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I thought it too, but then I realize there is no other person I'd rather be around. Through good and bad I stilllove him and look foward to seeing and hearing him!
I think it's pretty normal to have doubts about any major life decision ... what's abnormal is that brides are expected to be elated and euphoric 100% of the time from the proposal to the ceremony, which is not realistic. Think of it this way ... I'm sure when you buy a house you will wonder if it's the right house. Just because you are wondering that doesn't mean that it's wrong ... it means you're human.
I was starting to feel unloved - LOL. I am glad that I am not the only one. My poor Fh doesnt stand a chance either. i have been taking everything out on him. But he is the kindest person I have ever meet. He drives me crazy sometimes but I do love him very much at the end of the day.
if you say anything at all neg about getting married people think you are having problems. Or if you have a fight people think there is a problem. I tell everyone that I cant be 100 % excited about this wedding at all times. Its the rest of our lives that matter.
i think its normal, especially when they do something that bothers you in a way. i think most of us have been there even if very few admit it!
This thread is like a dream come true....I had just posted that we have been fighting alot lately...its stressing me out and scaring me because our wedidng is 4 months away..I told him we need pre marital counseling...I am afriad to plan anymore..because some days I dont like him so much. I did read what noone tells the bride..and it DID say this is normal..but Im losing sleep lately.
My poor Fh doesnt stand a chance either..when we first went to get my ring size a year and a half ago..I borke out in hives..everytime peopel mentioned wedding..I had a rash..Ive freaked out more times tahn I care to mention. I read what noone tells the bride..and it helped alittle...but man..sometimes everylittle thing he does drives me crazy..Im on edge i think and I need to stop it. My Fh is so sweet and Im mean these days.
I think that if we didn't think, then rethink, then rethink again about our decision to get married, we would not be good decision makers. Marriage isn't something to leap into then think about later. So I think that by addressing ALL of your feelings towards marriage, you're being responsible about making the committment. JMO.
Thats a good point!!! I know that I do analyze everything..and now my poor relationship is under a microscope..why dont men get like this?
Ok, speaking of microscopes, this past weekend when JT and I went to go look at the Bourne again, I was FREAKING OUT, I mean, TOTALLY FULL BLOWN FREAKING OUT on him that night because he didn't look excited when we were there. I was saying things like, 'You don't even care that we're getting married,' and, 'You hate the place, I can see it in your eyes,' and the ever so popular, ' I don't even know why you want to marry me.' Those went over real well with him. Bleh, I hate how I am acting lately. I know it's me and not 'us', but he doesn't deserve the abuse! But hello, a little enthusiasm about our wedding would be nice.
Aliciahelene - everything you said above is what I am going through. It seems all FH & i do is fight. We went away this weekend to get away from it all but we alomost called of the whole thing b/c we got into such a wicked fight all b/c we got lost. But we did end up having a great weekend b/c we where able to sit down and talk about stuff that was bothering us. FH is so good and I am so mean to him sometimes I dont know why he puts up with me. I to over analyse everything. over and over.
I think weddings are just stressful! Its crazy. My FHand I both adults..so its not liek we didnt have any responsibilities before this..we both lived on our own when we met..but our relationship was always about fun..going here and there and just having a really good time...now reality has set in..we live together, we are planning a wedding..its stressful. I was always the girl saying I wasnt ever going to gte married..so now Im just scared.
I dont know why so many people plan weddings b/c its so stressful. I should have listened to my friends - elope!! I guess if we can make it through the next few months we can make it through any thing. But I really have to ease up on him or he is just going to tell me to leave.
