My turn to Vent (Updated)

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Posted by AugustFeather

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Posted by GlitterBox24

Fh and i are actually have 2 destination bach parties and 2 weeks before are doing a huge joint one at a strip club (im in the not against strip clubs) but anyway, if it makes you feel any better, ive help organized those types of bach parties for my cousins, and those girls do NOT go alone. For secutiries reasons they go witha bouncer, so that things do not get out of line.. Im not sure where these girls are from, but all the ones we have hired always come with a bouncer, and the same rules that apply at the strip club also apply at these private parties.

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This is def. not true in all cases!

I know one story in particular where these 'private house call strippers' did have sexual contact with some of the guys at a Bachelor Party. The groom did not do anything, but I know that some of the other (single) guys did (oral etc..).. Also another story where the guys did do stuff to the girls.. but had rubber gloves on.. Sorry but gloves/condoms.. same thing.. These house call strippers def do way more than girls at actual strip clubs.

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This is plain nauseating to me...
Oh God! What has the world come to?
Doing NASTY/DISGUSTED things to another Man/Woman right before UR wedding?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow....

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Posted by VCanizalez

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Posted by AugustFeather

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Posted by GlitterBox24

Fh and i are actually have 2 destination bach parties and 2 weeks before are doing a huge joint one at a strip club (im in the not against strip clubs) but anyway, if it makes you feel any better, ive help organized those types of bach parties for my cousins, and those girls do NOT go alone. For secutiries reasons they go witha bouncer, so that things do not get out of line.. Im not sure where these girls are from, but all the ones we have hired always come with a bouncer, and the same rules that apply at the strip club also apply at these private parties.

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This is def. not true in all cases!

I know one story in particular where these 'private house call strippers' did have sexual contact with some of the guys at a Bachelor Party. The groom did not do anything, but I know that some of the other (single) guys did (oral etc..).. Also another story where the guys did do stuff to the girls.. but had rubber gloves on.. Sorry but gloves/condoms.. same thing.. These house call strippers def do way more than girls at actual strip clubs.

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This is plain nauseating to me...
Oh God! What has the world come to?
Doing NASTY/DISGUSTED things to another Man/Woman right before UR wedding?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow....

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yea its crazy.,.. I had to update that post because in both of those stories, nether of the grooms participated in any sexual way...

aww sue i'm so sorry that you have to deal with this right now. fh actually did this for a bach party that he went to last year and i thought they were going to a strip club until he told me that they had the girls come over to the hotel and they did exactly what you wrote - i said nasty. he said it was entertainment and he wouldn't touch them. at this point, we just have to believe that our FH's are being honest. i dont like this at all but i can't hold FH back or actually, i can't keep his idiot friends from doing this. they're pigs, that's what they want...fine. all i know is that no lines better be crossed, otherwise there'll be consequences. i'm so sorry and i hope yuou're feeling better

OMG

That is just plain ol' nasty. W*T*F is wrong with men these days??

FH had told me about a Bachelor party he went to years ago that had those kind of women at a hotel room. I was so disgusted by his story, especially since most the men at that party were already married

This is exactly why FH and I already had this discussion (read: argument) about this. Strip club is fine, but lap dance (even if it’s paid for or free) is ABSOLUTELY out of the question….along with strippers/borderline prostitutes in a hotel room.

I am going to have a chat with the groomsmen beforehand, and they will know that if there’s any funny business, they will have to answer to ME.

I am sorry you are going through this so close to the wedding.

OMG I am so late with my response. This is one part of the wedding planning I DO NOT look fwd to. I personally don't see the point of getting strippers a few weeks before your wedding day. I personally feel like you had your fun and don't need a half naked chick doing things for you before you go and get married. With that being said, I know it is a almost a given that more times than none, this does happen at B-Parties, BUT there are boundaries. I don't agree with strippers coming over the house and doing whatever. I feel like at a strip club there are more boundaries and allows me to sleep a little better at night. I too would be disgusted and upset if I found this out. I know that guys have their code and it's going to be hard to find out what really happened. When I fist got engaged, FH best man told me he is going to throw him a crazy bachelor party with strippers who do anything. Needless to say I am disgusted by that and if that does happen, I will be PISSED!! I trust FH, but I don't trust drinking, partying and his boys combined together. I hope you do feel better and find out what happened. It sux having a cloud over you so close to the big date.

