my short marriage is over..update he left!!!!....

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this, especially at the start of the school year. You are 100% right and if he doesn't come around, then maybe it's for the best because you deserve to be 1st in his life. It's time he grew up and acted like the man he should be. Sounds like he has bigger issues than just being immature (drinking/getting wasted). And the fact that he's pushing back blame for the problems in your marriage on you, tells me he's completely selfish. He won't take ownership or accountability for anything.

Good luck - my prayers are with you

Im so sorry!

I am sorry to hear that.

Good luck. I hope that you are both able to do what is right for the both of you.

I think you are incredibly strong to have made this decision.

Kristi, I am so sorry, my heart is truly breaking for you!! I hope and pray that his leaving will help him to realize how lucky he is to have you before it is really too late. As for work, it is nobodys business, just tell them everything is fine and leave it at that, telling them will just upset you more becuase everyone will want to know whats going on. I hope you had a good day with your new kiddies and I hope they kept your mind off things for a little while!! I am here for you, just a phone call away!!

I'm soooooo sorry to hear you're going through this. I'm embarrassed to say, my DH and I went through the same thing. He didn't leave though. He would go out w/ his friends until 4am... 5am.... and think everything was great. (***?) I use to say to him, he married the wrong person and if he wanted to live in a frat house, he should've moved into one! I didn't ever think I was going to have to ask him to grow up, but I did. He didn't see anything wrong with it (still doesn't) but doesn't do it anymore b/c he saw how much it hurt me. A part of me hopes he just realized how unnecessary it was. I never said don't go out... but come on.
I'm only saying that b/c he clearly needs to grow up a little bit. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, he just doesn't know how to be married yet. I guess, and I've learned the hard way, that's why they say the first year is the hardest. I hope it works out for the best

I agree that this is for the best! Good Luck!!

I'm sorry that you're going through this so early in your marriage, but sometimes it takes a while to get the kinks out. When Fh and I first moved in together it was a big adjustment for us both. If we had walked away when things got tough we wouldn't be where we are today. I'm certainly not telling you to back down, because you're right, he should not be out partying all the time. But if you BOTH want to make things work, than you BOTH need to put effort into making things better. Why don't you wait it out for a couple of days. Give him and yourself some time to think. Then, even if you have to be the one to pick up the phone, call him and meet with him. You guys have a lot to figure out. Are you going to work together and try to work things out? Or are you beyond that and want to move towards an annulment? It should be a decision that you make together since it effects both of you equally. Good luck!

How are you doing?

I'm so sorry.

i just saw this and wanted ot send you all the s in the world. You are a strong indivudal and i cna only imagine how hard this is. Hang in there and you have us anytime you need us!

I'm so sorry!!!

I am srry that you are dealing with this-

Be strong