So I haven't been on really at all since my wedding last month and I wanted to share with ou girls why.
Here's some background info first. I found out about my shower b/c I HATE surprises and I needed to know when it was going to be to rest my nerves. I only told DH that I knew and I posted about it on here. Other then that nobody else knew that I knew. So......
At the wedding DH's cousin came up to me and was like 'Oh how was your shower?' (She lives out of state but was still invited.) So I tell her it was great and so much fun. Then she goes 'And did you still act surprised even though you knew about it?' So I play dumb and insist I didn't know about it because we're standing with my mother in law also. So she continues with 'Yeah I know that you knew because of your website.' (Meanig LIW ) So by now my mother in law had gotten distracted so I pulled her aside and said What are you talking about? So she goes on to tell me that she's been reading my comments and everything on here!!! She had to reason to be on here except to spy on me! She's not from NY, she's been married already for a long time so was clearly just being a snoop! I didn't know what to say to her so I just explained my reasoning for finding out the date and walked away. Then I find out that she went and said something to my mother in law when she found out.
Not for nothing but isn't this very psychotic and stalker-ish of her to be doing? And then to go and tell other people what you've read? To me it's just very creepy behavior and to me she should get a life.
So ever since then I've been kind of turned off to LIW. I have been lurking and reading people's posts. Megan (Soon2beMrsD) your pics are beautiful! Congrats! I hope I can get over this and come back b/c I really miss you girls!
RisiLeigh
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Wow - that's really sketchy...
I'm sorry, sweetie!
snwb08
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that is insane! some people are just totally crazy and have nothing better to do - and why did she feel the need to call you out on it AND tell your MIL?
Congrats on your wedding!!
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thats such an invasion of privacy- sorry that that happened to you- and like you said, she needs to find something to do with her free time! if you feel like she's still gonna stalk you- maybe change your user name?
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That is just horrible! I'm sorry you experienced that. I can't believe she would call you out on it on your wedding day and in front of your MIL. She S U C K S and I hope she reads this post so she can see what everyone thinks of a snoop on this board.
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Thats crazy! I can't believe that she didn't tell you months ago that she found you on this site. That is wrong. Oh and if she's lurking right now....GET A LIFE!
Valerie-Joe
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Congratulations on your wedding!
Sorry, that's so weird that she would do that!
Julybride08
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wow That is a little stalker-ish. I would be so mad if someone did that to me.
kori22ny
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WOW!!! This person needs to get a life. I think you should just be careful what you post, and not let her stop you from sharing your stories and comments with everyone.
ant n tilde
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Obviously we all have to remember this is a public site BUTwhat was the point of telling your MIL? Sounds like she just wanted to upset you AND your MIL for no reason.
Sad, really.
Keep posting - just censor yourself a bit and Congratulations!
Soon2BMrsD
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wow Candice people really have no lives and need to start drama for no reason!!!!! im so sorry this has happened to you!!!! we miss you around here!!! (no need to post family issues just come and chat) Thank you so much for the nice comment that was really sweet of you!
anyway congrats and i hope your enjoying married life!
Kimbalina
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That is awful!!?!??!?!?! Why would she put you in that position on your wedding day no less!!!
Future Mulligan
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ugh that *****!
i try so hard not to write anything that IRL would hurt someone's feelings or that is private or whatever - but its hard.....especially since this site keeps me occupied when i have free time at work
i think its weird that she was spying and reading your posts....i think we all have a little spy in us sometimes (i know i do - even FH does! ) but too continue to read your posts and then to go and TELL your MIL - i dont think that was nice...and confronting you on your wedding day - that was harsh - she sounds like a witch to me!
i would hate for people IRL to read what i write on here especially b/c IRL i dont talk about my wedding at all - i feel like LIW is my wedding chit chat place and i like that....i dont need to bore people IRL with this crap - but we all are going through the planning motions together - so things that might be looney to people IRL dont seem so crazy to us b/c we ALL have bride brain
unforunately there are times that i think that i may have a spy - i really really pray that i dont - but i wouldnt be surprised if there is someone reading all of my posts - and that is a sucky feeling - but you want to know what , i dont let it stop me - besides what else am i going to do while im at work
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Thanks girls. I thought maybe I was having my last bridezilla moment and was overreacting about it. Like Tilde said, I know it's a site for the public viewing, but there was no need to broadcast what she read. My only hope is that it didnt make it back to my mom who worked so hard and planned my shower.
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please dont let that hold you back from posting on here- i know we all have it in us to be nosy but to actually go that far to tell your MIL and make something out of nothing- it seriously isn't a big deal that you knew about your shower and she should have just minded her own personally if I was reading someones posts on a public forum I dont think I would want to admit it to the original poster - that just makes it sound a little weird and freaky
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Wow...I think their should be a rule where you can only log in to read posts so there are no lurkers. But I'm sure psychos would register just to lurk...unreal
del Rio
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First of all, Congratulations!
I am sorry that this happened to you!! It's horrible that people can take the good out of this site. Honestly, it has come across my mind several times to be more aware of what I write and say because this is a public forum and who knows who may be lurking.
The fact of the matter is we all come here to share about anything and everything wedding related and even NWR and if she finds negative in that then maybe she needs to find her own forum and post about it!
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WoW that stinks!!!! I am so sorry, but dont let her take you away from us!!! Come back and comment again......
lizzie217
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I am sorry that happened to you It stinks....and I have heard this about other sites as well MYSpace,Facebook..people get fired bc of blogs,students get kicked out of schools for god sakes!!
this why personally I would never talk about anything I wasnt comfortable with the world seeing (such as private family/friend issues) this is the WORLD WIDE WEB....it is out there for the world to see..I always take this into consideration when posting here or elsewhere
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Honestly, I think it's very thoughtless and selfish of this person to tell you this on YOUR WEDDING DAY!!! What was she thinking? She needs to get a life. I hope she's reading this too. It's like she was looking forward to confronting you on YOUR WEDDING DAY. Wow she must be very unhappy and wants to s h it all over someone elses happiness. What she did was wrong and you did nothing wrong. If she wanted to read about it, then that's her problem.
She lives out of state. So you don't have to deal with her. I would just tell MIL the truth and tell her why you needed to know about the shower and let it be.
