Major invite question - PLEASE reply asap - on a deadline!!!! :)

luvleyles Posted: Aug 14, 2002 09:03 PM

Major invite question - PLEASE reply asap - on a deadline!!!! :)

Do you invite someone who has not dated in 20 years with a guest?! We have some family members who choose not to date since bad divorces - my FH still says it is right to invite them with a guest - I say no - it would make them feel uncomforable - and might make some people feel they should bring someone - please help - I have to have tis done tonight!

THANKS!

jennbaby Posted: Aug 14, 2002 09:12 PM

Re: Major invite question - PLEASE reply asap - on a deadline!!!! :)

I would write and guest just to give them the option.

Karen62794 Posted: Aug 14, 2002 09:14 PM

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I agree with Jenn. I would give your guests the option.

Teri Posted: Aug 14, 2002 09:17 PM

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We mainly invited our younger friends with guests - the older, divorced relatives that aren't seeing anyone but will have other family at the wedding weren't invited with a guest.
I think it really depends on the circumstances. As long as this person will know a lot of people, then you don't have to include the guest....you just don't want to make them uncomfortable going alone, etc.

Melissa Posted: Aug 14, 2002 09:23 PM

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I would still put and guest. That's what we did, and most of the single people are not bringing anyone. It's just polite. Good luck!

yabbobay Posted: Aug 15, 2002 08:40 AM

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I invited most everyone with guest, except: my moms good friends/neighbors I grew up with...b/c 1. is a widow...I know she is not dating anyone and I thought it would be rude to put 'and guest' 2. divorced and again I know she is not dating anyone...

these are my moms 2 best friends and if they were seeing someone, I'm sure that my mom would know about it...

if you put and guest you run the risk of them bringing a son or some random person.

JennK Posted: Aug 15, 2002 09:43 AM

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I would put and guest just in case, my FH has a never married aunt who is in her early 70's, and she surprised us all by putting that she was bringing a guest, so you never know.

michele31 Posted: Aug 15, 2002 09:46 AM

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You are not required to invite anyone with a guest unless they are married, engaged or living with someone. You can ask anyone who knows her but I would probably just invite her. Sometimes older people will be their children, sisters etc..to a wedding if you put 'and guest'

Niecey Posted: Aug 15, 2002 10:22 AM

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I didn't. I had many people who fell into that category. We have older widows, people who are way into their 50's-60's-even 80's and never date, etc. I felt totally strange doing it but my mom and FI mom said they would feel worse if they were invited with a guest.

IrishTracy Posted: Aug 15, 2002 10:28 AM

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I am putting & guest. My Aunt is widow & gets very upset when she does not get invited with a guest. (She's not with anyone but prefers the option) Just because they are invited with a guest does not mean that they'll take anyone.