More Aggrivation and Still No Hall

Original post by halfpintny

Nov 18, 2004 10:58 PM

I am really getting to the point of saying screw everybody and going to Vegas. Went to Windows on the Lake tonight after going to their showcase last night. Brought the parents because they are paying. Mom doesn't like it...actually she doesn't like anything except for the Irish Coffee Pub. How many more places am I going to drag them to before my mother finally says 'Where do YOU want to get married?' So now Riviera, Meadow Club, Brentwood Country Club Milleridge Inn and the North Ritz Club are off the list. Mom doesn't want to spend more than 80pp and doesnt want an afternoon wedding and doesn't want to travel more than a ten mile radius from pt. jeff and wants to have a raw bar and baby lamb chops and doesn't care if i get married in a room as big as a shoe box as long as she gets what she wants. Basically I've told her i don't care at this point where I get married as long as it's NOT the ICP. My poor Dad is fighting for me but he's losing. She's a Leo...maybe that's it? Well hopefully things will be better tomorrow. I'll be calling the Miller Place Inn? tomorrow. I guess I'm done feeling sorry for myself and done venting. Sorry for letting off the steam

MrsJ Posted: Nov 19, 2004 10:22 AM

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I think the Harbor Club in Huntington is around that price. My friend had her wedding there in October and it was the most fun I've ever had at a wedding, I'm hoping mine is as good! :)

Sorry about the situation with your Mom. YOu shoudl sit and talk with her one on one. She is not being fair to you. The day is about YOU, not her baby lamb chops. ICP for a wedding reeption? I guess it could be worse, I mean they have great food and all but a wedding reception?

Lisa Rose Posted: Nov 19, 2004 10:29 AM

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Check out West Lake Inn

West Lake Inn

You can get your raw bar and baby lamb chops for you Mom if you like! We had the baby lamb chops and they were fabulous!!

good Luck!

halfpintny Posted: Nov 19, 2004 10:41 AM

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I want to thank everybody for all of your support. Everyone is so helpful. I re-read my post and I don't think I bashed anybody's hall and I apoligize if I did. The places I scratched off the list were because my mom didn't like them for one reason or another. I don't like the Irish Coffe Pub because when I envision my wedding, ICP doesn't fit the bill...bathrooms downstairs, no outdoor area to get married, etc. Personal preference. Mom's got a bee in her bonnet over this whole thing now. I think I have been more than compromising as I would take any of the other places just not ICP. And the fact that THAT's the one I don't want and that's HER first choice it's causing a lot of friction. And that's where this whole elopement thing started because in the end if she want the wedding to be 'hers' then I'll get married in a Aruba and when I come back she can throw me a 'party' at the IRC and she can have what SHE wants. I'm so sick of crying and arguing. It's supposed to be wonderful time in my life and if I can't get past the first three weeks, I can't imagine how I'm going to even begin to plan the REST of the wedding. I'm certainly not going through this for the next nine months. I'm waiting for the Riviera and Miller Place Inn to open and hopefully today I will be able to put an end to all the nonsense. I guess I should also mention that My grandma has been in the hospital and my mother is not the most rational right now which could be part of this (but certainly doesn't explain ALL of it!). But anyway, sorry for rambling AGAIN! Thanks for listening.

nferrandi Posted: Nov 19, 2004 10:51 AM

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What you just said makes perfect sense. If you're mom is hung up on having it HER way at HER choice of place, then let her plan the whole a reception. But make it very clear that it will be a reception, because you and your DH will take care of the ceremony on your own, in your own way. If she asks what that's supposed to mean, just let her know this whole 'wedding' thing is not what you thought it would be. Tell her that you and FH have discussed it and what you really want to do is have a simple ceremony on the beach in Aruba. Tell her you're open to having a reception when you return, but you really don't want/need the stress of planning it. See what she says.

curliegirl Posted: Nov 19, 2004 11:15 AM

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I just wanted to let you know that I can sympathize with your situation...a little. I have been sick over deciding on a hall for this whole week. Not that my mom has been difficult, but she kept bringing up the second choice so much that I was getting really confused and worried.
I finally said to my mom that the other choice was no longer an option and I am getting really sick...I mean physically sick over it.
She understood because I went to her in a somewhat rational although tearful way.
Maybe you need to remind your mother that you have dreamed of this day for so long and she is making the beginning phase so awful that you don't even want to get married here anymore. If she is rational enough, she will realize that you are hurt and upset and back off.
I am also a Leo and sometimes it takes a little longer to sink into our thick skulls!!!!
Also, the other posts suggesting you kick in anything over $80 may not be a bad idea.

Stressed3204 Posted: Nov 19, 2004 02:55 PM

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There are some nice places.... Did you try port jeff country club .. i went to a wedding there last year and it was beautiful.... maybe fox hollow .... Hope you find a place you love... just remember its your day and you need to be happy ... good luck

halfpintny Posted: Nov 19, 2004 04:15 PM

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Thank you ladies for all of your help I am going to see the Miller Place Inn tomorrow and Louanne is going to give us a food tasting as well. Hopefully this will be it and I will only have to trouble you guys with HAPPY things!!!