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Posted by CroatianBride

OMG

That is just plain ol' nasty. W*T*F is wrong with men these days??

FH had told me about a Bachelor party he went to years ago that had those kind of women at a hotel room. I was so disgusted by his story, especially since most the men at that party were already married

This is exactly why FH and I already had this discussion (read: argument) about this. Strip club is fine, but lap dance (even if it’s paid for or free) is ABSOLUTELY out of the question….along with strippers/borderline prostitutes in a hotel room.

I am going to have a chat with the groomsmen beforehand, and they will know that if there’s any funny business, they will have to answer to ME.

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ITA

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Posted by AugustFeather

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Posted by GlitterBox24

Fh and i are actually have 2 destination bach parties and 2 weeks before are doing a huge joint one at a strip club (im in the not against strip clubs) but anyway, if it makes you feel any better, ive help organized those types of bach parties for my cousins, and those girls do NOT go alone. For secutiries reasons they go witha bouncer, so that things do not get out of line.. Im not sure where these girls are from, but all the ones we have hired always come with a bouncer, and the same rules that apply at the strip club also apply at these private parties.

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This is def. not true in all cases!

I know one story in particular where these 'private house call strippers' did have sexual contact with some of the guys at a Bachelor Party. The groom did not do anything, but I know that some of the other (single) guys did (oral etc..).. Also another story where the guys did do stuff to the girls.. but had rubber gloves on.. Sorry but gloves/condoms.. same thing.. These house call strippers def do way more than girls at actual strip clubs.
On the upside both stories I heard the only guys who 'did' anything were single and neither groom participated..

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I gotta agree....I heard of stories where 'house call' strippers performed Oral Sex on ALL the people involved. I am sorry but a train with ur boys is pure nastiness.!

I'm so sorry you have to go through this right now, esp at such a happy time in your life

This is the exact reason why fh and I agreed on no strippers. Bc someone always hears things through the grapevine and it causes trouble. FH could have been innocent for all you know, but its so natural to have these worries and fears. I would feel the same way.

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Posted by justnicethings

I'm gonna kill FH and he hasn't even gone on his bachelor party yet!!!!

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damn, Great minds think alike bc i was thinkin this too lol.....

Update #2
I needed to take this a step further because not knowing was just killing me. I called my best friend’s husband and asked him if there was any reasons why I shouldn’t marry my FH. I should first start by saying that I have known this guy for almost 11 years. He has been through my ups and downs and has supported me in everything. Also by doing this I didn’t want to put him on the spot or be the guy who told it all. Also note that this guy was only invited because he is part of my bridal party and I had to insist to my bestman that he had to be invited or there was no B-party.
So I asked him (Herman), if my reaction were wrong and to please not go into details just wanted to know if he was worthly to be called my husband. He didn’t have a knot on his tongue, he told me all that went on. Apparently the night didn’t go as planned. The girls were suppose to arrive the house at about 10pm because they had another outting right after. But they didn’t. After waiting for 2 hours the guys were ready to leave and try to make the best out of the rest of the night. My bestman had an argument with my FH cousin because they have had enough of waiting and just wanted to leave. Poor FH was falling alseep . So when they were ready to leave the HO’s arrived. They arrived solo, no escort. They went back inside the house and the show started. The desperate cousin told the crew that everything went and what ever happened there was to stay there. My friend has a smart mouth and said, “What is this, Vegas?”. From the very beginning these two did not get along. The show continued and Herman went up to Giovanni and asked him if he wanted Hennessy and he said no. Herman told him to lighten up and have a drink but FH replied back and said that he would take a beer and didn’t want to over do it because he knew who is cousins were and those girls were worth nothing especially not to lose a relationship over it. When Herman heard this he felt bad because he thought that my FH was just saything that so he could report back to me since he knows how close we are. Like my FH, Herman did also say that did put on a good show certainly nothing he has ever experienced (and this is coming from a guy who lives in strip clubs). He didn’t go into anymore details but did tell me that I had nothing to worry about. After that they left to a club.
I again spoke to my FH and asked him a few questions just to see if everything matched and it did. He continue to say that he was prepared for what his cousin had in stored for him. This guys is almost 40 or more and has nothing . No girls wants to be with him because he’s an addict. So any chance he gets to destroy someone, he will go for it. My FH knew better and he also knew that what he had at home was priceless and no matter what temptations were going to be put on him, he knew that he could just walk away.
So I asked myself, would it have been different if Herman wasn’t there? I don’t know but I’m happy he was.
So this story comes to an end with a happy ever ending.
Once again, I want to thank you all. You ladies have been so supported during these two difficult days. I never thought I would post about a vent like this and so close to the wedding but it can happen to anyone.

