It was my cousin's graduation party today, and we had it at our house. At the end, we were putting all the food away, and I just cut a little piece of cake to pick at, and my mom said 'You don''t NEED that.' That was so mean. I lost 30 pounds and have kept it off a year, and this was a party. You'd think I'd be allowed to indulge a little. Plus, every time she talked about me to other people at the party (and I overheard) she just used this tone that she always dones, implying that I'm a pain or a brat. I really never gave her trouble growing up, and now I'm totally on my own and never ask for anything. She's just so derrogetory towards me. I just had to vent. I don't visit often, and then when I does she always makes it unpleasant.
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Did you talk to her about how you feel? My mom did something similar a few years ago. When I told her how I felt, she apologized and promised she wouldn't do it again. I felt nervous talking to her, but it was fine afterwards.
Feel free to vent!
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I'm so sorry. Mom's can really be that way, an coming from them it can hurt the most. Try to take it in stride. She probably feels like she's helpihg you, or maybe she can't help but feel jealous of how great you look. Just take it in stride
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Did you talk to her about how you feel? My mom did something similar a few years ago. When I told her how I felt, she apologized and promised she wouldn't do it again. I felt nervous talking to her, but it was fine afterwards.
Feel free to vent!
Thanks, But seriously, I can't talk to my mom, she just gets insulted and acts like a child. I've never been able to tell her how i feel about anything.
serendipity0680
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I'm so sorry I would try to have a sit down chat with your mom so you can tell her how you feel.
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oh sweetie, my mom is exactly the same way
lately its been ok but im always waiting for the other shoe to drop
just smile and say 'youre right' and scream when she leaves
it ***** that some moms cant even try to be like best friends with their daughters moms like yours and mine have issues that we could never understand
for me- i dont get why shes so jealous of my sucesses when most moms are thrilled for their kids
im here if you need to talk
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Goldi1021
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FH's mom does that to him all the time. He makes so much effort to make improvements and when she says hurtful thing to him, it hurts me too. Do your best to ignore it and keep up your hard work. If you want a piece of cake, HAVE IT!
As far as moms being their daughters best friends - not something I agree with. Moms (and Dads) should be there to offer guidance and advice and also to help their children when they are in need. They CAN offer constructive criticism if not done in a hurtful way. JMO
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I actually wouldn't want my mom to be my best friend. I just want her to treat me with a little respect and listen to me sometimes. Her motto when i was growing up was 'children should be seen, and not heard.' And it still is that way today. She treats my father the same way, so its nothing personal against me, I know it has to do with her own issues. Its just frustrating sometimes.
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Awwwww, sweetie!!! If ya need to chat, you can FM me. I can relate.
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oh sweetie, I'm sorry. I know how it feels
yesterday I showed a pic of my dress to my mom- she was like 'uh- THAT'S your dress...it's so ugly...and you'll be showing CLEAVAGE- why would you pick that....yadda yadda
to make it worse, she said all of this in front of my FH!!!!
anyway, I just thought it may make you feel better to know you are NOT alone- my mom and I are two VERY different people too!
it hurts, but just remember it and try not to do you to your daughter!
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Thanks, But seriously, I can't talk to my mom, she just gets insulted and acts like a child. I've never been able to tell her how i feel about anything
You must have my moms twin! My mom is very unsupportive and back stabbing! I feel for you, I really do. I just remind my mom whenever she starts acting rude, 'a son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter, is a daughter for the rest of your life!' and then I remind her she has three sons, and me. Then I remind her again that I know where all the good and bad nursing homes are!
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So sorry to hear that. Moms can be so brutally honest sometimes.
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awwwwwwwwww i know exactly how you feel. just yesterday i was crying and asking my fi if i could go find another family.
sometimes i think my mom does not even like me, especially when she gets that tone in her voice that sounds like she thinks i am so annoying.
makes me wonder why she even had any kids?!
vent all you want, we are here for you :) cheer up you'll be able to make your own family soon and you'll be able to treat them as nicely as you want :)
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honey, I am so sorry you are going through this nadI know what you are going through cuz I deal with the same thing with my FMIL and my FSIL I know how it is so please vent away
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my mom kind of treats me like the black sheep of the family. i mean, we get along, but we are not bff. i'm closer to my dad, maybe she resents that, but we've never discussed it. she knows how i feel and i know when she talks about me, its not to be mean.
but it s ucks i know. weddings make every one nuts, not just the bride
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Oh Honey I am sorry thats terrible!
You should be very proud of your self for keep that weight off ... talk to your mom tell her how much that hurt you and if she is trying to help there are other ways of going about it
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My mom's the same way too. We are not very close.
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Is it a full moon??? Cause my mom had a 'bad weekend' also... Friday night I cooked dinner (which I ALWAYS do... ) and cleaned up. We were headed to the stores, and then POOF, Mom was in a bad mood and didn't want to go. So we were going without her and I asked her if she was sure.. and she says 'Yes I am sure... And don't take my car cause I'm going to buy cigarettes!'.. Well that was it! I flew off.. which I never do at my mom or my dad for that matter.. it's the fact that she's been using her 'smoking' as a token to hold over my head cause she knows I hate it and she hasn't been smoking for four months now... She only says things to get at me, meanwhile I didn't even cause her to get in the bad mood!! I hate mom's sometimes.... they are so frustrating! And they just don't get it.. sorry to vent my peace... I'm done now..
