One of my friends who is a BM, is a very outrageous stylish person. She dresses in a style all her own.
Well yesterday we ran into someone we havnt seen in years, and tell her im getting married in june, yada yada and that my friend is in the wedding party.
My friend immediately proceeds to say how hard it is going to be for her, but she is going to try to do it. because its hard for her to be in the same dress as everyone else (meanwhile she has been a BM 2 times before)
Now this girl is going through alot, and i dont want to hurt her feelings, she always thinks everyone is out to get her, but im offended that she said this. I dont know what to do, this is the 2nd time that she has made the 'its going to be so hard for me' comment.
I feel like if i talk to her about it, it might get blown out of proportion and she will think im being a drama queen.
But i duno if i can hold it in any longer
Thanks for any advice
AS
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Wait she doesnt want to be in the same dress as your other BM's??? If she is not the BM, tooo bad right??? You dont want anyone to cause stress on your day, are you thinking of letting her go???
TGs Lady 22908
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warning...blunt opinion ahead, proceed with caution....
She is being silly and difficult and you are definetly not being a drama queen. I consider myself to have my own style and what not and if my friend asked me to be in her wedding and I didn't even have to pay for the dress you can bet your asss that i wouldn't have a problem with it. On second thought, even if i DID have to pay for it (the dress), i STILL wouldn't have a problem. You are asking her to be in your wedding, doesn't she realize that you are asking her to be a part of a day you will remember forever? IMO, Friendships are more important then keeping a style. She just really is being unreasonable.
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I hesitated to reply to this for obvious reasons, and promised I won't say, ' I told you so', but really feel I need to add something since you are asking for advice you probably won't take anyway. You know how she is, knew what to expect and STILL asked her. You know the monster she is and that she will NEVER change. Either accept that SHE will ruin your wedding vision because she's selfish OR suck it up, get a new friend and tell her she's out!
snwb08
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Posted by bemyyoko
honestly, i'd tell her to suck it up or to step down. she's not supposed to stand out that day, you are. I don't think explaining this to her makes you a drama queen at all.
ditto. once again, i'm so glad i'm not having BMs.
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i wouldnt make a big deal about it but next time she passes a comment make a comment back to her and let her know that is makes you feel bad and no one else is complaining about it
that is not fair to you.
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boo fricken hoo...what a struggle to have to wear the same dress as other bridesmaids.
I would have been annoyed if one of my bm's said that. I would discuss it with her and let her know that badmouthing being a bm right in front of you was a little hurtful. It's supposed to be an honor to be in someone's bp, not an irritation.
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I think it is somthing that needs to be discussed sooner than later. I would tell her that all the girls WILL be in the same dress.. If she does not wnat to do it then she can be just a GUEST at yyour wedding.
