show the world that I'm married or to prove how committed I am to my husband. I love FH & his family, but I don't think I have to change my name to show that. JMHO- the name change thing just doesn't work for me.
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I am taking FH's name...
My mother and grandmother both use their maiden name as their middle intial, so I will be Tricia L. FH's last name.
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woobie113007
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Im going to be taking his.
tuti0907
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Changing your name is very much a personal choice. When I was in my 20's I was very much against changing my name. I grew to love ny last name and in my mind it was who I was. I didn't want to be pressured or feel like 'property' so I swore I would never do it. Now that I am in my 30's, I am more secure and confident within myself to know that my name doesn't define me (or take away from who I am). I will be taking my fiancee's name when we get married, but that is a choice I made because it didn't bother me to do so. If it means a great deal to you, you definitely need to discuss it with your future husband. I too will be making my last name my middle initial so that I keep a little remnant of my family. Don't let anyone steer you in any direction. This is between you and your FH.
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Posted by tuti0907
Changing your name is very much a personal choice. When I was in my 20's I was very much against changing my name. I grew to love ny last name and in my mind it was who I was. I didn't want to be pressured or feel like 'property' so I swore I would never do it. Now that I am in my 30's, I am more secure and confident within myself to know that my name doesn't define me (or take away from who I am). I will be taking my fiancee's name when we get married, but that is a choice I made because it didn't bother me to do so. If it means a great deal to you, you definitely need to discuss it with your future husband. I too will be making my last name my middle initial so that I keep a little remnant of my family. Don't let anyone steer you in any direction. This is between you and your FH.
We have talked about it at length....it does not bother him at all that I keep my last name.....if it bothered him, I would definitely take his name. He feels that its 2007, and keeping a name is commonplace nowadays. I didn't think anything of it until I started taking a lot of heat from my own family..........I just feel like I am starting a whole new life, a new family, and I want to keep my name as part of my identity. I can always change it later, if I choose but cannot go back to my maiden name if I choose to change now. And I CERTAINLY don't want to change it b/c people are giving me a hard time about it.
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Posted by tuti0907
Changing your name is very much a personal choice. When I was in my 20's I was very much against changing my name. I grew to love ny last name and in my mind it was who I was. I didn't want to be pressured or feel like 'property' so I swore I would never do it. Now that I am in my 30's, I am more secure and confident within myself to know that my name doesn't define me (or take away from who I am). I will be taking my fiancee's name when we get married, but that is a choice I made because it didn't bother me to do so. If it means a great deal to you, you definitely need to discuss it with your future husband. I too will be making my last name my middle initial so that I keep a little remnant of my family. Don't let anyone steer you in any direction. This is between you and your FH.
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I am definately changing my name...I feel it's an insult to the man you are with if you are not going to take his last name...Unless it's for professional/business purposes.
That is just my opinion though.
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There was actually a post about this yesterday. It is a personal choice and it is your choice. I personally am keeping my name and so many people are giving me a hard time about it. But I really don't give a flying you know what what people say or think. Keeping my name doesn't mean that I don't expect my marriage to last, it doesn't mean I am not completely committed and it def doesn't mean my family will not be a true family. So for professional and personal reasons I am keeping my name. And what I tell people who say that fh and I need to have the same last name is that he is more than welcome to share mine.
Yeah girl!!!!!
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Posted by DNicholes
I think this is a personal choice.....
I am taking my FH's last name b/c the same as Tatum...I feel like it's a part of getting married but that's just in my case & in my own personal opinion.
With that said....a lot of peple keep there maiden name, it's not like it's an uncommon thing to do. have you talked to FH about it?
Ditto - well stated....
Talk to your FH about it...see how he feels.
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