MOH is upsetting me

Maybe you could try to cut her a little slack. After all, she does have 3 kids! Maybe she is overwhelmed with her own personal life, and maybe there are underlying issues not related to you or your wedding.
I think maybe we sometimes get very caught up in planning our weddings, and may get a little disappointed when others do not place the same importance on the day that we do. But we have to remember, life goes on for everyone else, they still have their own thing to do. What is most important, IMO, is that they are their beside us on that day. All the other stuff I can do on my own.

If you are concerned about her involvement, try talking to her. She may feel she doesn't have the time you deserve for this, and doesn't know how to tell you, or maybe she just doesn't know how neglected you feel. Only way to know is to ask!

Good Luck!

I cant even get a date to even talk lately I have been trying to meet up with her and she cancels- I know that it is early- I just would like her opinion on somethings and I have even been emailing her so I dont impose- I have 2 kids myself and they are teenagers and was a single parent so i understand that she may be going throught things- I sat back for a while and thought about whether i was being too pushy or expecting too much right now and I have to say that I havent I will even ask everyone else before I ask her- I feel as though she is so used to me understanding when she cancels on me- but ill chill out and see whats happens- I dont think that i am being to overbearing in expecting her at my e party am I- am I supsoed to say okay- i understand all the time