Major FMIL vent....

Ok girls...I am so angry at my FMIL tonight, she never ceases to amaze me (in a bad way)...some of you may remember my post from last week when I mentioned that my FH had serious shoulder surgery and no one in his family called him! In fact they waited 5 days to call. When his mother found out about the date she told him she was going to Atlantic City. Nice how gambling will keep her from being with her son when he has his first surgery. Keep the insensitivity in your head as you read what happened tonight.
She called him on Saturday and the first thing she says to him is....'you're still alive huh?' He had to have his rotator cuff, bicep and tendons completely reattached to his bone and thats what she says?? Anyway, she gives some excuse about how she never knew when it was, but remember I told you that she told him she wouldnt be home...
Yesterday she called and said she wanted to see him at our house. He told her he wasn't up to company. She called him tonight to let him know she wasnt happy that she should have to ASK if she can come over. She is under the impression she can come over whenever she wants to and doesnt feel it is right that we feel she needs to call and make sure it's ok. No one ever just comes over unannounced, it's just not the way that it is. My brother lives 30 seconds away and even he calls to ask if we're up to company...sometimes we're not and we have to be able to feel like we can say no sometimes. My own mother has never stopped over without asking if it is ok. It is about respect for us and our home. She blatantly told him that he has to know that she is going to come over whenever she wants and I have to be accepting of it too. Can you believe that crap???? She is so inconsiderate and I am sure that I have missed something just because I am so pissed at her. My FH tried to explain it calmly to her that this is the way we'd prefer it and she dismissed us entirely and said she can see 'her son' whenever she wants. You know, the son she didnt even call when he could have used some support! My answer to her is 'if you dont like it you dont have to come over!!!!'
Nice of her to pick a fight right before the holidays huh? Classy people....
Thanks girls...my venting is over!