my fh wants me to quit smoking, and i'm trying but it's very hard. i've cut down a lot though. we had a big fight today about it and he said some really hurtfull things to me and told me to leave. i took all my clothes from his house, gave him back my ring and his nextel phone. he said he never wants to see me again. i don't know what to do. he doesn't understand how hard it is to quit cold turkey and i have been trying very hard, but he doesn't care. i know we've been having some problems other than him wanting me to quit, but this was what caused the fight and me to leave.
kmcwed
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I'm sorry. Definitely talk things out. Don't throw your relationship away over this. I hope you work it out.
sarahthegreat
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could just be the wedding stress that making him mad at you. i hope you guys work it out.
Valentinegirl
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Good luck!
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heidla
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I'm so sorry!!!!!!!
larryswife2be
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I am so sorry You guy probably just need to have a long talk to sort things out.
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Jen_n_Dale
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Good luck!
RedHead
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It sounds like you have more of a communication problem. And i think going to a counselor to learn how to REALLY communicate without the hurtful comments is a great idea! Hopefully your FH agrees. Good communication skills really makes or breaks a relationship!
PS- QUIT SMOKING
jennbaby
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try some stop smoking aids, the patch or whatever good luck!
NYCHICK
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Good Luck. Hope it all works out
pschica
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and good luck - it is really hard to quit smoking! (dh used to dip which is 10x worse!!) your fh needs to understand that it is an addiction and you are trying.....try talking it out together and maybe see a counselor like some others suggested.....also know everyone gets stressed planning a wedding so that may play a role too in this argument....
hope everything works out!!!
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hopefully you can work it out, maybe you can gradually cut down, instead of cold turkey?
Somehow when I read this I wasn't alarmed! What I mean is, when couples gets engaged it sometimes gets very heated and in the moment, people oftentimes say mean things to each other. If your smoking is a real problem for him, you should really work harder on solving the problem. Also, you know smoking is unhealthy and could actually KILL you and maybe he's concerned with that. Instead of the two of you blowing up at each other, try to sit and talk about the problem and come up with a resolve. This is small fries compared to when you get married. You can't keep throwing back the ring at him and walking out and he can't keep saying mean things to you b/c he's pissed - that's not a good formula for marriage. However, if you both WORK at your communication, things will get better.
I wish you luck!
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I am so sorry you are going through this.
I just wanted to suggest something for quitting smoking. It is a prescription called Wellbutrin. It is actually the same as Zyban, but Wellbutrin is comvered by insureance and Zyban is not. It really helps with the withdrawal symptoms. Maybe talk to your dr about it. It has helped me a lot.
