My FH had his bparty last night and I decided to have the girls over for dinner while the guys were out doing their thing. So the girls and I were in deep conversation, one topic led to the other and we then ended up talking about the details to FH bparty. I found out that instead of going to a strip club they decided to just hire them to come to them. I am livid, if they were strippers fine but they are a little more than that. Lets just say they cater a little bit more than the usual. (actually lot more) He got home at 6am and what kills me is that I will never know what happen but for some reason my gut is telling me that whatever happen was not pretty. I trust him but I don't trust his friends or the drink.
What should I do? I feel like I don't even want to be next to him. I'm two weeks from the wedding and I feel disgusted. That is just plain nasty. Like I said I don't mind the strip clubs but having girls over is totally a different story. I could find out details of what happen but what if I find out something terrible? People who know me, know that I don't forgive, if I find out that he screwed up, I will be real quick to terminate this wedding.
SeptemberBride2012
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**So glad that you have peace now with this whole situation, especially so close to your wedding**
Tomsbride
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Thank god for updates! You gave me anxiety
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i am so glad to hear that you had someone to talk to that could verify that your FH was acting appropriately---- we all can say we trust our FH's but when situations get out of control, their is alcohol, and pressure of a few crazy people we can all have doubt
that being said - your story has scared the hell out of me because my FH's bachelor party is this weekend in AC and his only other friend that is married had a bachelor party (in AC) that was beyond out of control.... stippers/hookers in the room doing a live sex show- allowing guys to use the toys on them... (one boy even engaged in several activities with the hooker- uckily he was not in a relationship)
it is the same group of guys and i cannot stop crying because i have never been okay with the whole stripper thing and am not sure how i am going to get through this weekend- and i won't have anyone to talk to because no one on my side (brother or brother in law) can make it
Sorry chica, my intentions weren't to scare anyone here. I do trust my FH but like you say, when there alcohol and pressure, many things can happen and control can be lost. I had my party and I didn't want a stripper. The girls and I went out for dinner and later to a club. We had the best time ever and nobody didn't do anything they weren't suppose to. Why can't men just do the same. Go to a strip club if thats what you need to do but why hire these HO's. If they want a show then just let us know and we'll put one for you. There is no moral out there anymore and I will tell you that this is the last b-party he goes to. I will for sure put something in his drink and he can have a show in the bathroom.
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So glad it turned out well!!!! Now back to wedding planning!!!!!
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I am so glad it all worked out for you. So happy for you
I came home and had a talk with FH and hes like he has no control over what they do for him....thinking of calling his boys!!!
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I am glad this all worked out
However....while I know the planner is an idiot, why was he allowed to plan this in the first place?
The rest of the guys seem to be ok
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I'm gonna kill FH and he hasn't even gone on his bachelor party yet!!!!
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Glad Herman was there! or else i was going to find out where these strippers came from..and put on a better show... (an a** whippin' show!!) lol...glad ur happy and everything worked out...ps i looked at ur pics and u are beautiful! and any guy who would even THINK about THINKING about touching another girl while getting ready to marry you would be a jerk!..so FH is a smart man and he did the right thing! woo hoo!!!!!!!
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I am right there with you. I hate strippers more than anything in the world, and FH hates them as well (so he says lol) but his gm and friends are obsessed and I'm so afraid for his bach party!!! I would ask him calmly for what happend, and even though he may not tell you everything, being honest and keeping communication is important!
but I am just like you!
ImgonnabeMrsC
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just read the update! wooooooooo!!!!!!
evita2781
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ahh what a great update! i'm so happy for you!
Mel-N-Az 2011
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So glad everything worked out! I was so nervous for you...
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Posted by xbutrflykissesx
Glad Herman was there! or else i was going to find out where these strippers came from..and put on a better show... (an a** whippin' show!!) lol...glad ur happy and everything worked out...ps i looked at ur pics and u are beautiful! and any guy who would even THINK about THINKING about touching another girl while getting ready to marry you would be a jerk!..so FH is a smart man and he did the right thing! woo hoo!!!!!!!
Thank you love. I'm so glad all this is over. But right after the wedding I do plan to put some people on blast. Can't stand his cousin and now even my FSIL is pissin me off. Wedding can bring so much drama.
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So happy u are happy now!!!!!!!!!!!!
madamsireeda213
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what a relief!!! I'm glad everything worked out for the best and thank goodness Herman was there! Thats oen of the reason we should always have a guy best friend in our back pocket
