LONG....ok am i totally wrong?! (POLL)

lil history...1 BM is Alexs sister in law. Now we always got along but when I got prego she assumed she be the godmother bc her hubby (Alexs bro) was the godfather. Which I told her at 4 months prego that I knew I wanted my best friend as our daughters godmother. Anyway Alexa was born we asked Danny (FBIL) and Daria (my friend) to be godparents. Both accepted! Ever since then my FSIL has had an issue w/ me. Totally insulted that I went out of the family! BUT i have 2 sisters and Alex has 1.....if I was too pick family it would of been one of them before id ever pick her! Anyway now we get engaged and I felt since my 2 friends,cousin and 2 sisters are in it. And I knew Alexs older sister should be in it since he only has 1 that it be wrong if I left his 1 and only SIL out! Esp being he asked my BIL to be a GM! So me 'thinking' i was doing the right thing asks her and she did say yes! She seemed shocked but truly happy to be part of our BP! I told her flat out that night I asked her that I wanted strrapless for the girls. She did tell me I rather not have that style but id wear it...after all it is your wedding! Totally understanding. So I was happy! 4 months after she accepts we order dresses (i picked them bc it was nearly impssoble getting the whole BP together to shop and try on dresses!) Ok mistake #1 I went w/ a dress that was plain bc I figured that make most ppl happy but also it matched well w/ my dress. A-line,V-waist! So I say this is it. All the girls told me they liked it had no issues w/ the dress but now that they are ordered,paid for and came in I now hear lil comments here and there! Well too late they are in and they all need to be fitted this month so no time to change dresses! WELL now I hear from FMIL that FSIL doesnt like the dress at all. Mind you shes no joke a size 2! She says she wont look good in that style dress and want to change once the recp starts! Oh yes and the dress she wants is from Fredrcks of hollywood! She claims she wont be able to dance in a A-line dress. All other BM do it yet she cant? Now I do feel bad that she feels uncomfy but since day 1 she knew the style I wanted. Esp being my BP are all diff in body types!!! The dress she wants to wear well.....its just not something she should wear (IMOP) Nevermind why should my pics get messed up when we do BP shots? I wrote a mass email a few days ago...this is what I said:

I am aware there are several individuals who do not care too much for the style of the bridesmaids dress. I do apologize for this. I have heard someone is looking to change into a different attire at the reception. What I am asking is that no one change their outfits at all! Reason being pictures will be taken through out the night which may include bridal party group shots. Please understand Alex and myself want uniformity as far as our bridal party is concerned. If someone decides to take it upon themselves to change do understand you will not be involved in the picture taking. I don't mean to come off as a 'bridezilla' but get real if it was your wedding you wouldn't want your pictures with someone sticking out like a sore thumb!

Please do not ask me who I am referring too as I do not want to discuss this any further. I'd like to keep the next 2 1/2 months as drama free as possible! I think I've been pretty fair as to how hair & make up should be done and what shoes to purchase.

Hopefully you all can understand where I am coming from.

~Alana




1 day passes...and Alex gets a call from his bro saying his wife is crying and feels Im attacking her! That she doesnt even wanna be part of the BP but only said yes bc of Alex and hi bro! AHHHH now I feel like a fool b/c when I asked I really did think she was genuine w/ those tears! Guess Not!!



Sorry this is so long but now I dont know what to do! I feel we are paying for this, shes going to be in pics and I want the girls to look the same! Yet I dont want her being mad and sitting there w/ an attitude all night!

Last I heard was she may Drop out of the BP! I just dont get how come she said yes and wasted $$ if she really was against my style!

Heres the dress she wants to put on...