Living on edge

Now that you are engaged, do you find yourself fearful of things you've never even considered before?

I'm petrified of something happening to my father. One of my main motivations of having a true wedding was that I wanted my father to walk me down the aisle. Being that the wedding is so far off, so much could happen and I don't know if I would have a large wedding if he wasn't able to walk me down the aisle. This has been something so important to him and that makes me want that moment even more for us.

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Posted by amandah75

Now that you are engaged, do you find yourself fearful of things you've never even considered before?

I'm petrified of something happening to my father. One of my main motivations of having a true wedding was that I wanted my father to walk me down the aisle. Being that the wedding is so far off, so much could happen and I don't know if I would have a large wedding if he wasn't able to walk me down the aisle. This has been something so important to him and that makes me want that moment even more for us.

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I am fearful of that too - he is only 43 and now there might be something wrong with his lung and liver.

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Posted by RitasEngaged

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Posted by amandah75

Now that you are engaged, do you find yourself fearful of things you've never even considered before?

I'm petrified of something happening to my father. One of my main motivations of having a true wedding was that I wanted my father to walk me down the aisle. Being that the wedding is so far off, so much could happen and I don't know if I would have a large wedding if he wasn't able to walk me down the aisle. This has been something so important to him and that makes me want that moment even more for us.

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I am fearful of that too - he is only 43 and now there might be something wrong with his lung and liver.

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I strongly recommend having your father have these things checked out-even if he hates doctors. My father died at 49 of a massive heart attack, so i recommend any precausions that can be taken

i suddenly fear everything since the day i got this ring. i hope nothing goes wrong to anyone in either of our families before this day. (knock on wood). its sad to say that i made a list of who would be at FH & my wedding a year after we started dating & i have had to cross off so many people. (3 grandparents, a friend from high school & FFIL)
not only that but also every decision i make will effect the rest of our lives. (school, working, medical decissions) it is so hard to put into words how i feel.

It's amazing how 4 words...will you marry me....change your perception of everything. It's no longer 'i'm gonna do what i want...watch me go 90 down this road' cause you have someone else to consider.

So I worry about everything being ok until the wedding....then you hear about people dying on their wedding day.

I gotta stop. Gotta remember you can't control everything.

I'm scared about both our families in general, not just for the wedding. My grandma is 87 and has severely bad altzimers disease...starting to not remember names. I am very close to my parents and dont even know what I would do if anything happened to them. I'm a control freak too Amanda. Doesnt it drive you insane? But I need to stop worrying all the time. Its so bad for you

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Posted by soontoobemrsk

I'm scared about both our families in general, not just for the wedding. My grandma is 87 and has severely bad altzimers disease...starting to not remember names. I am very close to my parents and dont even know what I would do if anything happened to them. I'm a control freak too Amanda. Doesnt it drive you insane? But I need to stop worrying all the time. Its so bad for you

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I try so hard not to be a control freak, but it just happens. Can't stand not knowing what's around the corner.....but I guess that would take the fun out of everything as well. I've always lived life expecting the worse and praying for the best. i need therapy lol

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Posted by T E R I

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Posted by RitasEngaged

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Posted by amandah75

Now that you are engaged, do you find yourself fearful of things you've never even considered before?

I'm petrified of something happening to my father. One of my main motivations of having a true wedding was that I wanted my father to walk me down the aisle. Being that the wedding is so far off, so much could happen and I don't know if I would have a large wedding if he wasn't able to walk me down the aisle. This has been something so important to him and that makes me want that moment even more for us.

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I am fearful of that too - he is only 43 and now there might be something wrong with his lung and liver.

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I strongly recommend having your father have these things checked out-even if he hates doctors. My father died at 49 of a massive heart attack, so i recommend any precausions that can be taken

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He is he has been going to drs and he stopped drinking for now.

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Posted by amandah75

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Posted by soontoobemrsk

I'm scared about both our families in general, not just for the wedding. My grandma is 87 and has severely bad altzimers disease...starting to not remember names. I am very close to my parents and dont even know what I would do if anything happened to them. I'm a control freak too Amanda. Doesnt it drive you insane? But I need to stop worrying all the time. Its so bad for you

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I try so hard not to be a control freak, but it just happens. Can't stand not knowing what's around the corner.....but I guess that would take the fun out of everything as well. I've always lived life expecting the worse and praying for the best. i need therapy lol

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you sound like me!! I'm a constant worry wart!! FH wants me to go to therapy...he even offered to come with me!
I feel your pain!

I am the same way...I am always worrying if my grandfather will make it till our wedding. He suffers from connective tissue cancer and he has alot of other problems i just cant talk about...I always dreamed since I was a little girl that at my wedding my grandfather and I would dance to one of his favorite italian songs, I dont know what i would do if he isnt there...he means the world to me, more than anyone can ever know.
(omg, I am now sitting at my computer at work with tears in my eyes thinking about this...not good)

my dad passed away not too long ago..i don tknow if i want any1 walking me down the aisle.. ill prob make a joke about it and shimmey down by myself but i duno..i knwo hes gone but i dont feel like he is.. too many signs that hes still around..

like....... he planted 2 fig trees14 yrs ago.. they would only grow bout 10 figs a yr.. but since he passed away.. no joke.. my mom said she pulls about 60+ figs EVERY COUPLE OF DAYS...i know it sounds stupid..but he def has something to do with it.. those 2 trees were his passion lol

I think every control freak inevitably has anxiety issues. You're not alone ladies. We should go to group therapy

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Posted by soontoobemrsk

I think every control freak inevitably has anxiety issues. You're not alone ladies. We should go to group therapy

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therapy?? us??? therapy??
We dont need no stinkin therapy!!!

HA who are we kidding...we are the biggest example of women who need therapy!!