My FIL are making me crazy already

Mrs.Z Posted: May 13, 2005 07:08 PM

My FIL are making me crazy already

Ok i just sent out invites for wedding. We put :adult dinner reception' My FH aunt never leaves her son alone EVER. this kid controls the house and them. FH called her w/ a heads up about the invites. Well that just didnt fly with her. Mind you my family has already made arrangements w/ sitters for their kids. FH tell her ' well if you really need to bring him you can' So my question is, Should I be pissedor not. I dont want kids there Its a late night and not a place for children. (and this kid is 5 and CRAZY!!!!!)Help what should I do
Jenn

debbiedee77 Posted: May 13, 2005 07:12 PM

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I think that if she brings her son, it might cause some issues with your family who had to make arrangements with sitters for that night. I would be pissed. It's YOUR wedding reception, if you don't want kids, they need to respect that. Especially if this kid is crazy.

gNi1125 Posted: May 13, 2005 07:13 PM

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I agree...no kids means no kids! Not fair to your family members.

Mrs.Z Posted: May 13, 2005 07:16 PM

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Thank you, thats what I said and got from the FH 'well you know crap' At my FBIL wedding the kid was asleep in the corner on the floor with two tableclothes,
ANd my family will flip out. not that day but as soon as I come back. I will be hearing this for 10 years to come

soontobemrsd325 Posted: May 13, 2005 07:18 PM

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I dont know what to tell you....if your family has GONE OUT OF THEIR way to get sitters, then this woman obviosly is unappreciative. she probably likes the drama. I would let it be. You put your foot down, no kids, they will all be well taken care of with sitters. I would drop it, and let her worry about it. She'll come around. Besides, you have more important things to worry about

Mrs. dleeny Posted: May 13, 2005 08:32 PM

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why would you allow 1 kid and not all of them? that's how I would position it.

EmberLynn Posted: May 13, 2005 08:33 PM

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You know what, I would tell her flat out, NO children. Tell your going to have music that may not be sutible for a child his age. Also point out how bored hes going to be and that there will be NO other kids there for him to be with. I'm allowing kids at my wedding but after a certain time any one under 18 has to leave. Certains songs are just not right for little ears. Also mention that there will be drinking and small children shouldn't be around adults who may have one too many. Tell her the no kid rule stays, and she can chose to get a sitter or not come at all.

LO13LO13 Posted: May 13, 2005 11:33 PM

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if this is what you guys already decided than you should be mad, he should stand up to his aunt

ckgmwedding Posted: May 13, 2005 11:39 PM

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That's just wrong. I am allowing 5 kids at my wedding and 2 of them are in the wedding party and are my FH niece and nephew. He insisted they be there.
The other one is 9 who is our godson and the final two are my brother's wife half-sisters who will entertain the wedding party kids. I am very nervous about however. I invited my SIL half sisters to keep the wedding party kids occupied since they tend to get crazy too. If I didn't have these awesome kids as a backup plan to keep the peace I would freak out!

DON'T BACK DOWN!

shellnroc Posted: May 13, 2005 11:50 PM

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No Kids is No Kids!!!!!!!! I do not want children at my wedding either. I would be mad if my FH said just bring him. Actually I can see my FH doing that too.
But if you don't want children their then that's the way it should be. It's your wedding!

Latrice Posted: May 14, 2005 08:31 AM

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Posted by gNi1125

I agree...no kids means no kids! Not fair to your family members.

I agree! I am not having kids at my wedding either. I have already gotten phone calls from a few people asking if they can bring them. The answer is NO to all of them And for the ones that say they cant get a sitter, I told them that thier presence will be missed if they cant atttend the wedding. But that I do understand but just can not and will not allow kids at my wedding.

Call me a bridezila!! But its my Day and my Way!!!

jersee3380 Posted: May 14, 2005 02:02 PM

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i absolutely agree! i've posted non stop about kids at the wedding b/c we are having a huge family issue about it. bottom line :: if they won't be there for 5 hours b/c of a kid, they probably won't be there anyway.

Posted by debbiedee77

I think that if she brings her son, it might cause some issues with your family who had to make arrangements with sitters for that night. I would be pissed. It's YOUR wedding reception, if you don't want kids, they need to respect that. Especially if this kid is crazy.

MrsStefan Posted: May 14, 2005 02:26 PM

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I am in the same dispute with my FIL because they want FH's aunt's kids there. FH and I agreed NO KIDS when we got engaged. FFIL says we HAVE to invite them. I say NO, FH says NO!!! When we said no kids we meant NO KIDS!!!

AnniesSS Posted: May 14, 2005 03:04 PM

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Posted by gNi1125

I agree...no kids means no kids! Not fair to your family members.

Exactly

skittles Posted: May 14, 2005 03:06 PM

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Yes, that is rude. YOur fiance' needs to call her back and say. Sorry for the confusion...but...i did not realize that all of the other families have gotten sitters for their kids so it would be so aprreciated that it stays this way. I don't want the other families to get upset with us. We are trying to have fun and not have any more stress with this wedding...thank you for understanding. It is soooo appreciated. OR...YOU CALL and explain this to her. Be assertive but very polite! Good Luck!

Mrs.Z Posted: May 15, 2005 11:34 AM

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Well Ladies, my battle is lost My Fh has now called all the family with children and has ENVITED them all 'if they like'. FH response to me was 'everything you wanted for the wedding you got, I want this' NOw what does one do? I know jump off the next bridge . I am not happy. I hate losing anything but this, I mean my god