Things around my office have been pretty bad b/c of the economy ( I work in magazines and revenue is way down) and my psycho boss has been threatening all of our jobs lately. She made a new rule that anyone who comes in after 9am has to stay an hour later than normal on Friday. Today, 3 of us walk out of the elevator ( which said 8:58) and straight to our desks when we get an email from her that we will be staying late today because we came in at 9. When we told her what the elevator ( and our cell phones) said, she claimed her computer said 9, not 8:58 and that we needed to be at our desks already before 9. We were all visibly upset over by our desks discussing the situation when she storms over and screams at me and picks a fight, accusing me of calling her a liar since I claimed the clock said 8:58. She called me into her office and told me that coming in at 9 is the 'bare minimum' ( even tho i consistantly stay late!!!!!!) She would have no idea tho, since she leaves at 3 or 4 EVERY DAY! Meanwhile, MY WEDDING IS IN EXACTLY ONE WEEK. I cried ( wish i didnt but couldnt help it) and told her i had a lot of stress lately and she had no sympathy. I told her this whole thing was petty and ridiculous and I couldnt understand why she was singling the three of us out.
An hour later, an email was sent around that my pre-wedding lunch was cancelled with no explanation. It's so unfair and I cant deal with this on top of all the other stresses in my life! I feel like breaking down and I dont want to be thinking about my stupid job on my honeymoon
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don't let her get to you.. some people are rude and arrogant and there is nothing like bringing other people down to boost their own self esteem.. this is the most amazing time of your life.. enjoy every minute of it.. and if she fires you, who cares.. take it as a blessing and enjoy your honeymoon.. you will always find a job and you are qualified so don't worry about it..
people like her will get what's coming to her.. karma is quite the beeetch..
THANKS FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT EVERYONE!!!!! It really helps!
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Its probably b/c shes ugly and no one wants to have sex with her. (Thats my reasoning for everything). Feel better!
ROFL!!!! This is SO TRUE. I also use that as reasoning often. Thanks for making me laugh!
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I can't believe she would do that, what a b*tch!! Don't let her get to you, thats what she wants! So enjoy your wedding time, and enjoy your honeymoon! she is simply not worth another thought!!!
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Posted by JessesGirl You can't be serious? The three of us who were involved were discussing the time on the elevator, not sitting around calling her names. I dont want to work for someone who belittles her employees for no reason. I dont care what kind of ecomy this is, i have PRIDE.
Yes I'm serious... I don't think she was belittling you.
You hate her so much, she's a bittch, and a tyrant yet you still want her to throw you a pre-wedding lunch too? You can't be serious. Why in the world would she want to do anything nice for you?
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Wow- she sounds like a real biatch!!
I'm sorry she gave you a hard time.
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THat is similar to my situation. I work for a major Men's magazine and they have been cracking down on the 9-6 rule, and I come in at 8 and leave at 5, and the owner of the mag had a conference at 6 last week and anyone not there got in trouble! Its crazy! I'm sorry your lunch was canceled! You should have one with your closest coworkers anyway. Just go out for lunch!
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Posted by JessesGirl You can't be serious? The three of us who were involved were discussing the time on the elevator, not sitting around calling her names. I dont want to work for someone who belittles her employees for no reason. I dont care what kind of ecomy this is, i have PRIDE.
Yes I'm serious... I don't think she was belittling you.
You hate her so much, she's a bittch, and a tyrant yet you still want her to throw you a pre-wedding lunch too? You can't be serious. Why in the world would she want to do anything nice for you?
I dunno. it kinda DID sound like belittling to me. I wasn't there to witness, so I can't really say - but just from reading what the OP wrote, it does sound like the boss was kind of in the wrong (attitude-wise). Just more so for treating them like children. I understand that there's rules for when to punch in or whatever and those DO have to be attained, but it sounded as though it was literally by a MINUTE that they were late. So to penalize for that is definitely 'belittling' in my opinion (which to ME means not treating your employees like adults). I think whether you're a boss, manager, or whatever, you should still respect your employees, if you expect them to respect you. Just my opinion though. Others might disagree. And it also doesn't sound to me like the OP actually yelled at her boss either. Yes, she may think that she's horrible, but that doesn't necessarily mean that she REVEALS that. Some of us are just THAT good at playing their game. I mean, of course I don't know though. Like i said, I'm not there to witness. So i dunno. I just think it's kinda harsh to make a statement like 'Why would she want to do anything nice for you?' JMO
And, by the way, I agree with you JessesGirl. Maybe it's wrong, but i have Pride too. lol. I NEVER kiss @ss!! insert ANGEL face here
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Posted by JessesGirl You can't be serious? The three of us who were involved were discussing the time on the elevator, not sitting around calling her names. I dont want to work for someone who belittles her employees for no reason. I dont care what kind of ecomy this is, i have PRIDE.
Yes I'm serious... I don't think she was belittling you.
You hate her so much, she's a bittch, and a tyrant yet you still want her to throw you a pre-wedding lunch too? You can't be serious. Why in the world would she want to do anything nice for you?
Never said she was a biitch,in fact I didn't hate her at all before this happened, but after today,she is definitely a tyrant ! And I never expected or wanted a work lunch, but when someone emails everyone that they're taking you out and then cancels it , that is cowardly and horrible. A wedding happens once in a lifetime and deserves recognition. I wouldn't want a thing from her now, after her disgusting actions, so you can stop making assumptions.
