So pretty much my mother and I have been going at it back and forth for the last 6 months over the wedding, because she thought it was her wedding pretty much. We had a fight today over brides maids dresses and she pretty much kicked me out of her car and called my reception hall and canceled my wedding which was happening this may.
Im stuck now, im so upset and i dont know what to do. I still want to have a wedding, but my fiance and I just bought a house and were strapped for cash. Plus, my mom was my boss and she fired me over all this. (shes crazy!)
So now im jobless and weddingless. Does anyone know any really cheap places I can go?? im so destroyed, now were going to try and attempt to find a cheap place to have it.
chrispar
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I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope this all work out for you
Soon2beAlberti
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coral house is inexpensive or if your church has a large room you can prob use that for really cheap, maybe even nothing if you explain the situation. Thats just crazy and I don't know that speaking to your mom would help at all...i mean...if she kicked you out of the car, cancelled your wedding and fired you...she doesn't exactly seem like someone you can reason with.
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WOW! I am so so so so sorry!!! I am in shock that your mom would do something like this to her own daughter. Such a horrible situation.
I would call the reception hall and ask to speak to the sales manager. Explain the situation. Tell them that you and your fiance would still like to have your wedding there but that due to the situation- you are no longer able to pay for everything up front. Ask them if there is a way that you can have a payment schedule with them- or be able to put it on a credit card at the very end-and that way you can pay your credit card bill OR the place right after the wedding.
Again, I am so sorry. I can not believe that your mom would do this to you. There is absolutely nothing you can be fighting about that is serious enough to make her do something like this.
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I am so sorry that this is happening to you, and I'm so sorry that your mother has been so vindictive about something that is supposed to be the best day of your life.
Ok so my advice to you is to if you have booked your honeymoon already, just get married there on the beach or something like that. That way it will still be something beautiful and memorable. And secondly, since your mom is your boss and fired you over this, I would get an attorney and sue here for wrongful firing. I know that may sound harsh but what she did to you is completely ridiculous and selfish.
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I am so sorry to hear all of this, nobody should go through this. Your mother sounds very selfish and manipulative. You are just going to have to work hard with your fiance (find a new job of courseand work two jobs if you have to) and do it on your own. I am sure you and FH will have to overcome larger hurdles than this in your life together so view it as an experience to work together and get through it.
I feel really bad for you. If you ever need to talk, feel free to FM any time.
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So New update, My mom came to me and totally apologized. But to me the damage was already done and now im all upset and not sure if i even want this wedding if its under her wing. I know ill never be able to afford all this, and Of course i want to get married and do the whole thing, im just so torn. I know my fiance really wants to keep it all and keep going with it, so i guess i will. im just really mad about it all.
THANKS to everyone who FM'd me, you guys on this site were actually better then my real friends and gave me better advice!!!!
I cant even say thank you enough. Thank you thank you thank you!
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I am so glad that your mom came to her senses. I would keep the wedding the way you started to plan it. I know you are mad now but you don't want to regret changing it later.
Good Luck and let us know how things go!
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OMG how awful of her!!!!! I hope she comes to her senses and you can work things out
jeanne08
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just read your update, keep it going, you're almost there! Don't let one crazy day ruin your wedding.
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Posted by bride138
So New update, My mom came to me and totally apologized. But to me the damage was already done and now im all upset and not sure if i even want this wedding if its under her wing. I know ill never be able to afford all this, and Of course i want to get married and do the whole thing, im just so torn. I know my fiance really wants to keep it all and keep going with it, so i guess i will. im just really mad about it all.
THANKS to everyone who FM'd me, you guys on this site were actually better then my real friends and gave me better advice!!!!
I cant even say thank you enough. Thank you thank you thank you!
Just take one day at a time....slowly repair whats been torn (not saying you did anything wrong here...) since everything is still wrong. I dont blame you for not wanting to jump up and be relieved, bc theres a lot that goes beind the giving of a wedding, a lot of meaning..
just know that we are here to help and listen when it gets tough, but in the end im sure itll work itself ou t. Lets not start to build some new, happy memories
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Good Grief! I can't believe this happened to you. I'm glad things are getting better for you. Just be patient. I'll keep you in my prayers.
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well i am glad that she apologizd.... take your time and think things through im sure the will all work out..... we wish you luck
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Well I think you deserve the wedding you've always dreamed of so if you can make it work you may be happier in the long run. I understand you cannot forgive what she did......I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
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Posted by bride138
So New update, My mom came to me and totally apologized. But to me the damage was already done and now im all upset and not sure if i even want this wedding if its under her wing. I know ill never be able to afford all this, and Of course i want to get married and do the whole thing, im just so torn. I know my fiance really wants to keep it all and keep going with it, so i guess i will. im just really mad about it all.
THANKS to everyone who FM'd me, you guys on this site were actually better then my real friends and gave me better advice!!!!
I cant even say thank you enough. Thank you thank you thank you!
You definitely deserve the wedding of your dreams! I'm hoping that this all works out now that your mom apologized and that you can all move on with the wedding plans.
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I am so glad she apologized and you are going to continue with the wedding. Did she not actually cancel the hall then? I knew you said she was faxing a letter to them the other day.
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Posted by bride138
So New update, My mom came to me and totally apologized. But to me the damage was already done and now im all upset and not sure if i even want this wedding if its under her wing. I know ill never be able to afford all this, and Of course i want to get married and do the whole thing, im just so torn. I know my fiance really wants to keep it all and keep going with it, so i guess i will. im just really mad about it all.
THANKS to everyone who FM'd me, you guys on this site were actually better then my real friends and gave me better advice!!!!
I cant even say thank you enough. Thank you thank you thank you!
so glad to hear things have cooled down. U absolutely deserve the wedding of ur dreams...just take everything one day at a time, try not to fight, and try to patch things up. This only happens once in ur life so try to make the best of it. we're all here for ya
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OMG I am so sorry to hear this. Do you have a price that you and FH can afford to pay pp? How about a nice restaurant and do something buffett style. I have a couple of places I can suggest just wondering what your budget is.
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Posted by jtgarsik
Posted by bride138
So New update, My mom came to me and totally apologized. But to me the damage was already done and now im all upset and not sure if i even want this wedding if its under her wing. I know ill never be able to afford all this, and Of course i want to get married and do the whole thing, im just so torn. I know my fiance really wants to keep it all and keep going with it, so i guess i will. im just really mad about it all.
THANKS to everyone who FM'd me, you guys on this site were actually better then my real friends and gave me better advice!!!!
I cant even say thank you enough. Thank you thank you thank you!
so glad to hear things have cooled down. U absolutely deserve the wedding of ur dreams...just take everything one day at a time, try not to fight, and try to patch things up. This only happens once in ur life so try to make the best of it. we're all here for ya
Sorry just read your update. Happy things worked out for you . Big SIGH of relief
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Oh, I'm glad to hear things are getting better. And I know they will. Honestly, if you really try, I'm sure you can stick to a small budget. Do what you want, don't worry about anyone else, therfor you will not have any regrets. I have worked on a very small budget so I know it's possible. Only spend what you have. There are things more important in life than a wedding, put your money there.
JennNicole
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crazy crazy! Not to mention stressful!
Since you know how your Mother will be you will have to take a different approach for your BIGDAY when it comes to making the decisions. Unfortunately, when someone else is paying there is A PRICE to pay for it!
Nothing comes for FREE.
I know this will be hard but Whatever the outcome is in the end try to keep having little talks with yourself that all that matters is the man your are marrying and not all the messy details of what your mother did or didn't do for you. She cannot change the BEST part or control it which is your LOVE for each other that made you want to get married in the first place.
