Money dance...

I don't think it's tacky if it's done right. And anyhow as I said previously it's tradition on the west coast where people don't give as much for weddings so it's so not being greedy. I've never seen aprons or sashes or anything, We usually just hand the money to the bride and groom. It's a really nice time to have a moment with the bride/groom. I love it and I'm defintiely going to do it. The New York side of the wedding will just have to think I'm being tacky!

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Posted by atitus724

...doesnt that defeat the purpose of giving gifts???

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No, you give like $1 or $5....not intruding on gifts at all!

I am thinking about doing a 'jam.' Since its a swing dancey wedding and a jam is a common thing at swing events for people when it is their birthday or basically if they are celebrating everything.

All the guests would stand around in a circle with FH and I in the middle, the band plays a song, and people take turns stealing/cutting in and dancing with the guests of honor.

So the same concept I'm guessing but no money involved.

I think it will be fun to dance with all our friends this way, I'm just hoping the older guests/family get involved too!

if we did that, people would probably pay us to sit down

From Wikipedia:

'United States
In America, practice of a money dance varies by geographic region and ethnic background of the families involved. It typically involves guests giving small sums of cash to the bride or pinning cash to her gown or veil. Even cultures that accept this may balk at paying the groom for his time and attention, so alternatives have developed, such as 'paying' the groom with play money or a stick of chewing gum. Some consider this a way for the bride and groom to have face time with their guests. Many, including traditional North American etiquette experts, consider the practice incorrect.[1]'