My MOH is out of my wedding!!!

Well, I picked one of my closest friends to be my MOH, and I was so excited to have her in my wedding...As my shower was being planned she started to completely exclude my Bridesmaids from all the planning and 'told' them what she was doing. She wasn't including anyone else, in fact she told my younger cousins (jr BMs) that they can come 10 minutes before the shower, just in case SHE wants them to do something...they were devastated. They wanted to help out so badly. My mom started to ask me questions and hinting around (my mom and I know each other so well, so I knew something was bugging her) about my MOH giving her trouble. When I asked her what she was doing, she ended up telling me that everything my mom suggested, my MOH would shoot down. My mom is paying for the entire shower, and my MOH was nothing short of nasty and condescending to my mom. When my mother said she wanted to get additional favors (aside from the 2 pretzels the MOH planned to give everyone!!!!!), she said that she 'does 3-5 showers per year, so she knows what she is talking about' and if my mom feels it is necessary to get more favors, than whatever...
Now for the best part of this...my mom explained to her that she did not appreciate the tones in her e-mails, this shower is for me and my happiness, it's not about anyone else. She completely made this about her, she ignored the pleas from the other girls to get involved and help plan. No one wanted to involve me and get me upset, but she just took everything way too far!!!!!!!!!
She ended up writing me an e-mail-YES, THAT IS RIGHT, THE MOH DROPPED OUT OF THE WEDDING THROUGH AN E-MAIL!!!!!!!! And at first, she started to blame it on money, saying she has a lot of bills to pay(she lives at home and is planning a summer vacation to Greece!!), and she will not go into debt for anyone (meaning me)...and then she said that she was just too uncomfortable around my mom, and feels disrespected. She says that she refuses to be humiliated! Again, this is not about her!!! She then told me that she comes first in her life, before anyone she is close with. Now for the kicker of her e-mail....IF I can move past this in the future maybe we can remain in contact. WHAT THE F???????!!!!!!!!?????? I know that I am forgetting something horrible that she said or did, I am just so mad!!! I ended up asking another girl in the BP to be my MOH, and she is awesome! She should have been my first choice...The girls are so excited that the old MOH is out and my new MOH is in! I just cannot believe the nerve of some people!! Sorry for the long vent girls!!!!!!!!!

WOW WHAT NERVE!!!!!

She sounds like a self absorbed b itch and this is the best thing that happened to your BP!!! Sooo not worth it but I am sorry you had to go through that....people can only hide their true colors for so long.

Sorry you had to go through this but I'm glad the right girl has the job now.

So sorry this happened, but at least she is out of the wedding-you don't need any drama like this on your wedding day.

the good thing is that it worked out for u at the end...thats great.....sry ur friend was a jerk to u but better kno now than later

that is terrible!

i'm so sorry that you have to go through this.... but your MOH should be focusing on YOUR happiness, not her own.

omg that is awful! i feel for you, i dont know why some people act that way ...but im sure glad she KICKED herself OUT

OMG.. what a C U Next Tuesday!!!!!!! I can't believe the audacity of her, esp 2 1/2 months before your wedding.. you don't need her as a friend and you certainly don't need her as a MOH.. what a BEOTCH!!!!

Thease are for you!!!

WOW that is horrible she in not a true Friend. Your really don't need that headache.

How cowardly of her, through e mail, no less.

Honestly..this is a blessing in disguise..this will all fall together sweetie

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Posted by Nina

How cowardly of her, through e mail, no less.

Honestly..this is a blessing in disguise..this will all fall together sweetie

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ditto

How awful! I agree with all the other girls - you are better off without her! Look at it this way, at least this happened two months before the wedding and not AT the wedding. You don't want someone this self absorbed at your wedding. Glad to hear that you have someone else to step in as MOH. It sounds like everything will work out. But really, some people UGH!

I'm so sorry you had to learn about your friend in this way. I can only imagine the betrayal you must feel. It's unfortunate that she forgot who was more important and allowed herself to get caught up in the planning.

I hope that the rest of your planning goes smoothly and that maybe you can resolve the mess your former MOH made. Remember, weddings can often bring the devil out of an angel!

OMG ~ That is sooo CRAZY! WOW speechless ~ but I am happy to hear it all worked out!

oy....this is crazy!!!!! Its so flipped of eveything. I have found that people are totally into it, and with love....OR, they are totally disengaged b/c they just don't care. THis is unlike anything Ive ever head and totally BIzzarre-o
I'm glad you now have someone better who people feel more comfortable with, and who everyone else is, too!

I am so sorry to hear that. I don't get it why accept the honor if it is going to be a problem and your not a team player. She is fortunate your mother is so helpful, bc in many cases guess who would be paying for the shower!! I am so sorry to hear this

I can def relate to you. My MOH and I had a falling out over her BF not being invited to the wedding, and me sticking to my guns with him not coming. Your MOH should have atleast called you to tell you, not through an email. That is how my MOH and I started our disagreement, through the phone. She is a coward for doing that!

Just think though, everything works out for a reason! She is one less stress that you have to deal with. You can move on from this and have a ton of fun with your new MOH.

I myself get wrapped up in I want my wedding to be perfect...I want this and this person there, and what not. Just remember that as long as your FH is there, that is all who matters on that day, You and HIM.

Hope things get better for you!

congrats on losing a pain in the *ss!!! you really lucked out that she dropped out on her own! that is ridiculous that she thought she had control regardless of your mom paying for the whole thing. And that whole comment about 'if I get over this' That says it all right there....she was once again worrying about herself!!! so rude!!

Sorry you had to go through so much drama!!