in march me and my moh went to surprise my mom in new orleans for her bday. while there for the weekend we went to a country type bar/club. my mom met some biker looking guy. they started going out eventually after that. then eventually he moved in with her.
today she text messages me at 10 am saying she is getting married at 1 pm (central time) so yes my mom is now married. I have 2 stepsisters, & 1 stepbrother now!
she says she didn't want to make a big deal about it because I'm getting married. she sent a text to fh at 9 am telling him! and her ex bf she was with for 8 years, she told him last week! I'm her only daugher!!!! besides an aunt, and 2 cousins no one else in the family knows. but still I was almost the last to know.
aren't moms supposed to be the responsible ones? I feel like my life became a lifetime movie lol. does this mean he has to usher her down the aisle now? I have no idea how my dad is gonna react. I barely even know this guy. now he's family! ugh. my mom must think she's a celeb to run off and do this.
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oh my gosh!! thats midlife crisis talk lol
can moms have that? I think she just wants to be like everyone else. everyone in my family is married, and now i'm about to be.
Everyone has a midlife crisis...I don't know if this may be one, but if she's truly happy with him and you like him, be happy for her. It may seem weird to people in their 20s but when you get older you realize how fast time has gone by and if you really love the person and he or she makes you happy, I say go for it.
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I feel your agony...My mom knew a guy 3 months & got married....divorced in 11 months (mind you 2nd divorce). Now my issue is that she's dating a guy my age (I'm 36, she's 54 in Sept.) AND get this....he wants to get married & have kids!!! I'm more mad at my mom for persuing him & taking that dream away from him, so that she can have her 'boy toy'.....I've never met him...she lives in FL...but I could care less if I ever meet him either...Just another revolving door to me. But my husband-2-b is 45...see where I'm going? SO.......you're not alone...I'm hoping he'll be gone B4 I get married LOL (I know, that's mean...just tired of her saga life). PS I DOUBT it's 'love', my mom is loaded & he's a personal trainer/car detailed/ebay seller.....I say looking for a 'sugar mama'...ARG!
SOrry for venting....I needed that.....
my mom did that after her big breakup. she kept dating guys my age. i'm 23! then the weirdest part. they'd start asking about me!!!! and be like oh set me up with her. we weren't engaged then but I had fh thank god. it was just so gross. her old bfs still im me online lol. I guess I should be happy she didn't marry one of them. at least she married a guy her age, thank god.
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I would be floored...why were you the last to know? If you arent going to be comfortable I am sure he dosent have to walk her down the aisle...maybe she truly didnt want to take away from your planninng though I am sure she could have told you ahead of time that she was doing it....but maybe she was afraid of how you would react? I hope you and your mom talk this through so there are no hard feelings....and yes moms can have mid life crises ...hell sometimes I have midweek crisies lol
her thing now is she didn't want to tell me, afraid i'd tell my grandma. I feel bad her not knowing. i'm not going to be the one to tell her though. she doesn't want it to be a big deal but not telling anyone is going to make it into a big thing. once my whole family finds out.
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whoa crystal, i'm sorry to hear you're dealing w all that!
my mom can act like a teenager sometimes too but i can't even imagine how i would feel if she did something like that. i hope eventually you get to know this guy and have better feelings about him, and all i can say is just try to be supportive of your mom. i don't know the whole situation, but you don't want to tell her how you really feel and have her alienate you. but i know that's probably really hard to keep from her.
i hope however you decide to handle it, that you feel better about it eventually.
thanks. he doesn't seem that bad. it's just the rushing into things. she got out of a 8-10 year relationship just last year. she only met this new guy march 10th and now she's married to him. I always hoped she'd get back with her ex. but oh well. it makes sense though cause the ex lives in ny, she lives down south. as long as she's happy, and things work out i'll be fine about it.
good thing is we are all going to cali together in sept for a week. so everyone can get to know each other better. I just hope she tells everyone else soon. I hate my grandma not knowing.
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Unfortunately sometimes the people that are supposed to be the most stable are off their rocker. I made the mistake of inviting my mother to my engagement party and I found out she is now dating my MOH's father. Extremely inappropriate but she could care less. Hang in there sister!!
my mom started drinking again so since then she's been crazy lol. my mom hooked up with one of my bridesmaids cousins. (who also happens to be fh's good friend) then fought with him at the engagement party for dancing with my friend. hopefully she just settles down now. I don't need any jealous fights at the wedding.
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Unfortunately sometimes the people that are supposed to be the most stable are off their rocker. I made the mistake of inviting my mother to my engagement party and I found out she is now dating my MOH's father. Extremely inappropriate but she could care less. Hang in there sister!!
my mom started drinking again so since then she's been crazy lol. my mom hooked up with one of my bridesmaids cousins. (who also happens to be fh's good friend) then fought with him at the engagement party for dancing with my friend. hopefully she just settles down now. I don't need any jealous fights at the wedding.
Hopefully nothing like that happens at the wedding..maybe you can talk to her or her husband about it before then .......I really hope it all works out !!!
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Oh boy...this is a VERY difficult situation. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. I really wish you the very best...and about him walking your mom down the aisle...unless you decide yes, I say absolutley NOT! You do not know him and it is your decision ultimately. GOOD LUCK!
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my mom started drinking again so since then she's been crazy lol. my mom hooked up with one of my bridesmaids cousins. (who also happens to be fh's good friend) then fought with him at the engagement party for dancing with my friend. hopefully she just settles down now. I don't need any jealous fights at the wedding.
