Hi everyone. I am new to LIW but have been reading posts for a while. This is my first post! Anyway, I have a dilemma. FH and I are trying to iron out our guest list in order to have an idea of the number of guests we will be inviting. We both have cousins who are in their early twenties, or will be by the time of our wedding, and inviting each with a guest adds considerably to the list. What is the etiquette here? We would not mind if we knew the “guest” but we fear that they may think this is an open invitation and go out of their way to bring a guest. Also, space is a concern – we haven’t booked an RH yet, but we realize the number of guests will impact our choices. We did not want to have a huge wedding, but our list is growing. Any advice how to handle this? FH does not want to give his cousins the option whereas I think it is probably appropriate. There are 12 cousins to whom we would extend the 'and guest' option. Any advice how to handle? Thanks for reading!
christine2010
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Re: My first post - help with guest list dilemma!
Posted by CappyGirl
I really appreciate all the different opinions, I think it is safe to say that whatever we decide for one cousin will have to be the case for them all. I can already envision the family fights that will erupt . . .
On a separate note, just something interesting to share, I was in a friend from college's wedding in CT not too long ago and while I was invited with a date (FH) we were not seated together!! We thought that was so strange, but apparently it is not unusual! I was seated with the bp and he was seated at a table of all the dates!! He didn't know anyone!
this is why we are doing a sweetheart table & not a bridal party table. i would be more annoyed not being seating with FH, then being invited without FH.