I'm absolutely horrified by your lack of sympathy. I'm a great employee who excels regularly, was on time today and always stays late. My boss decides to have a psychotic episode today and you defend HER? What are you trying to prove? Don't you remember how stressful the week before your wedding was! Thanks for the lack of support!
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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
Posted by JessesGirl You can't be serious? The three of us who were involved were discussing the time on the elevator, not sitting around calling her names. I dont want to work for someone who belittles her employees for no reason. I dont care what kind of ecomy this is, i have PRIDE.
Yes I'm serious... I don't think she was belittling you.
You hate her so much, she's a bittch, and a tyrant yet you still want her to throw you a pre-wedding lunch too? You can't be serious. Why in the world would she want to do anything nice for you?
I dunno. it kinda DID sound like belittling to me. I wasn't there to witness, so I can't really say - but just from reading what the OP wrote, it does sound like the boss was kind of in the wrong (attitude-wise). Just more so for treating them like children. I understand that there's rules for when to punch in or whatever and those DO have to be attained, but it sounded as though it was literally by a MINUTE that they were late. So to penalize for that is definitely 'belittling' in my opinion (which to ME means not treating your employees like adults). I think whether you're a boss, manager, or whatever, you should still respect your employees, if you expect them to respect you. Just my opinion though. Others might disagree. And it also doesn't sound to me like the OP actually yelled at her boss either. Yes, she may think that she's horrible, but that doesn't necessarily mean that she REVEALS that. Some of us are just THAT good at playing their game. I mean, of course I don't know though. Like i said, I'm not there to witness. So i dunno. I just think it's kinda harsh to make a statement like 'Why would she want to do anything nice for you?' JMO
And, by the way, I agree with you JessesGirl. Maybe it's wrong, but i have Pride too. lol. I NEVER kiss @ss!! insert ANGEL face here
THANK YOU ROCKY'S GIRL!!!!!!! You hit the nail on the head. I did not scream at her at all. And we were not late. It was 8:58 when we walked in. The boss in question said her watch said 9:00. The work day starts at 9 so her argument made absolutely no sense!!! She said we should have already started working at 9, not walked in at 9.
The only thing I said to her after she screamed at me uneccessarily, was that the whole situation was petty and ridiculous! People at work were so horrified by what she did,.that they came up to me giving me cards ( that were supposed to be given at the lunch) and even apologizing for the boss's actions. I completely agree that you have to show respect to get respect and I dont think kissing @ss gets you anywhere in life. I have principles and I will fully admit when im wrong, but that wasn't the case today.
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what a *****!!! sending you
azailia
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sounds like my job....
i am a teacher in a ctt class and i got a 'counseling letter' for..... picking up a coworkers class after lunch and bringing them up to her class for her because she is 9 months pregnant and the stairs give her pain.
I was told I was 'irresponsible' and 'giving 50%'.
I could add so much to this thread... I actually think we should make a 'work vent thread' so everyone has a place to ***** and then leave it there. I get so upset at work some times, that it ruins my night and that shouldn't be!!!
SO I totally sympathieze wit you and I hope that you can do a nice dinner with your coworkers without her.
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dont worry about her and enjoy your wedding and honeymoon and think of nothing else. these memories happen once in your life (hopefully ) and jobs can come and go. so dont let her rain on your parade.
times are super rough...especially around anything marketing/media/entertainment related. so she might just be stressed herself just because of work. but its definately not cool on her part.
i wouldnt brown nose or anything...just do your job the best u can. i would maybe come in 15 min early and stay 15 min late and mind my own business. then just enjoy your time off knowing u were doing your best at your job
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wow your boss seems like a real jerk, im sorry that you are goin through that!
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sounds familiar to me and sorry that you're having this issue before your wedding. first thing you should do is to (1) look at your company/employee policy to make sure if you have flexible working hours -- meaning that you can go to work early and leave early. (2) try to work at your normal office hours, ex. 40 hr/week (but ny labor law should be 37.5 hr/wk). (3) try to finish all your project on time and (4) don't show your boss that this silly things affecting you (kill them with kindness).
The reason I'm telling you this is because if your company is planning to get rid of people, he/she will find an excuse to get rid of you (even though company can terminate you at will unless you have a contract). If thing is really getting worst, try talking to HR but be cautious some HR can't be trusted - i always think that they work for managers not all employees.
Lastly, don't let something silly affect you. Its your wedding, its the best time of your life and enjoy every moment of it. Have a happy wedding!!
PS - did you invited your boss to your wedding? If not, maybe she is upset of that and taking it on you.
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09 er crashing!
Omg, I am sorry but what a spiteful b*tch!!!!! What an incredibly petty and CHILDISH move!!!
Just remain calm and keep thinking of the big prize--your wedding NEXT WEEK!!!
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dont stress cuz u only gonna end up not enjoyin urself the day of ur wedding..just relax n forget about everything else..=) god luck
GinaZ
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Im sorry- she sounds like a total biotch!!!
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PS - did you invited your boss to your wedding? If not, maybe she is upset of that and taking it on you.
lol - that happened to me. A woman I used to work with isn't invited to my wedding and I guess she's upset by this, b/c she recently did some crap behind my back for no apparent reason. It made no sense at all since I'm not even working there anymore, but she knew I'd hear about it anyway because a still DO have friends at that place (who ARE invited to the wedding). What are ya gonna do? Some people are immature & petty
