My FH doesnt understand these things....

He doesn't understand why:

Invitations should be handwritten...he will not pay for a calligrapher. He said let's buy labels!

Why my bridesmaids are wearing different dresses (same color)

Why we aren't including the registry with our invitations!

Why I want a videographer.

Arghhhh

You poor thing.........Maybe someone he trusts can sit him down and help him understand a thing or two!

best of luck!

boys can be so silly! he'll get it after people comment on how beautiful everything is, and when u can sit down & show ur children ur wedding video in 20years from now I however didn't get calligraphy done, but my mom has beautiful handwriting. we bought a gold paint pen, and she hand addressed all 270 invites! I also know of a bunch of girls who just had the envelopes printed in pretty fonts, BUT, personally if i didn't have my mommy's pretty handwriting, i totally would've had calligraphy done. to each is own right? like i said...he'll get it....eventually lol

oh - & he'll TOTALLY understand the registry thing when u walk away with lots of mula

---

Posted by Jenn04

He doesn't understand why:

Invitations should be handwritten...he will not pay for a calligrapher. He said let's buy labels!

Why my bridesmaids are wearing different dresses (same color)

Why we aren't including the registry with our invitations!

Why I want a videographer.

Arghhhh

---

They just don't understand, it's hard to explain. We had the invite place print our invitations and inner envelope- a lot cheaper and they still looked great! Also, my bridesmaids all had different tops and it is polite to include your registry in your wedding invitation. Is he from Long Island?

mine doesn't get the 10-12 people at a table. He thinks one more chair can be added.
He doesn't get why we NEED a RD.
he doesn't get why we need just about anything

---

Posted by Jenn04

He doesn't understand why:

Invitations should be handwritten...he will not pay for a calligrapher. He said let's buy labels!

Why my bridesmaids are wearing different dresses (same color)

Why we aren't including the registry with our invitations!

Why I want a videographer.

Arghhhh

---

Explain: Registry = bridal shower
wedding = monetary gifts

Nope they just dont get it, I just told DH everytime he asks a question like that or comments on something....thats just the way it goes

As for invitations, i will be honest, in my opinion its a waste-depending on the cost. We printed ours at home on a printer and they were all perfectly done. I have always noticed if someone had them hand done....BUT hve always just said, oh isnt that nice and that is is.

He is from Arizona and maybe they just do things differently out there! He also thought we should put our picture in with the invitations! I was like no! We actually sent save the dates with our pic! Anyway he may be having a hard time with some things because it is his money we are using. I forgot to mention that. He has been good about many other things...like me spending 4300 on photographer! Anyway we will figure it all out!

Just explain to him the best part about being the FH is that he doesn't have to get anything, he just needs to show up.... and then tell him to trust you that you know what is best.....

This subject is funny.I can relate!
I tried to get my DH involved - BIG MISTAKE. Everything I was doing during the process he would question or put down or knix it. (atleast try to)
I got so upset so I solved the problem by putting him on projects himself to be in charge of so he could get a better understanding of it all and the pricing. He got so overwhelmed , esp when I would give him back his same responses that he gave me.

To top it off I than I decided to drag him to appointments w/some vendors . Which it took time off of work on Saturdays and Sundays is our only full day together & making him miss Football too

He than said..o.k o.k You do the work and I will just pay for it, just please make sense with the money when you go to contract.


Do your self a favor for less stress - decide on what you want - but give him all the research when you present it to him . This will make him understand your not just being frivolous w/his money. Make sure you tell him that these are things you have dreamed about and you one have one chance at it. Ask him Doesn't he want his Bride happy? I am sure he does oh ya plenty of kisses will help.