**** Monday QOTD ****

Thank you Its2Snappy for choosing me as the BOTW!! Unfortunately I´m usually terrible about thinking of interesting questions but I will try my best.

Something that has been on my mind recently (and i´m sorry if this has been asked already but I missed it) is . . .

How has your relationship changed since you got engaged?

For me its basically the same since I lived with FH since before we got engaged. (I actually lived with him since before we were dating as well but thats another story!!). At first it was a little better after gettig engaged. Well not better but different because of the extra happiness and excitement!!

But as time went by and the reality of planning a NY wedding with an Ecuadorian budget (and the short time frame to do it) set it we both became very stressed. On top of that I can´t work until after the wedding because noone will hire you when you need to request a month and a half off in you first year there. I´ve never not worked and I´ve never not had money. Its been really hard on me. I think because of all these reasons recently we´ve been arguing more than ever before. We get into disagreements we have no patience for each other. Some days I literally think to myself, 'I can´t do this for the rest of my life' and in that moment I really think I want to just call the whole thing off!!

I think with the stress its easy to lose track of the reason we´re doing this and I find myself having to remind myself of that.

Honestly, not much has changed since we've gotten engaged. We've lived together for 2 years before getting engaged, so no difference there. Those first few months are like a honeymoon though.

It hasn't really changed aside from making us stronger and a force to be reckoned with when it comes to his family.

People on here know some of the stories about his fam...it's not always flowers and rainbows, that's for sure. But until it was more of an 'official' thing (read: engagement), I didn't really feel like I had a leg to stand on when it came to certain issues. Now we're a team and we play by our own rules.

That's not to say that we weren't a team before...we just weren't as much of a strong presence.

our relationship has definitely changed. prior to being engaged we barely ever had a disagreement. a little spat once in a blue moon but since being engaged & planning the wedding we tend to argue more. FH is by far to must stubborn person in the world & i am no better. i am very insistent & with the wedding that has gotten 10 times worse then it was.

within the last couple of months things have started to calm down & we are basically back to our take a little/give a little relationship, which i much prefer.

Hmm everything has been pretty much the same. We were already living together. We've been talking about our future and getting married and babies since like 3 months into our relationship, so talking about the future isn't anything new.

We started a savings account together once we moved in together for wedding/house so that's not new.

Only new thing is we're super busy with appointments and I'm more busy with getting everything together since we are having a short engagement. I'm enjoying it though. We are trying to save more, but we have to get better with that. We like to still do things that we enjoy (concerts, movies). We should cut back a bit more lately.

we are better.

having the stress of waiting for the proposal to come being taken off both our shoulders helps

but moreso, we don't live together and wont be until we get married. having a countdown to that definitely helps.

all the things that annoy me about us not living together... driving back and forth, dealing with his sister who he lives with, not seeing eachother during the week -- will all be over. in 249 days.

and not being annoyed about those things makes me like FH more lol.