Maybe it's stress but I don't want to get married anymore

I just want FH dead! I wish there was an icon with a bride choking the groom bc that's the feeling I have to hold back on every single day.

I have a lot to do. I work full time and overtime. I am trying to get the house decent looking bc it's a piece of cr@p. I've had appointments everyday after work.

Last night while FH was at a friends birthday party I was home cleaning out the bedrooms and the closets to make space so I can get my bridal shower gifts off the bed for company. It took me 4 1/2 hours and I started at 9:30. This was after working all day long.

Then I woke up this morning and within 2 hours I already ate breakfast, cleaned out the dishwasher, cleaned out the shed, put the christmas boxes in the shed (which FH was asked to do 4 months ago), touch up painted the bathroom, and cleaned.

That MF'er is home everday bc he is on furlow. If I dont' specifically tell him to do it- it dosen't get done. The closer the wedding gets the more of an f-ing @ss hole he becomes. Childish, condecending. My 3 year old niece acts more mature.

To top it off- we live in a house with his 2 brothers. One has the apt. upstairs and one downstairs. We live on the main floor. It's a long story and i've told it before. His brother smokes. Sits in his room for 3 days (his off days) and smokes cigarettes. The smell comes up to the first floor and all I smell is smoke. It's gross. My clothes smell and everything. He won't stop. Won't cut down. They think i'm a biotch bc I complain. So now I am moving out June 1st.
Rediculous right? Not 'we' are moving out. 'I' am moving out. If FH want's to come he can but i'm not living in this hole anymore.

If you hear of a homicide in O'side and I haven't been on the boards well................................

Thanks for the vent! Now i'm even madder then Hell!

OMG TAKE A DEEP DEEP BREATHE AND CLOSE YOUR EYES....I CANT SAY YOU SHOULDNT FEEL THAT WAY BECAUSE I DO TOO. MY FH CAME HOME FROM WRK YESTERDAY AND WAS GETTING HIS SH$# TOGETHER TO GO OUT AND DO WHAT? NOT WHAT I SAID TO DO, BUT WHAT HE WANTED TO DO.

FH HAS NOT GONE FOR THE TUX YET AND SCREAMED AT ME WHEN I ASKED HIM NICELY TO AT LEAST GO OVER AND GET FITTED AND LEAVE THE DEPOSIT....OH WHY IN THE F@#$ DID I SAY THAT......THAT MFer WENT OFF ON A BLIST.....'I TOLD YOU THAT I WANTED THE WEDDING BUT NOT TO INVOLVE ME IN ANYTHING......'OH JUST WHO IS GOING TO GO AND GET FITTED FOR HIM, NOT ME....SO I JUST SAID NOTHING ELSE AND HE WANTED TO APOLIGIZE....OKAY THATS TIRED NOW ENOUGH ALREADY WITH THE 'IM SORRY AND I DONT WANT TO ARGUE WITH YOU' YEAH RIGHT...

THEY HAVE NO CLUE, NONE WHAT SO EVER....ONCE THIS IS DONE I HAVE AND IDEA THAT I WILL PROMOTE TO THE PUBLIC........

AFTER I SAID WHAT I SAID TO HIM, I WANTED TO JUST CALL THE WHOLE THING OFF....BUT I THOUGHT OF ALL THE MONEY/TIME/EFFORT/AND EMOTIONS PUT INTO THIS.....'IF THERE ISNT A WEDDING, THERE WILL BE SOME KINDA OF PARTY GOING ON THAT DAY'


NOT THAT I MADE YOU FEEL ANY BETTER BUT AT LEAST YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE WITH YOUR FEELINGS.....

DONT KILL HIM....I DONT KNOW YOU WELL ENOUGH TO SEND MONEY FOR YOUR TOILETRIES

JUST KIDDING......'I WILL PUT A THREAD UP FOR DONATIONS'

JUST KIDDING...STAY CALM AND KEEP POSTING YOUR FRUSTRATION, IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER DO THAT TOO!!!

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Posted by poogie
DONT KILL HIM....I DONT KNOW YOU WELL ENOUGH TO SEND MONEY FOR YOUR TOILETRIES

JUST KIDDING......'I WILL PUT A THREAD UP FOR DONATIONS'

JUST KIDDING...STAY CALM AND KEEP POSTING YOUR FRUSTRATION, IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER DO THAT TOO!!!

