My mother who has done more for this wedding than I ever imagined she could just threw curveball at me
She would like my MOH to email my bridal party to ask them for money towards the shower. Has anyone heard of this before? They are inviting 75ppl and my mom said the costs are getting out of control so she would like some help, I just feel like this is a huge burden on my girls who have other wedding expenses on their plates. What are your feelings? Please help!
MrsDrinkh20
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i have had to pay for a shwoer before when I was in the wedding...it definitely happens1 maybe they can figure out a way to cut costs so that it is not too much for the gals...dont worry !
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Posted by LegoBride
My mother who has done more for this wedding than I ever imagined she could just threw curveball at me
She would like my MOH to email my bridal party to ask them for money towards the shower. Has anyone heard of this before? They are inviting 75ppl and my mom said the costs are getting out of control so she would like some help, I just feel like this is a huge burden on my girls who have other wedding expenses on their plates. What are your feelings? Please help!
Ive heard ofthis before... a couple of times..
Mrs B to Be
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It's less common to ask for money these days (i sound like an old lady) but IT IS common to ask the bridal party to take care of certain aspects of the shower.
I've been in a few BPs and we've been asked to take care of the invites and favors....or the prizes and games....or the Decor.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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I believe this is how its normally suppossed to be handled but not done too often b/c girls within the 20's range sometimees dont have money to contribute like that
If that is your bp's case, you may have to opt for something cheaper like a brunch or contribute money yourself towards it... I know if I was asking to contribute to that, I wouldnt be the happiest of all people cuz I'm sure the expenses of being in a bp add up very quickly!
MrsDtoBe09
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I've been a part of bridal parties where we've had to take care of the shower. Tell your MOH or mom to register on here so we can give her tips on how to throw a shower that wont break the bank!
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Hi! Not to worry! I have been in weddings before where I was asked to contribute in some way. Maybe the girls can be asked to do favors or decorations to defray the cost for your Mom. As a bridesmaid in the past I have expected to pay for some shower costs
LegoBride
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Thanks girls. She actually isn't asking for a lot of money just a little from each girl. I just thought the idea of asking a BP to help out was way outdated. The problem is the 75ppl guest list - what happened to showers in the house with 20ppl or less
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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Thanks girls. She actually isn't asking for a lot of money just a little from each girl. I just thought the idea of asking a BP to help out was way outdated. The problem is the 75ppl guest list - what happened to showers in the house with 20ppl or less
ITA! The less the better! not every woman invited to the wedding must come to the shower! hehe
littlepixie12
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That isnt unusal ... usually its either the MOB that pays for the shower or the BP pays, so I dont see why it cant be a combo of both.
evewedsjc
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I have heard of that before...
mcbride62009
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I have only heard of the bp spliting it. I thought it was just a part of the costs/duties of BP. Who do you expect to pay for it?
VickiR510
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Ive had to pay into showers before. I dontthink its crazy to ask for some help.
kweber322
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I was a bridesmaid last summer and all of us were asked to contribute $200 to the shower. $75 really isn't that bad at all and I actually didn't even mind paying the $200 - I could tell her mom really needed help.
MakingofaMulligan
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What if she asked (instead of money) for the girls to get the favors, or decor...etc.
I got the cake, decor, favors for the shower at the last wedding I was in! No big deal. I think sometimes asking them to get things is easier then asking for money? maybe?
MEMEJOR
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yes i have heard of this... i had had to this for my cuz... it didnt mind at all
Celeste617
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I've had to pay a little towards the bridal shower in the past...
Future Mulligan
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my matron of honor (FSIL) is footing the majority of the bill for my shower - i think my best friend and my mom are giving what they can to help...not sure how much anything costs or who is giving what though - my FH spilled the beans about the cost b/c I begged him to tell me - i was worried b/c i didnt want his sister to be out a lot of $
Future Mrs Roo
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its not uncommon for the bridal party to help with the shower. she can put it out there and see what happens.
