MY last new topic of the week... Ethical Dilemna about my Bachelor Party

Original post by OctGroom

Sep 04, 2004 02:02 AM

Background info --

One of my CLOSEST friends got married last year.. He's been a friend of mine since 1987. His wife is a sweetheart of a girl.

For his bachelor party, his new bride came along. Everybody was invited. It was a combo thing. (In other words.. you could bring your SO. It wasn't just the boys.)

It was a VERY fun & good day..

BUT>>>

The reason for the combo thing was that his FW didn't want him to go to a strip club. She felt that bcause he was going to be her husband --> why would he want to look at other women? (There's some validity to that).

NOW.. my bachelor party is coming up...

I told my Best Man.. plan whatever you guys want to do.. I don't care. I'll have fun just being with you. I'm up for anything.

MY FW doesn't mind me going to a strip club.

But I know my friend's DW will forbid him to go to a strip club for my party.

I know my we would all like to have the OPTION of choosing whether to go to one or not. Sure.. I admit.. going to a strip club might be fun. (It's a guy thing, I guess.. )

But I value my friend much more and I don't want trouble to start with him and his DW.

Yet.. it my bachelor party.. and does she have the right to tell us in essence what we ALL can and cannot do. We want to feel like we have the option to do it if we want to.

Opinions.....

HearzBellz Posted: Sep 07, 2004 02:30 PM

Re: MY last new topic of the week... Ethical Dilemna about my Bachelor Party

Whoo Hoo....yay! We rock!

1550611_1.gif

nferrandi Posted: Sep 07, 2004 05:17 PM

Re: MY last new topic of the week... Ethical Dilemna about my Bachelor Party

I'm just gonna let the 2 brothers handle it.

I got too many other things to drive me nuts!

That's the best idea. I understand your concern over wanting ALL the guys to hang out ALL night, but since you're not the one one planning it, you really can't control how it goes down. And as you said, it's your friends brother who is playing a role in the planning process, so let him figure this one out on his own.
I agree in a sense that your friend should grow some ba11s, but it's not his wife's fault either. He needs to work this out on his own with his wife. I'm getting the impression that he doesn't stand up to her too often and he makes it easy for her to pull this kind of BS. I've learned that people don't try to get away with BS if they don't think they can.