Listen to what FMIL did NOW

Original post by R&J0806

Apr 17, 2006 09:17 AM

FH has a childhood friend, Brian, who he was THINKING about inviting into our wedding party. He doesn't speak to this guy very much...in fact, I have never met this person and I've known FH for 8+ years. But his groomsmen are his decision so I'd never comment on that.

So on Saturday, FMIL asks me if Brian is in the wedding party. I told her that FH hasn't asked him yet and that he actually wasn't sure if he wanted to. FMIL went on about how the wedding party is uneven (I've got 6 girls, FH currently has 5 guys) and I told her that it doesn't matter to me and that FH doesn't care either. So FMIL says, 'Well, I've already told Brian's mother (who is her friend) that Brian is in the wedding party.'

WHAT????? Can you please tell me why she thinks its her place to do that? I mean, her son was only THINKING about asking this guy and had not done so yet. She calls her son to talk to him about it and he hangs up on her. She doesn't understand why.

Now, I told myself that I'm not going to get involved with this. It's not my decision nor is it my battle. But the thing is, FH is a very quiet, non-chalant person and I have a feeling he won't open his mouth to his mom and tell her what she did was inappropriate and unacceptable.

MrsWmson2be Posted: Apr 17, 2006 05:27 PM

Re: Listen to what FMIL did NOW

Posted by robynlevy

FH has a childhood friend, Brian, who he was THINKING about inviting into our wedding party. He doesn't speak to this guy very much...in fact, I have never met this person and I've known FH for 8+ years. But his groomsmen are his decision so I'd never comment on that.

So on Saturday, FMIL asks me if Brian is in the wedding party. I told her that FH hasn't asked him yet and that he actually wasn't sure if he wanted to. FMIL went on about how the wedding party is uneven (I've got 6 girls, FH currently has 5 guys) and I told her that it doesn't matter to me and that FH doesn't care either. So FMIL says, 'Well, I've already told Brian's mother (who is her friend) that Brian is in the wedding party.'

WHAT????? Can you please tell me why she thinks its her place to do that? I mean, her son was only THINKING about asking this guy and had not done so yet. She calls her son to talk to him about it and he hangs up on her. She doesn't understand why.

Now, I told myself that I'm not going to get involved with this. It's not my decision nor is it my battle. But the thing is, FH is a very quiet, non-chalant person and I have a feeling he won't open his mouth to his mom and tell her what she did was inappropriate and unacceptable.

Can you tell her politely to now tell 'Brian's mother that's not the case?'