My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Dont want to get into details just needed to put it in print to believe it! My brother is young(13)so I cant be angry with him but my mother and my sister who was supposed to be my MOH. This is unforgivable! My sister disappeared after lending her money I didnt have and I havent heard from her since. My mother would show if I ****** up her latest drama she caused but I just cant handle the trouble and humiliation she causes anymore. My other brother cant even talk to her anymore. Just some history...my mom walked out on us when we were little and we let her back in. She has always treated us as if we were someone elses kids that she was sitting for. Strangers would get birthday gifts before we did, we would be told she didnt have the money! Okay so why would I find it surprising 30+yrs later when she tells me she's going on vacation with her friends and when I bring up the wedding in the same conversation she tells me that she hopes she has the money to fly up here by then. So I said 'are you telling me you might not be coming to my wedding?' and she tells me well it's not that I dont want to I just dont know if I'll have money. WELL HOW ABOUT YOU TAKE THE MONEY YOUR GOING AWAY WITH YOUR GIRLFRIENDS WITH AND PUT IT IN THE BANK SO YOU CAN MAKE IT TO YOUR DAUGHTERS WEDDING!!!!!!!!!! I want to say I just dont care but it hurts that my own family would do this to me.

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Awww im sorry to hear they are doing this to you! Maybe you are better off-you dont want the drama on YOUR DAY! If she can't think to use that money towards coming to your wedding, then thats just horrible!

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

What is wrong with people!!?!?!?! I can't understand it! I'm so sorry you are having such trouble. Here's a huggy

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Thanks! My mom has always been selfish but when my brother got married she was included at all and it hurt her so I went out of my way to include her. I even asked her to come up in Oct. to go gown shopping with me and maybe while she was here she could help me make some DIY things for the wedding. I have sent her pictures of everything I was interested in. When my sister moved up to NY from FLA. I opened my house to her granted she's only 20yr but your still old enough to have loyalty to someone who took care of you your whole life. She's morphed into my mother. I wouldnt even expect the money back if she didnt spend it on partying with her friends instead of paying her rent and bills like she borrowed it for when I specifically told her I didnt have it to lend and I would take it out of my wedding deposit money! Then not to even acknowledge me. My kids im her when she's on and she doesnt even respond. I feel like Im in the twilight zone who does this to someone.

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

awww im sorry you are going threw this

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

so sorry you have to go through this, nobody deserves that treatment.

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Awww I am so sorry you are going through this. Hopefully things will get better for you soon.

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

OMG sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through such pain right now. I would be devastated too. Try your hardest to keep focus hunny and don't let anyone ruin your special day. Keep your head up!

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

i'm sorry

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

I'm so sorry. I can't believe any mother could be like that

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Thanks! I def. will not let it ruin the wedding. Im in just total shock that Im dealing with this. I cant even tell you how my sister is hurting me more than anyone because we are 15yrs apart and whenever she was having trouble with my mom she would call me. I mean my dad wasnt even her dad and since she was two she would come to stay with him for the summers and visit him all the time. That's how close we all were. She was so excited when I asked her to be MOH and then she leaves here a person I dont even know! I really hate my family. I feel like Im the only one that has any morals or values at all.

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Aww! I'm so sorry that your'e going through this. I can't believe someone (you're own family) would do this to you-on such an important day! I recently went through something somewhat similiar and it made me realize how cruel and selfish people can be. My dad is recently deceased. His brother (my uncle) refuses to come to the wedding OR let my cousins or their kids come either (or he'll disown them), all because I invited my Aunt, who he doesnt talk to. I tried explaining to him that the adults can behave like kids and not speak, but that I was going to do the right thing and invite everyone. So now on top of not having my dad at my wedding (one of the most important people), I have no one in his family speaking to me! I emailed them and called them-trying to rationalize but then I realize that you can't try to convince someone to feel as you do and you can't control certain things-as much as you want to. I know it hurts and I'm so sorry that you're going through this but just keep reminding yourself of all the people who do care and are going to be there for you. I know that doesn't help entirely. Maybe you're mom will come around and things will work out!

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Omg, I'm so sorry to hear about this!!!!! But it really sounds like you're better off not having these people attend your wedding, you'll enjoy the people who ARE there so much more!!!

Is there any way you can fly up your 13 y/o brother since he seems to be the innocent victim in all of this?

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Wow that is a touch situtation to be in. I am so sorry you are going through this. Dont let it upset u though. Your mom and ANY mom know how important this day is to you. And if she would rather go spend it with her friends and not worry about your feelings, then dont worry about hers. As harsh as it sounds, u have to think about yourself and your happiness first.

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Unfortunetly my mother will use my brother as an excuse. She'll tell me that he's not allowed to fly without her. It's also not a question of her coming around it's the fact that this is her way of thinking and it's nausiating. At this point I dont want her there but my dad died 7yrs ago so now except for my one brother that I am not really close to nor do we get along on a day to day basis is the only one from my immediate family who might be there! It's just hurtful. Why couldnt they wait to pull this crap after June

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

I'm so sorry that your family won't be there. I hope that you are able to enjoy your day. It might be better without the drama anyway.

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

you are better off without them~

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

Sending some hugs your way. I'm sorry your family is giving you such a hard time right now. I hope you are all able to reconcile and move passed it so that they can be there on your wedding day. But if that isn't possible, I am sure that your friends and family who do go to your wedding, will make your day very special. You will feel loved that day.

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

omg im so sorry your going through this

cheer up~

Re: My mother, sister and younger brother not coming to my wedding...

what a shame that it has to be like that....i hope your fh's family is good to u so u get the love and support u deserve from family...