More Aggrivation and Still No Hall

I am really getting to the point of saying screw everybody and going to Vegas. Went to Windows on the Lake tonight after going to their showcase last night. Brought the parents because they are paying. Mom doesn't like it...actually she doesn't like anything except for the Irish Coffee Pub. How many more places am I going to drag them to before my mother finally says 'Where do YOU want to get married?' So now Riviera, Meadow Club, Brentwood Country Club Milleridge Inn and the North Ritz Club are off the list. Mom doesn't want to spend more than 80pp and doesnt want an afternoon wedding and doesn't want to travel more than a ten mile radius from pt. jeff and wants to have a raw bar and baby lamb chops and doesn't care if i get married in a room as big as a shoe box as long as she gets what she wants. Basically I've told her i don't care at this point where I get married as long as it's NOT the ICP. My poor Dad is fighting for me but he's losing. She's a Leo...maybe that's it? Well hopefully things will be better tomorrow. I'll be calling the Miller Place Inn? tomorrow. I guess I'm done feeling sorry for myself and done venting. Sorry for letting off the steam

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Vent away...that's what we are here for

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Well, is the price 80pp after tax? I visited the meadow club and Windows on the Lake. I did not like Windows on the Lake at all. Meadow club was nice and very reasonable, about 64pp on a sunday night and I think 78pp on a Sat night. Of course with out tax. You would have to double check those prices. A girl I know just had her wedding their and said it was great. Sorry about your mother being so difficult. This whole wedding thing gets to be ridiculous, you wind up pleasing everyone else and leave yourself last. Trust me, Me and Fh have been debating eloping and going on some crazy honeymoon

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Posted by halfpintny
She's a Leo...maybe that's it?

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Hmmmm, maybe.

Check out Miller Place Inn. I went to a wedding there this past October (she's a bride on here, Oakslady). I had a great time. It was a very nice place, food was real good too! Good Luck. I know it can be difficult.

-Jill

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i agree the miller place inn is a very nice place, check it out!

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careful about insulting places rememeber there are people are getting married there on the board.

anyway miller place inn is very nice, my mom loved it there. Its so cozy sounds your mom may love it. actually Bellport CC and Irish Coffee Pub are owned by the same people did you try it there. the price may be a bit higher that is the only thing. MPI is most likely in the range you want. maybe a bit more for sept. I went and got pricing for sept 05 in march and it was a bit more. FM if you want on the MPI and BCC

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Why don't you just say 'mom, this is what we want' and book a place. I mean, sounds like she is making it more about her, than you. Do what you want. If she winds up not paying because she doesn't like it, then all I can tell you is 'start saving'.

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Can you work with her on the budget? Like invite less people? I'm sure once she learns she can't invite some of her friends, she'll back off on the price.
Also, if she only wants to pay for 80 dollars of it...and the place you want to be married is 120 let's say, can you and your fiance pay for the difference?

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It's a shame that your mom can't see that this is about what you want and not what she wants. What about the watermill they quoted me $65 per person but it was on a holiday weekend and it was in the afternoon but it was beautiful. Keep venting though it'll get you through the rough days.

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my mother was the same way. FH and i went and booked our place anyway and had the owner write in 'if ali's mother hates the place they get the deposit back' and my mom came all the way out from PA to look at it. and then was like well i dunno and nitpicking little things and telling me i should get married where she got married (huntinton towne house).

finally she agreed when we brought up the fact that we only wanted to go to vegas and this was all her idea, so since we're having the big wedding we want to pick the place.

granted, part of it is her money, but its our wedding.

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No one insulted anyone's hall? I really hate that people are't allowed to sayanything negative about any vendor or people will get offended. If you didn't like WOTL, you didn't like it. I hated Riviera, so I'm not having my wedding there, some brides love it, so they are..that's the way it goes. if we all loved every vendor, we'd have a pretty difficult time picking, wouldn;t we?


Is there any way you can work with your mom on price? And if she really doesn't budge, why don't you tell her you'll just pay for it yourself? I know it's a huge expense, but you have to decide what's worth more to you, the money, or your day being your own. FH and I are right out of college, and we really don't have a dime to our name and we're paying for the wedding ourselves, so it can be done..some people have no choice... SO maybe that will be worth it to you to have freedom...

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okay, your mom is being very unrealistic with the 10 mile radius from pt. jeff stipulation. Leo's tend to be strong willed...but they usually will listen to reason. My mother is on a bit of a power trip-if I hear 'it's going to be this way, because I'm paying' one more time-I swear I am going to Vegas....but anyway, about your mom-Cheteau Le Mer kept ringing in my ears when I read you post-I don't remember exactly, but it was something like 80/85 pp....and the menu is outrageous...I sat down with Nick the BM, he was sooo nice, I really liked it. I have about 225 people to invite, and he didn't have the big room available in august....he did have upstairs room open for two summer dates I think...I don't know how large your party is.....anyway I am rambling....keep looking until you find something that you both like....GOOD LUCK

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Can you or your dad ask her, if there is one thing on the list she could live with out.

WHy was the Milleridge off the list? TOo far? Too expensive with teh raw bar?
Without the raw baryou can get the 2 star menu. We paid $65pp ona saturday night before tax withthe 2 star.

What place do you like most from what you've seen.
What don't you like about the Irish Coffee Pub. Too small?

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My mom is a leo too!!!! And she is inviting like 200 of her friends, and then is telling me that our list is too big and that FH and I should cut some ppl....the entire list is her list, and she doesn't seem to realize it...I love my mom and my parents are paying for it, but shes a true Leo, she's acting like this is her wedding!!!

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What are the reasons that your mother is stuck on ICP? Like some posted earlier, why don't you take a look at the Bellport Country Club. ICP does the catering for the place. For a Friday or a Sunday- $85, for a Saturday night - $100. It may be a little out of your budget, but take a look. Thay might be willing to work with you on the price.
I think you should do some research without her and see what you really like so that when you look at some of the place - you know what you really want. My parents paid for our reception - we spoke to my parents and discussed what we wanted and what they wanted and did A LOT of compromises.
Good Luck. If you want any info on the BCC, FM me.

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Posted by marymoon

why don't you tell her you'll just pay for it yourself? SO maybe that will be worth it to you to have freedom...

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I agree. I think it's pretty lousy that you're receiving so much aggravation over a day that is supposed to be the happiest of your lives. It may be worth your sanity and having the freedom on your own day to pay for it yourselves.

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Posted by jennandrob

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Posted by marymoon

why don't you tell her you'll just pay for it yourself? SO maybe that will be worth it to you to have freedom...

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I agree. I think it's pretty lousy that you're receiving so much aggravation over a day that is supposed to be the happiest of your lives. It may be worth your sanity and having the freedom on your own day to pay for it yourselves.[/QUOTE

I was thinking the same thing. Or maybe if your mom could pay the 80 pp and then you pay the rest.