My Family isn't excited about....

me getting married. My parents kinda saw it coming since me and FH aren't very fussy with these kind of things and told them it would be soon. Now that I'm planning and stuff I'm kinda excited. All my mom's telling me is 'I didn't know you even WANTED a wedding' and then we got into an argument because she was upset that I'm picking venues in Long Island, so far from the city but that's where I'm getting the best prices so wth??? After she told me not to look at a specific place because it was too expensive and far, I shut her down and she swore from that day she wasn't going to give her opinion anymore. It's so childish. And my dad...well....he doesn't really care about details. He just wants to show up.

I feel all they care about it how much everything cost but then they want to add and add this and that person. I just called my mother to nag about the guest list (which she contributes to not doing because she's been working) and she just sounded so unenthusiastic. It just puts me in a bad mood. My future mother in law on the other hand has been so helpful and sweet, and is even throwing us an engagement party and helping us look for venues. She's so darn excited!

IDK I just needed to rant. I'm no frills kind of girl and I want to get married because I really love this guy but I thought my parents would be a little more there for me...even if I'm acting like b*tch sometimes. Granted we weren't the closest of people but still....

My Family isn't excited about.... - Long Island Weddings

my parents were like that in the beginning as well... i think the initial cost factor can stress some parents out. When we got passed the 1 year mark alot changed though. Shopping for my dress, the mob dress, the bridesmaids dresses, etc. all started to become really fun for all of us. I think it's too far out from your wedding day to get upset yet. Give it some time and it should hopefully start to pick up and get alot more exciting for the whole group!

My Family isn't excited about.... - Long Island Weddings

My mom is more excited about the wedding than I am. (Which is honestly super annoying because she hasn't planned a wedding since 1982 but thinks she knows everything!) and then there's my dad who hasn't even acknowledged the fact the I was getting married until recently. He's even made sarcastic comments about it like he saw our save the date and said I'm not saving the date? ***? So I've avoided talking about it with him because I get so mad but I spoke to my uncle recently and he told me that my dad is having a hard time with the idea of me getting married because I'm his daughter and it just not that easy for everyone. Which I can definitely understand so maybe your parents are feeling similarly? It's exciting because their daughter is growing up but still sad.

My Family isn't excited about.... - Long Island Weddings

You guys made some good points.

Cets...I also think it is because we are in the early stages of planning that my parents are becoming very stressed and angry. As the date gets closer there will be alot more planning to do and they might just turn around...I hope!

Thank you guys!

My Family isn't excited about.... - Long Island Weddings

I completed understand what you're going through. My mom wasn't happy (kinda still isn't - she's just accepted it) about me getting married. She didn't come with me to look at venues. I could talk to her about what dress I was looking to get before I went shopping. She just flat out wasn't interested. My FMIL was (and still is) super excited about. She actually came with me to look at a venue and dress shopping.

At first, I let it bother me. Eventually I got to the point where I had to stop letting it bother me, and enjoy it. I'm only planning on getting married once. Now that I'm just shy of 8 months, my mom is finally starting to get excited. She came with me when I found 'the dress', we just recently looked for MOB dresses (and will continue to do so on Sunday), we started talking about my shower. We have wedding convos a lo now. I kinda just let her come around, and now that she IS around I include her in everything.

Trust me - it will work out. Just enjoy YOUR wedding planning :)

My Family isn't excited about.... - Long Island Weddings

My parents were the same way, well my dad was at least. He didn't want to know anything we were planning, or didn't seem very enthusiastic or excited for us. Turns out, he was just shell shocked by how much everything cost/me leaving home. He was also a little embarrassed that my FH's dad was putting up more money than him, so his pride made him act a certain way. In his eyes, he felt ashamed that he wasn't the one that was putting up more money , since he felt it was his duty. People have their own way of expressing themselves, my dads way is just to shut down lol. He eventually came around, and even bought a custom suit lol

Don't worry, just keep moving forward with your planning and they'll come around. :)

My Family isn't excited about.... - Long Island Weddings

I know where you are coming from. My family is very excited. FH parents on the other hand isn't. It's been very stressful and we still have a ways to go. They aren't interested in anything at all bc to them it's still '2 years away', even though it's less then that. In the wedding world on LI things book up 2years away. It bothered me at first and I tired everything to get them to be interested and now I just ignore it. It's their loss that they don't want to be involved... Try not to let it bother you, they may surprise you and come around to the fact that their daughter is getting married and you're happiness is what matters

My Family isn't excited about.... - Long Island Weddings

Thank you guys! Feel a lot better now.

My Family isn't excited about.... - Long Island Weddings

I think it's always sad when a little girl leaves home and they are stressed out about everything. I am more stressed out how to deal with divorced parents plus they leave abroad, so I have to arrange all the travel for them and etc... At least I don't have to deal with $$ issues, since we are paying for everything ourselves. My parents are very supporting - my mom came to NYC to find me the dress and we did get one on her bday - she said it was the best gift a daughter can give to a mom - I was crying... But FH parents - nothing! They are so pissed off that we are getting married: I gave to FH mom 'save the date card' and she gave it back to us sayng that it's all waste of $$, can't believe we have to get married, and blah-blah; we had to mail the card to her! Mail!!! So, Your parents will come around and please be happy that you have awesome in-laws!