Sorry this happening to you. Very frustrating.
Posted by guitarstikibars
I'm sorry - this sounds so frustrating. Have you talked to her about it? Unfortunately, some people are so wrapped up in their own lives sometimes that they forget there are other important things going on, as well.
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Sorry you're going through this. I'm right there with you. My sister is my MOH and she hasn't spoken to me in weeks!! I try talking to her and she doesn't respond. But on Facebook she is so excited she picked up her dress. And all of my friends said she's planning my shower and she acts like everything is fine.
Posted by giraffe1210
Sorry you're going through this. I'm right there with you. My sister is my MOH and she hasn't spoken to me in weeks!! I try talking to her and she doesn't respond. But on Facebook she is so excited she picked up her dress. And all of my friends said she's planning my shower and she acts like everything is fine.
I would pick the friend from around the block as MOH, and include the new bf and the florida bf as bridesmaids. That way, you can tell your friend from around the block that if she feels like shes too upset to plan certain things that your other friend (the new one) would be more than happy to help out... most of the bridal shower/bachelorette is planned by the whole bridal party anyway, and they will probably all be emailing each other and doing things together regardless. If you think it'll cause a problem with the older bffs if you pick the new one, then you might as well just give the MOH title to the friend from around the block. It really is just a title at the end of the day, and for the most part the bridal party as a whole works together on most things anyway
Personally I think you pick your MOH based on your relationship/friendship with that person. Maybe they aren't the most organized or maybe they genuinely have a lot going on but that doesn't take away from who the person is to you. You definitely want someone who is excited and supportive but there will always be people around to help you with the details. In the end the wedding is just one day and 'MOH' is just a title. I wouldn't put so much pressure on it.
Or you have no one else to help with the details and your like me, working 80+ hours a week and doing everything on your own and only asking for 3 things of your MOH. I hate excuses.
Have a back up plan justtt in case. I got burned one week away by my moh (my aunt) and a bridesmaid (my cousin), only to find out that what she said was going on with her is NOT going on with her. For whatever reason my Mom and aunt had words and my aunt decided she didn't want to see my mom so she made up a SICK reasoning that she sould be ashamed of herself for lying about something so serious. I pulled it all together though...having one bridesmaid as the moh instead now and a girlfriend of mine that we are close with who was already coming to the wedding be a bridesmaid and we went to the store today and luckily found a dress that is similar to the one the girls all have and rushing the alterations so we have it on Friday.....If you can make your MOM your matron of honor if your close with her. Even family can screw you when you'd never think they'd do something like that to you....good luck girl!
I had a falling out a couple of months before my engagement with the friend (and cousin in law) who I thought would be my maid of honor for years. We were not in speaking terms so I chose another friend who I've become closer too as well. I just heard from my cousin a week ago that his wife (my ex best friend) was hurt that she was not even part of the wedding. I said I was sorry she was hurt but I didn't think she would have been interested in light of the circumstances and I left it at that. So in my experience, I had to re-evaluate the relationship I have with my ex-best friend and make a decision and it was and sometimes still tough but I knew that I didn't have time to placate her and my sometimes domineering mom. When you speak with your MOH, make it clear what you need because if she values your friendship, she will step it up or fade away because you should remind her that when HER turn comes, you know what YOU will be prepared to do for her because the friendship you have together is valuable. Good luck ladies!!