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I forgot about prison! I'm not into biotches! But I do appreciate that you would take time out of busy wedding planning to start a 'JIFFY needs toiletries' thread!

omg i dont even know if i can SAY anything to make you feel better, because working overtime, and doing all these chores is bad enough!
and far as the smoke smell argh..i dont smoke and i dont like that smell all over my clothes

hope all turns out to be well

you need a

Aww Nic, I can't blame you, my FH does do Sh*t in our house either. But try to calm down. I know you are really stressed because of the wedding and all the things to do, but try to relax and try not to hurt your FH even if you want to because lets face it we all do at times. Nic, maybe you need to treat yourself to a Mani and Pedi and a massage. Just stop cleaning and just do something fun for yourself. De-stress a little and of course

I really hope that everything goes well....OMG!!! I feel so bad that you are under all of this stress!!! Take a deep breath..hun...I know that sometimes things are easier said than done, but I think that you should consider speaking to the brother that smokes. Just explain to him that on your wedding day, you need the house to be in tip top shape and smoke free. If he could do this one favor for you, that would be great. Because the weather is starting to get nice out ask him to smoke outside...at least until the wedding is over.

Also, talk to your FH...see what he says about everything....If you don't like the answer he gives and it seems like he doesn't care, then make your decision. Hang in there sweety. I'm so sorry that this is happening so close to your wedding....

you need and !

oh, I am sending a lot of to you

Men are just men, what else can we do? I realized that it is not worth try to change them, just relax & take care of yourself

Oh boy!! You def. need lots of

Dont let it get you down I think alot of men are like this not that it makes it ok but fh and I go through alot of similiar things and I lace into him for it but it goes in one ear and out the other

I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. Try to take a step back and remember why you fell in love with your FH. Perhaps a nice night away for just the 2 of you where you can be alone and rekindle some of the romance would do some good? Hope it all works out.

im so sorry youre going through this. It is completely unfair what he is doing to you and i hope he comes to his senses and realizes that he needs to get his a** up and contribute to something otherwise you dont need someone who is good for nothing except making you upset

My FH helps around the house tremedously. He washes the dishes every single day because i cook every single day. We have an agreenment and compromise. He does the laundry, vacuums, washes floors, and yes he even cleans the bathrooms. We take turns cleaning every other week and it really works out. Maybe you can establish this set of rules/schedule for both of you to follow. It will make BOTH of your lives easier b/c you wont be busting your a** cleaning after a long day at work and he wont have to hear about it. If you both contribute to house work equally there will never be a problem.

I'm sending you lots of:


Everyting will be alright!!!!!

Oh boy...Nicole, take a breather... I cant even begin to imagine all the stress and frustration you must be going through right now. But remember, you are marrying him for a reason....because you love him ( I hope ) Have you sat him down and spoken to him about this? I do hope that everything gets better, especially since you are so close to your wedding. As for the brother who smokes..well I couldnt deal with that. Let FH know that you are planning on moving out June 1st..and that his A$$ better follow

Goodluck girl

Hang in there. Maybe if you sit him down and tell him he needs to pitch in he will get off his a$$.

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Posted by poogie
DONT KILL HIM....I DONT KNOW YOU WELL ENOUGH TO SEND MONEY FOR YOUR TOILETRIES

JUST KIDDING......'I WILL PUT A THREAD UP FOR DONATIONS'

JUST KIDDING...STAY CALM AND KEEP POSTING YOUR FRUSTRATION, IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER DO THAT TOO!!!

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I forgot about prison! I'm not into biotches! But I do appreciate that you would take time out of busy wedding planning to start a 'JIFFY needs toiletries' thread!

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hey thats what LIW Chat partners are for

ahhhh for you that is nuts!

i completely understand!!!!!!!! FH has off from work from December to March ( yes he does not work for all of those months) so last season when he was working all I heard was ' I will do it when i get off from work' Well, the season starts tomorrow - he had all these months off and he has done NOTHING. I went to all the vendors with my mom or MOH. He still did not go get his passport! HE WAS OFF FOR MONTHS! I work full time PLUS OT and I am still the one who does everything - we dont even live together yet, cant wait for that fun to start! AND i cant even mention getting a second job during his months off bc then i am just being unreasonable and how do i expect him to get the apartment done

anyway - i feel your pain and lots of for you!!! do NOT kill him bc they will just use this post as evidence!!!

I am so sorry that this is happening to you!! I am going to Croxleys tonight at 930 in RVC if you want to come and vent.