This forum ROCKS!!!

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Posted by sujeire

Update #2
I needed to take this a step further because not knowing was just killing me. I called my best friend’s husband and asked him if there was any reasons why I shouldn’t marry my FH. I should first start by saying that I have known this guy for almost 11 years. He has been through my ups and downs and has supported me in everything. Also by doing this I didn’t want to put him on the spot or be the guy who told it all. Also note that this guy was only invited because he is part of my bridal party and I had to insist to my bestman that he had to be invited or there was no B-party.
So I asked him (Herman), if my reaction were wrong and to please not go into details just wanted to know if he was worthly to be called my husband. He didn’t have a knot on his tongue, he told me all that went on. Apparently the night didn’t go as planned. The girls were suppose to arrive the house at about 10pm because they had another outting right after. But they didn’t. After waiting for 2 hours the guys were ready to leave and try to make the best out of the rest of the night. My bestman had an argument with my FH cousin because they have had enough of waiting and just wanted to leave. Poor FH was falling alseep . So when they were ready to leave the HO’s arrived. They arrived solo, no escort. They went back inside the house and the show started. The desperate cousin told the crew that everything went and what ever happened there was to stay there. My friend has a smart mouth and said, “What is this, Vegas?”. From the very beginning these two did not get along. The show continued and Herman went up to Giovanni and asked him if he wanted Hennessy and he said no. Herman told him to lighten up and have a drink but FH replied back and said that he would take a beer and didn’t want to over do it because he knew who is cousins were and those girls were worth nothing especially not to lose a relationship over it. When Herman heard this he felt bad because he thought that my FH was just saything that so he could report back to me since he knows how close we are. Like my FH, Herman did also say that did put on a good show certainly nothing he has ever experienced (and this is coming from a guy who lives in strip clubs). He didn’t go into anymore details but did tell me that I had nothing to worry about. After that they left to a club.
I again spoke to my FH and asked him a few questions just to see if everything matched and it did. He continue to say that he was prepared for what his cousin had in stored for him. This guys is almost 40 or more and has nothing . No girls wants to be with him because he’s an addict. So any chance he gets to destroy someone, he will go for it. My FH knew better and he also knew that what he had at home was priceless and no matter what temptations were going to be put on him, he knew that he could just walk away.
So I asked myself, would it have been different if Herman wasn’t there? I don’t know but I’m happy he was.
So this story comes to an end with a happy ever ending.
Once again, I want to thank you all. You ladies have been so supported during these two difficult days. I never thought I would post about a vent like this and so close to the wedding but it can happen to anyone.

This forum ROCKS!!!

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Soooooo glad everything worked out!!!!

Sue, I am beyond happy for your update and that things worked out okay.

YAY for the update!!! GO herman

I'm happy that everything worked out.

I am really happy that you were able to get peace of mind!!!!! Wishing you all the best!!

I would definitely talk to him. Tell him how you are feeling and that you need to feel secure in your relationship. Anything could have happened but that doesn't necessarily mean that it was him.
I was dating someone who went to his best friends BP. After the strip club (which I have no problem with) my ex called for a ride home. I ended up driving my ex, the groom and two other guys back to my exes apartment. Needless to say, the groom had someone back to apartment and some stuff happened that definitely should not have. I didn't tell the bride because she hated me anyway and I didn't want to give her another reason to (she wouldn't have believed me anyway). I trust my FH completely and I also trust his best man who will be planning the BP but I still want to know the details.

i am so glad to hear that you had someone to talk to that could verify that your FH was acting appropriately---- we all can say we trust our FH's but when situations get out of control, their is alcohol, and pressure of a few crazy people we can all have doubt

that being said - your story has scared the hell out of me because my FH's bachelor party is this weekend in AC and his only other friend that is married had a bachelor party (in AC) that was beyond out of control.... stippers/hookers in the room doing a live sex show- allowing guys to use the toys on them... (one boy even engaged in several activities with the hooker- uckily he was not in a relationship)

it is the same group of guys and i cannot stop crying because i have never been okay with the whole stripper thing and am not sure how i am going to get through this weekend- and i won't have anyone to talk to because no one on my side (brother or brother in law) can make it