My FH has no class

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:38 PM

My FH has no class

Please brace yourselves ladies I am shocked that this came out of his mouth.

He wants to put on our invitations:

'In Lieu of gifts me and him (insert names)would gladly appreciate a contribution to their house fund'

He is so serious that is the scary part. I politely told him that this is the most inappropriate thing I have ever heard of.

His response: Everbody's wedding is different and everyone does different things. I said yes, everyone's wedding is different but there is a code of ethics which everyone should follow.

I am shocked beyond belief.

missmmpr Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:41 PM

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oohh i would not put that on an invitation. Have it spread by word of mouth that you want money and not gifts.

you shouldn't tell people, but have family members tell people..

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:42 PM

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Oh I am definetely NOT.

I am just utterly shocked that he would suggest such a thing. I think he is listening some of his tacky friends who have done this.

missmmpr Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:43 PM

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guys don't know anything about this subject!!

taraalissa Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:44 PM

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Even the grammer is wrong.

LisaAnne Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:44 PM

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I would not do that either. Most people give money anyway for a wedding. Im sorry to have to say this but I could help but laugh. But at leat he is interested.

wacky Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:45 PM

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not a good idea, most weddings you recieve money you dont need to tell people what to give.

tell sweetie to leave it up to you.

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:47 PM

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I am so not laughing. He really thinks there is nothing wrong with this and had the nerve to get p*i*s*s*ed at me because I called him on it.

OMG, I am marrying a philistine. I thought I trained him so well.

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:51 PM

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That sounds like someone I know recently who was upset b/c she wanted an engagement party to make money to pay for the wedding and was told NO by her FH and her mother who were shocked that she suggested the idea. They told her OK on the party NO to the fundraiser.

wacky Posted: Feb 28, 2003 05:52 PM

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Ah Dont sweat it, Paul had some crazy ass ideas too.

I told him his job was to make deposits to the bank weekly

jpsgirl Posted: Feb 28, 2003 06:02 PM

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everybody gives money anyway, don't they?

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 28, 2003 06:03 PM

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Some People!!!!

It IS a challenge to pay for this wedding and try to purchase a home and I am up for it, but I would NEVER tell people that they should give me $$$.

I know I am acting a bit crazed, but I pride myself on being tactful, having a sense of decorum, and exuding class, he is not exhibiting any of these qualities, I hope he has not started telling this to people.

taraalissa Posted: Feb 28, 2003 06:04 PM

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Not everybody gives money. I have actually been to weddings where people showed up with gifts. One girl I knew actually received an unwraped blender from a crazy aunt. Can you imagine a blender box sitting on a table during your reception?

Oy Vey!

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 28, 2003 06:06 PM

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Taralisa you are right, not everyone gives $$$.

Some of our friends may not give us $$$$. I am already prepared for that. It does not really matter to me. I think that is what he is afraid of.

However people do not like to be told what to do and would be offended by such a request.

taraalissa Posted: Feb 28, 2003 06:07 PM

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Are you sure he's not just messing with you? How can he be real about this? Try giving him a smack upside his head, that ought to straigten him out.

WithThisRing Posted: Feb 28, 2003 06:09 PM

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my FI turned to my mom and said hey on the e-party invites you think you can add 'please contribute to the send brian and melissa to florida and build there house fund'

thank god my FI was seriously joking

wacky Posted: Feb 28, 2003 06:12 PM

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My friend went to a wedding and they ask in the invite to make the check to some account for their house fund. There are companies that do this.

Just tell him no, its tacky and thats it. Tell him if hes so worried to get a second job, j/k

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 28, 2003 06:14 PM

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Tara he is serious

I know him very very well, and I know when he is kidding.

Not to worry I will set him straight, but had to vent.

wacky Posted: Feb 28, 2003 06:14 PM

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thats why we are here, venting is good. Good Luck

natasha Posted: Feb 28, 2003 07:15 PM

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You can't even blame him, I have seen that statement or some variation of it on a quite a few wedding invitations.

Some people just don't know that this so so tacky.