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Mrs. dleeny Posted: Apr 21, 2005 10:47 PM

Listen to this one....

my FMIL is here from out of town for the weekend.

we went to dinner this evening and she tells me that she definitely wants to host the RD, great! our wedding is on Sunday, and many out of town folks aren't coming in until Saturday. The out of town guests that will be here before Saturday will probably want to go out to NYC and sight see, etc.

So she wants the ‘RD’ to be a brunch on Sunday, the day of the wedding.

I said 'well ok, but I won't be able to come'. I'm getting my hair done in the morning (probably around 10am). Aren't I supposed to be at the rehearsal dinner/brunch thing?

I'm not sure how to react here. nothing is set in stone yet.

Jenn070206 Posted: Apr 21, 2005 10:51 PM

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why would she want to have the RD the day of your wedding?? that makes no sense!!

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Apr 21, 2005 10:53 PM

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Posted by Jenn070206

why would she want to have the RD the day of your wedding?? that makes no sense!!

I guess because some of the people she wants to invite are not coming in until Saturday afternoon. And she figured folks will probably want to do their own thing on Saturday night (like dinner in NYC). A lot of these people coming in have never been to NY before.

I honestly don’t understand why she would want to do that the day of the wedding! Very weird!

WedHead Posted: Apr 21, 2005 10:57 PM

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No way! That's ridiculous. You need that day to pull yourself together. Why doesn't she host a dinner in the city then?

skittles Posted: Apr 21, 2005 10:59 PM

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um, what about the other guests that need to get ready for your wedding??? How would they attend and then get ready for a wedding? How will your bridal party attend, the groom, your parents, yada yada yada?????
No this is not wierd, this goes beyond wierd

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Apr 21, 2005 11:05 PM

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well, I just told her (in a sweet way) that I think FH are supposed to actually be there, and we're not going to be there if it's the day of the wedding.

So now I think she's going to do a Saturday brunch.

she's a very sweet lady... she's definitely no monster in law (lol). it's just tough coordinating logistics when 80% of the guests are from out of town.

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Apr 21, 2005 11:07 PM

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Posted by skittles

um, what about the other guests that need to get ready for your wedding??? How would they attend and then get ready for a wedding? How will your bridal party attend, the groom, your parents, yada yada yada?????
No this is not wierd, this goes beyond wierd

I was sitting there at dinner while she telling us this 'idea' of hers....and I'm trying to do my best poker face... and I was already planning how I was going to word this post on the board tonight!

AJsMommy122 Posted: Apr 21, 2005 11:10 PM

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OMG thats crazy!!! Like your not going to have 10 million things to do that day?!?!?! Plus you can't see your FH before your at least ready!!

skittles Posted: Apr 21, 2005 11:12 PM

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I'm glad that you love her and she is sweet! But tell her not to go crazy. The RD is mostly for the bridal party and the parents to meet and chat. The guests out of town can still site see!!! Anyway, you already have too mcuh to thinik about. Have a BEAUTIFUL DAY and RELAX tomorrow if you can.

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Apr 21, 2005 11:13 PM

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Posted by Soon2bMsZ

OMG thats crazy!!! Like your not going to have 10 million things to do that day?!?!?! Plus you can't see your FH before your at least ready!!

LOL... I know. her other idea was a Monday morning breakfast, but again, some of the out towners are leaving 1st thing in the morning.

oh well, nothing is perfect.

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Apr 21, 2005 11:15 PM

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Posted by skittles

I'm glad that you love her and she is sweet! But tell her not to go crazy. The RD is mostly for the bridal party and the parents to meet and chat. The guests out of town can still site see!!! Anyway, you already have too mcuh to thinik about. Have a BEAUTIFUL DAY and RELAX tomorrow if you can.

she's old school Italian and claims that the 'RD' is supposed to be for the out of towners and that it's tradition. whatever

she's already helping us a lot with the wedding costs, so this is above and beyond. and IMO, unecessary.

LuckyMe Posted: Apr 21, 2005 11:57 PM

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I agree your RD or brunch should be held before the wedding not the day of. You are definetly supposed to be there too maybe you should talk to FMIL before any plans are finalized.

june262004 Posted: Apr 22, 2005 12:01 AM

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The POINT of a RD is to do it after the Rehearsal. If you arent having a rehearsal then the 'dinner' should be held the day before or two days before And while some etiquette says that OT guest should be invited its not always necessary. We had ours on a Thursday and had a party at my FIL house. My Mom had breakfast on Sunday (the day after the wedding) but this was not necessary either.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Apr 22, 2005 12:04 AM

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glad you were honest w/her and things worked out!

VogueBride Posted: Apr 22, 2005 03:33 PM

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i think haveing the RD the day of the wedding is really pushing it!! and you should deff be there....its to celebrate YOU AND FH!!!!!

haha, i should read down first!!! glad things worked out!

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Apr 22, 2005 03:34 PM

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What? That doesn't make any sense...

AnniesSS Posted: Apr 22, 2005 03:42 PM

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The night before the wedding is traditionaly the RD night. If someone wants to go to NYC instead, that's their option. But to have the RD the day of the wedding is rediculous! As if you aren't stressed enough!

simbacat Posted: Apr 22, 2005 03:44 PM

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Posted by Jenn070206

why would she want to have the RD the day of your wedding?? that makes no sense!!

I agree. No offense, but that's ridiculous. You can't possibly to that. Was she joking ??

Angel2006 Posted: Apr 22, 2005 03:45 PM

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Are you jokinh?? Please tell me you are! That is ridiculous! You can't do that the day of your wedding. The RD is for the BP anyways not the OOT guests.